Dating Intentionally

Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are...

Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober,...

We're switching it up this week with some Q&A! I answered 10 questions you submitted on Instagram. Some are dating questions I've never really touched on before; some are personal questions about things I rarely get to talk about publicly. Questions I answer in this episode: How do you genuinely keep hope of finding your person when dating seems hard? How to do long distance in the early days?...

Break ups suck. Luckily, we have experts like Amy Chan, who wrote Break Up Bootcamp, to help us through them. In this episode, Amy and I discuss where to start with healing after a break up, the importance of anger in the process of moving on, why it hurts more when a short relationship ends and how to know when a relationship is worth trying to save vs when to let go. We also talked about being f...

Worried you're heading into situationship territory? This episode breaks down what a situationship is, what it isn't and why they're not ideal. I get into 10 different signs you're heading into a situationship and how to steer clear of them altogether. This episode is your guide for what to do and NOT do when you feel like the person you're dating is not on the same page but wants to keep dating a...

In this episode, I talk to dating coach and former psychologist Jackie Glaser about how our inner world and the stories we tell ourselves dictate so much of how our lives unfold - especially when it comes to dating. We get into how to feel our self-worth, how to date when you feel like no one has ever been interested in you, showing up authentically on dates and so much more. This was such a power...

How do you know you're ready to date? How do you start dating if you've never done it before? This episode is the pep talk you need to get out there (or back out there) with a healthy mindset and knowing what to expect. I talk about how to know you're ready to date vs how to know you're ready for a relationship, my best advice for having the right mindset going into dating after a long break and p...

If you're looking to feel more comfortable and confident during sex, this episode is for you. I talk to Claire Perelman, a certified sex therapist and one of my favorite creators on social media, about navigating sex with a new partner, approaching sexual situations when you're newly out as queer, and creating safety while enjoying physical intimacy. We also talk about her coming out story, how to...

Rejection will happen in your dating life, so you better be prepared! These ten reminders will help you stay grounded and positive when rejection happens, and I hope by listening to this, you'll be able to shake it off faster. Which reminder did you need to hear the most? DM me on IG and let me know! @dating.intentionally. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Fo...

Are you curious about manifestation? Do you want to learn how to have more of an abundance mentality? In this episode, I talk to business coach Tiffany Cheung about how to tap into your own magnetism, embrace an abundance mentality, and how she approaches dating as a single parent to a 9 y/o. Tiffany shares her story about overcoming financial hardship, being on her own with a child as a teen mom,...

I've seen it repeatedly in my dating life and heard stories about people withdrawing after sex from the Dating Intentionally community. For some reason, after you have sex with someone you're newly dating, they tend to pull away. Why does this happen? This episode lays out the five most common reasons this happens and what you can do it about it in the future when/if this happens to you again. Sli...

Have you tried tracking your dates? This episode features Jillian Romero Chaves, the founder of Clara For Daters (Not A Dating App), which lets daters track their dates and stay accountable. Jillian talks about how taking notes on her dates using Clara helped her (and other users) gain clarity in the process and make more informed decisions. Get Clara for Daters: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clar...

Dating outside your type seems to work for many people, but how do you do it? And what if it leads to dates where there's no attraction? This episode walks you through all my tips and tricks for dating outside your type and how to navigate a lack of attraction when it happens. I also share my experience, my type, and how my fiance doesn't fit into it at all. Thank you to everyone who shared what t...

"If he wanted to he would" is one of the worst dating rules and on this episode Ali Jackson, the host of Finding Mr. Height, shares why. We also get into what happened when I hired Ali as a dating coach 2 years ago, dating through grief, meeting dates IRL, how to stop minimizing parts of yourself in dating, Ali's personal dating "rules" and so much more. Ali is a wealth of knowledge and you're goi...

While we spend so much time looking out for red flags in early dating, we have to pay attention to green flags too! This episode features my top 10 green flags to look out for in dating, as well as more green flags submitted to the pod from the Dating Intentionally community on IG. As you listen to these green flags, I want you to reflect on whether or not YOU embody them as well. You know what th...

When do you talk about income? How do you approach dating if you're in debt? Is it a red flag if they bring up crypto? These are just a few topics money coach Delyanna Barros and I discuss in this episode. You'll learn how and when to bring up essential topics around finances in early dating, what red and green flags to look for and how to talk about money in a playful way. Follow Delyanne: https:...

This episode breaks down exactly how to approach hard conversations with someone you're romantically involved with so you never have to say the dreaded words "we need to talk." Listen to the full episodes for my scripts, tips, and mistakes to avoid when starting serious conversations, as well as my experiences doing this with an avoidant and securely attached partners. This episode will help you w...

Would you still want to date someone after going through their phone or talking to their mom before going out with them? In this episode, we hear from Alli Goldberg, the mastermind and host of the incredible live comedy show Love Isn't Blind. We discuss how she came up with the concept of a dating show where men can't speak, why she's over dating apps, and what she's learned about how men and wome...

Have you ever gotten the ick in dating? In this episode, you'll learn what the ick is, the three categories of icks, and how to tell if your icks are dealbreakers. I also talk about why you get the ick later on in a relationship sometimes and how I addressed mine in my current relationship. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tikto...

Do you feel like your expectations are too high? Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Listen in on this amazing conversation with Damona Hoffman, who's been a dating coach for over 15 years. We talk about her new book, "F The Fairy Tale" and the four dating myths, specifically the myth about dating rules. I love what Damona has to say about embracing the messiness in dating, how expectations set us...

Have you ever been ghosted? Afraid of getting ghosted in the future? This episode has you covered with exactly what to do (and not do) when you inevitably get ghosted, as well as my thoughts on why people do it in the first place. If you tend to ghost people, this episode will walk you through how to stop doing that and start sending anti-ghost texts instead. My anti-ghost texts: https://www.insta...

Dating after a divorce or a big breakup can feel daunting, confusing, and overwhelming. In today's episode, life and dating coach Sade Curry discusses how to navigate dating after divorce, discover your needs in a partner, and enjoy the process of getting to know new people. Sade also discusses how she met her husband on Bumble after her divorce. Follow Sade Curry: https://www.instagram.com/sadecu...

What does it mean to settle? Is accepting someone as they are the same thing as settling? This episode breaks down the difference between the two in dating and relationships, and why practicing acceptance is so important. I also get to a few questions about this topic in the episode that you asked me on Instagram! Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on T...

5 juicy dating questions we get into: Should you give someone a chance to change/prove themself? How do you know if you’re aligned after 3 months of dating? What’s the best way to communicate after a first date? What do you do if your friends don’t like your partner? If you live in Brooklyn can you date someone in NJ? Ilana also talks about how she met her fiance on Hinge! It’s a great story.  Con...

If you just started seeing them and you're having doubts, this episode might confirm (or deny) what your gut is telling you. These 10 signs don't mean a new relationship will 100% not work out, but if one or more are present, then that's going to be a potentially painful relationship for you to be in.  Don't forget to rate, subscribe and follow Dating Intentionally! Slide into my DMs on IG: https:...