Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I'm diving into five dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link . Tune in to hear my advice on these dating and relationship issues: I got my dream job in another country. How should I approach dating? How do I bounce back from dating burnout when nothing seems to be working? Why do so many fi...

In this episode, we're getting into what standards in dating are (and what they're not) and how to tell if your standards are too high or too low. I get into the dangers of each and how to adjust your standards no matter which category you fall into. Are your standards holding you back? Hint: Too-high standards are a form of self-sabotage, and too-low standards are a form of self-abandonment. Exam...

In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attac...

In this episode, I'm deep-diving into ten relationship green flags that aren't talked about enough, how to spot them, and their red flag counterparts. You deserve a partner who has the basic green flags we always talk about like consistency, respect, listening, effort etc. But today, we're going deeper into what it looks like to have a truly supportive partner and the real signs that your partner...

In this episode, Ali Jackson of Finding Mr. Height (one of my favorite dating podcasts) is back on the pod to talk about how she met her current boyfriend just days after we recorded our first episode together in 2024. Ali gets into meeting her boyfriend in person, managing anxiety while getting into a new relationship, how she knew she wanted to commit and how she had the "define the relationship...

In this episode, you'll learn some of the main reasons why you might keep falling for people who aren't the right match for you, like feeling drawn to what's familiar or being stuck in the anxious/avoidant cycle. Awareness of your patterns is the first step to breaking out of them! This episode also breaks down steps to catching yourself before you fall for the wrong person (again) and start shift...

In this episode, my guest, Michelle Lentz, breaks down the key attributes to look for in a long-term partner to have a successful relationship (and marriage, if that's what you're looking for). Michelle's marriage is going on 38 years! She has an Instagram account and book ( Hey Beginner Wife ) dedicated to the ins and outs of not just making a marriage last but enjoying your connection for the lo...

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right in your dating life, but feel like nothing is working, this episode is for you. First, I get into a handful of mindset shifts to help you feel less stuck and down about where you are in your dating life today, and then I get into different approaches you can take to get unstuck. You'll walk away from this episode with a new perspective on timi...

In this episode, I'm diving into four dating dilemmas from listeners! If you want to submit a longer question for me to answer on the podcast or YouTube, here's the link . Here are the questions I get into on this episode: "He ghosted me but watches my stories daily - can I salvage this?" "I don't mind pursuing men, but they don't take me seriously. What am I doing wrong?" "I'm a liberal woman, an...

Get 90+ questions to ask in early dating Do you ever struggle with what to talk about on a date? Or maybe you want to get better at building real connections? In this episode, I’m sharing tons of inspiration for great questions to ask in early dating, the worst ones to avoid, and navigating tricky conversations without derailing the date. We’ll also dive into the number one topic that so many date...

My brother Alex Koren is back on the podcast to share dating advice for folks looking for a long term relationship! Alex is a 30-year-old guy from NYC with his take on dating, relationships, and figuring out who’s the one. In this episode, we break down how to separate needs vs. wants, what past relationships can teach you, and how to tell if someone is just in it for the chase or actually ready f...

This episode originally aired in October 2022! Situationships are messy, undefined, and often leave you feeling stuck. In this episode, I break down what a situationship really is, how to tell if you're in one, and why they rarely lead to the kind of relationship you want. I’ll share how to get out of a situationship, whether you're the one who wants more or the one who can’t commit, plus tips on...

This week, I’m joined by Natalie Kennedy, founder of Anxious Love Coach, to talk about her experience with relationship anxiety and Relationship OCD (ROCD). We get into what it looked like in her relationship, the steps she took to work through it, and what “working on yourself” actually means, both in and out of a relationship. We also dive into obsessive thoughts in early dating and relationship...

In this episode, I'm breaking down what emotional availability is, why it's important, how it relates to attachment style and signs your date isn't emotionally available. I share tips on how to navigate this and when it's a dealbreaker vs not. At the end, I get into signs you might be the emotionally unavailable one and steps to take toward becoming more emotionally available. Signs someone is emo...

In this episode, Casey Tanner , founder of Queer Sex Therapy and The Expansive Group , shares their journey, from navigating insecurities as someone newly exploring queer dating to meeting their current partner. We dive into dating IRL as a queer person, long-distance relationships, and what to do if you're intimidated by dating women. Casey also breaks down common queer sex myths, explores how ge...

In this episode, I'm deep-diving into why knowing your needs in a relationship is important, how I discovered mine and tips for discussing your relationship needs with a partner. Discovering my non-negotiables in a relationship is what kicked off my dating journey and I'm breaking down how you can use them to guide you in your dating journey. You'll learn what needs are, what they're not and what...

Today's episode features three new dating dilemmas for you, focusing on issues daters face in new relationships. The first is from a woman who's not sure she can fall in love with her guy and isn't sure what to do. Our second dilemma focuses on the question: how much fighting is normal? And the last one is from a woman in a loving, secure relationship that she feels lacks excitement. Listen for my...

If showing interest in the person you're dating is scary, this episode will help! Showing interest when you're interested is key in developing a secure, healthy relationship in the early dating stage - even when things feel uncertain. I'm breaking down the appropriate, not-desperate ways to show someone you're into them before you're committed so they know exactly where you stand. On the flipside,...

In this episode, I sit down with sex educator Danielle Bezalel to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it’s time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things like body odor, performance anxiety, bei...

Have you ever dated someone where things are moving so slowly that it feels like you're going backward? This episode breaks down the differences between a slow burn and a dead end so you know when to keep going and when to walk away. I also share advice on when to cut things off if things are going well but they're not committing and how to communicate your intentions and timeline. SLOW BURN WORKS...

I'm answering questions about my journey dating 64 people in 10 months! Questions like, how did you manage dating multiple people, how did you navigate sex while dating and how did you choose who to keep seeing and who to stop seeing? I also answer questions about staying safe while dating, what I wore on dates and how I found the time to date with a busy schedule. This episode is PACKED with advi...

In this episode, I'm sharing 15 quick lessons I learned during my intense dating journey where I went out with 64 people in 10 months. I'm sharing my insight on texting in early dating, navigating when to have sex with someone for the first time, what's most important to pay attention to when getting to know someone and how to stay grounded. Part 2 comes out on Tuesday! Episode 99: https://open.sp...

In this episode, Julie and Yue from Dateable are back for round 2! We get into their new book, How To Be Dateable, which is out now everywhere and so much more. Listen to learn about what vulnerability is and isn't, how to tell if you've been playing relationship chicken this whole time and tips for being more authentic on dates. We also talk about Julie's big news at the end (other than the book...

How much do you really need in common with the person you're dating for it to work? In this episode, you'll learn what matters more than having shared interests and how to navigate relationships when your hobbies clash or don't really overlap. I also talk about how my relationship works with my husband, despite us not being into the same stuff! Ask a question for me to answer on the pod: https://f...

What do you do if you get anxious on dates? My guest, Jeff Guenther, LPC (@TherapyJeff), shares many practical tips for managing anxiety on dates and enjoying the process more! We talk about different ways anxiety shows up, specifically how to ask for feedback from your dates and how to cope when you feel anxious on dates. Jeff also shares his advice for folks in new relationships, including eight...