Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

We talk about the need for emotional intelligence all the time, but what about relational intelligence? In many ways, it's as important or if not more! In today's episode, Julie's taking about the 5 stages of Relational Intelligence and how to put them into motion when applied to the common dating scenario of someone you're into not texting or setting up plans as quickly as you&#39...

As we approach the year of the horse – a year full of movement, momentum, courage and moving forward – we wanted to dive into how 2026 will look for each dating archetype. If you're new here, definitely take our quiz (https://howtobedateable.com/) or it's in our book 'How to Be Dateable'! We discuss the superpowers each dating archetype brings, the boost you need for 2026, and what...

We're all so rational when it comes to dating and trying to find our person. But what if we need to be a bit more delusional? And what's missing is that level of delulu that helps us envision what we truly want and actually believe it's possible. Yue shares why she's going to be embrace being delusional this year and how we all can get some of that magic back into dating, relations...

Happy 2026 all! We're back bringing that new year energy and sharing why 2026 – the year of the horse – will be better for your love life. We kick off this episode with a special segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya , about what she's doing to change dating app culture (which includes keeping people in purgatory for bad dating behaviors!). We also discus...

Dating Sunday (the first Sunday in January) is the busiest day for online dating, seeing huge spikes in activity. So how do you maximize this peak dating season that runs through February? We're back with a quickie where Julie shares seven essential tips for maximizing success on dating apps during the peak season, starting with Dating Sunday. • How To Refresh your dating profile for the new y...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. And to conclude our series: we’re celebrating the beauty of finding love later in life—and why timing that once felt “off” can end up being perfect in hindsight. We’re joined by former CNN journalist May Lee,...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. We're back for Day #7 with one of our favorite past guests, author & intuitive Nikki Novo, who breaks down how to tap into your intuition so you can build trust, courage, and clarity as you date. We g...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. Today is a reminder that GOOD GUYS EXIST! We’re joined by Vasanth, who breaks down the everyday things that help you become a better partner. He has this grounded, thoughtful way of talking about relationship...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. Here we are back with day #5: Talking about how to become naturally more magnetic, knowing that it’s not a matter of if you’ll find your person but rather when . We’re joined by Amy Spencer, author of Meeting...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. We're back to remind you of the magic that happens when two people finally meet each other at the right moment. We’re talking with Valerie, who shares the incredible story of meeting her now-husband, Rob—...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. Next up: Making dating fun again! We’re chatting with positive psychology coach and play expert Jeff Harry, who shows us what happens when you bring a fun, playful energy back into the dating process. If you’...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. On this next episode, we're chatting with our friend Sheryl about how adopting a 'just say yes' open mentality completely transformed her dating life – as she started to attract men everywhere she...

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person. On the first episode, we're chatting with Christina Bradley, the author of 'Which way to Happiness?', about how to reframe those milestone years not as deadlines, but as invitations to get clear o...

Being detached doesn't mean that you don't care or give up on dating. But it does mean that you know your worth and aren't going to settle for less than treatment because you got attached to someone or the idea of a relationship working out. We're joined with guest Sabrina Bendory for our Season 21 finale to discuss the power of detachment – through her own story and those of her c...

Hot take: The holidays are actually the best time to be single. Between holiday parties, so many events, and everyone feeling merry, there are SO many opportunities to meet new people, reconnect with friends, and just enjoy December. We're discussing some of our favorite ideas for friend group activities, dates (early on or with a partner) and masturdates (i.e dates you can do on your own). We...

We're giving you an authentic, raw and rare male perspective on Dateable—that of a single British man in his 40s, who’s done the inner work to finally become emotionally available and ready for a committed relationship… after a long chapter of global thrill-seeking, temptation, hedonism and personal escape. Join us as we talk to Phil about his journey – how he realized he was hiding from intim...

Have you ever questioned if something you were doing or saying would be perceived as odd when dating? We're breaking down two instances that have come up recently – and if the reactions warranted the efforts. We're discussing how things can be perceived especially when talking on dating apps, what to do to navigate a situation that feels a little off despite good intentions, and why some a...

Happy Thanksgiving all! First off, we're grateful for YOU but we wanted to do a little pre-thanksgiving gratitude to put us all into the thankful spirit. Because despite the many challenges in modern dating, there actually is a lot to be grateful when we think about how much we're developing into the type of partners we want to be. We discuss 7 ways you can feel gratitude even when dating...

Ever ask your partner for support and end up getting a TED Talk you never requested? We’re exploring how unsolicited advice shows up in partnerships, why it can feel so invalidating, and how well-meaning intentions can still land the wrong way. We're discussing the difference of wanting to help and overstepping, how to to not overstep boundaries (especially in a world with ChatGPT where everyo...

Is love coming later than you expected? We're back with a quickie where Julie talks about what she learned about getting married a bit "later" in life and how letting go of timelines helped find the type of relationship that actually works. This isn't to say you have to wait until 40 to find your person, but there are benefits if you can find them! Hoping this serves as a reminder...

What if the secret to a healthy, lasting relationship isn’t finding “the right person”… but designing the relationship that’s actually right for you? We’re here with Ellecia Paine who experienced first-hand what it's like to be in a relationship that looks good on the outside but feels empty on the inside, – and how she used this experience to completely redefine what she was looking for in a...

In a world where everything feels uncertain, is it actually possible to future-proof your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the biggest dating trends of 2025: the rise of future-proofing. With people becoming more intentional about who they commit to, long-term compatibility is suddenly more attractive than fleeting chemistry — and psychologists are backing it. In fact, a...

Does dating feel less like a rom-com and more like a horror show these days? We’re here with Rory who has survived it all – from the ghosters, narcissists, and all the other characters out there. But more importantly, how she became a 'final girl' who made it out alive. We're discussing some of the common 'monsters' in dating, how you break toxic dating patterns that get you in...

Most people are not truly single in modern dating. Even if they say they are. And being on this 'single scale' could be exactly what's holding you back from finding your forever person. Because many of us (or the people we're dating!) are semi in the middle - caught in situationships, FWB situations, casual hookups, or unrequited love. Or even if they aren't – you never know wh...

Have you ever been with someone that said they wanted to get married – yet couldn't seem to pull the plug when it came to commitment? What happens when they have a pattern of ending things as they are getting serious? We're talking to our guest Steve Budd about his continued search for "The One" and how his struggles with commitment have ended numerous serious relationships despite...