Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I sit down with sex educator Danielle Bezalel to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it’s time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things like body odor, performance anxiety, bei...

Have you ever dated someone where things are moving so slowly that it feels like you're going backward? This episode breaks down the differences between a slow burn and a dead end so you know when to keep going and when to walk away. I also share advice on when to cut things off if things are going well but they're not committing and how to communicate your intentions and timeline. SLOW BURN WORKS...

I'm answering questions about my journey dating 64 people in 10 months! Questions like, how did you manage dating multiple people, how did you navigate sex while dating and how did you choose who to keep seeing and who to stop seeing? I also answer questions about staying safe while dating, what I wore on dates and how I found the time to date with a busy schedule. This episode is PACKED with advi...

In this episode, I'm sharing 15 quick lessons I learned during my intense dating journey where I went out with 64 people in 10 months. I'm sharing my insight on texting in early dating, navigating when to have sex with someone for the first time, what's most important to pay attention to when getting to know someone and how to stay grounded. Part 2 comes out on Tuesday! Episode 99: https://open.sp...

In this episode, Julie and Yue from Dateable are back for round 2! We get into their new book, How To Be Dateable, which is out now everywhere and so much more. Listen to learn about what vulnerability is and isn't, how to tell if you've been playing relationship chicken this whole time and tips for being more authentic on dates. We also talk about Julie's big news at the end (other than the book...

How much do you really need in common with the person you're dating for it to work? In this episode, you'll learn what matters more than having shared interests and how to navigate relationships when your hobbies clash or don't really overlap. I also talk about how my relationship works with my husband, despite us not being into the same stuff! Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://f...

What do you do if you get anxious on dates? My guest, Jeff Guenther, LPC (@TherapyJeff), shares many practical tips for managing anxiety on dates and enjoying the process more! We talk about different ways anxiety shows up, specifically how to ask for feedback from your dates and how to cope when you feel anxious on dates. Jeff also shares his advice for folks in new relationships, including eight...

What should you be looking for when you're getting to know people you're dating? In this episode, I share the top 10 qualities to look for in a long-term romantic partner - no matter your gender, age, or who you're dating. You'll also learn a few different ways for how to tell if your date has these qualities, and you can think about whether or not YOU embody these qualities as well. Date Ideas Da...

In this episode, I'm answering YOUR dating dilemmas! Hear three real issues from daters just like you. The first question is about what to do after having sex on date two... and they've fallen off the face of the earth after being so charming (ugh). The second one is about moving on after an amazing experience with a great guy who just didn't have time for commitment. And the last one is from a wo...

Whether you're dating or have a partner, we can't overlook the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one with YOU. In this episode, you'll learn how to practice self-acceptance and compassion, why I don't believe in "just loving yourself," and how this affects your dating life. You'll also get tons of practical tips for beating negative self-talk, developing your relationship with your...

Why do we feel so anxious when waiting for a text from someone we just started dating? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down exactly why texting in early dating causes so much anxiety and how to address it so it doesn't consume your body and mind. Sabrina and I get into the role texting plays in dating and the journey she had with her boyfriend who's absolutely NOT into texting at all. We als...

If you want to prioritize IRL connections, this episode is for you. I'm deep-diving into exactly where real people who listen to this podcast are meeting other single people to connect with and date! This episode will leave you feeling inspired to leave your house one way or another, whether that involves signing up for salsa classes or taking yourself out on a date once a week. I also get into ho...

Before you download a dating app for the first time or maybe 100th time, listen to this solo episode. I'm sharing three essential tips for making your profile work for you, keeping your mindset in check and messaging so you actually get off the apps and onto more dates! Want to skip all the trial and error on dating apps? Check out my NEW course on mastering dating apps called Swipe Match Date! Us...

Get out your tarot cards, crystal balls, and astrology charts! We're making predictions for what dating in 2025 will be like - share yours in the comments if you're listening on Spotify. In this episode, you'll hear dating predictions from friends of the podcast - all their IG accounts are linked below. I loved this collection of predictions. Everyone thinks dating is moving away from the screen a...

I'm joined by guest Sam Whitney, author of How To Date Authentically, to discuss what it means to date to be happy vs just trying to be right. Sam shares practical tips on dating with authenticity, improving your listening skills and other tools you need to develop to make real connections in your dating journey. I love Sam's unique perspective on the dating process and I know you will too! Get 15...

"If he wanted to he would" and "It will happen when you least expect it" are just two examples of the dating advice we're so done with. In this episode, I'm sharing what dating advice floating around the internet is unhelpful and why, and what to focus on instead that will actually get you closer to your goals of getting into a secure, healthy long term relationship. The advice that works is based...

Ever wonder what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in your 40's when you're already a parent and going through a divorce? My mom, Daniella Landau, shares her dating intentionally story after getting separated and divorced. She describes her approach to dating apps, how she met her husband on OkCupid, and more. Daniella also shares her experience with breaking up and getting back toge...

At the end of every guest episode, I ask, what do you want to see more of in dating culture? Past guests have shared a variety of interesting answers, from more empathy to seeing more enthusiasm for butt stuff. Today, I'm answering the question myself! I want to see more women making the first move, more compassion for all daters (dating is hard for everyone!), and more self-compassion, among othe...

In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common early dating mistakes and what you can do to avoid them. Whether you're new to dating or you've been at it for awhile, this episode will help ensure you're not accidentally holding yourself back, self-sabotaging or sending the wrong message to potential partners. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ -- Episodes m...

In this episode, I'm answering three dating questions from listeners dealing with confusing behavior, imbalances in a relationship, and uncertainty about moving forward in a new situation. I love answering your questions! We had five dates. Then he left for a work trip. I haven't heard from him. What to do? I'm the only one who brings up deep conversations in my relationship. Can I ask him to star...

How do you know if it's your gut telling you to do something or if it's just anxiety? In this episode, guest Amanda White and I get into a variety of topics like navigating dating advice on social media, getting out of the comparison trap, doing less in our love lives and more. Amanda shares so many practical tips for embracing ambiguity, sitting in the discomfort of indecision and how to lean int...

Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it c...

If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients...

In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions: I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do? How can I build more chemistry on first dates? I've been da...

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibil...