Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Whether you're pansexual, asexual, or just sexual, we're discussing identity as we chat with Genesis who went from identifying as a lesbian to marrying a straight man. We discuss normalizing phases in our identities, why gender roles have f*cked us with our sexuality, and how pansexuality is reshaping the next generation. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content,...

Y'all remember those infamous 6 words in Sex in the City: He's just not that into you. But now we're chatting with the man who coined the phrase comedian Greg Behrendt about his no bullsh*t advice – and how it holds up 20 years later. We discuss why people hold onto situationships that aren't serving them, how to identify if someone isn't fully in, and the differences between r...

All hail! The queen of confidence, Serena F*cking Kerrigan is here to talk about why it's so important to be unapologetically in love with yourself - especially while you're dating. We discuss tips and tactics to gain confidence, what it means to make bold moves in your love life, and how to regain confidence when the inevitable setbacks occur when dating. Follow Serena at @serenakerrigan...

What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're talking with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab about how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection. why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time. Check out Paul's wo...

What makes someone sexually desirable? We're digging into it all with certified sexologist Shan Boodram as we talk about keeping the desire alive at all stages of a relationship. We discuss what creates chemistry, how flirting is just communication with sparks, and what it means to embrace all the changes that come into your sex life. Follow Shan at @shanboody and check out Shan's work at...

Whether you have an avoidant attachment style or are just too damn busy, you'll relate hard as we chat with Greg about how his 'always on the go' lifestyle was playing into his avoidant tendencies. We discuss how to balance having a fulfilling life with making room for another person, why just moving isn't the answer to your dating problems, and what the future of more remote nomad...

Ever wonder why someone ghosted you? We're chatting with Kendra, a self-proclaimed serial ghoster about why she would ghost and how she was able to overcome it by breaking things off a respectable way. We discuss the reasons people ghost, why it's very rarely personal to the person being ghosted, and how to deal with bad dating behavior. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website fo...

What happens when you get divorced during covid, start using apps for the first time, and do anything you can NOT to get into a relationship? Find out as we chat with comedian Kane Holloway about how he failed epically at being a f*ckboy and ended up dating the woman of his dreams. We discuss why the bare minimum has become socially acceptable when dating, how to be receptive to someone's move...

Oh.my.god, we're kicking off Season 13 with a bang as we chat with Emily Nagoski Ph. D., author of Come As You Are, about how to navigate all the ups and downs of our sex lives (based on science, of course). We're diving in about what makes us hit the gas pedal or breaks when wanting sex, what to do if you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire, and how to navigate our sex...

We thought it would be the roaring 20s but we're chatting about why everyone is experiencing FODA as we reair Julie's episode w/ Vanessa Richardson from California Groundbreakers & Paul Eastwick, professor of UC Davis's attraction lab. We discuss why people are feeling burnout from online dating, how pandemic relationships have different trajectories, and how to get out there and m...

Are you seeing someone or dating? Dating or in a relationship? Why does it have to be so damn confusing? We're chatting with Sandy Weiner giving you an insider's look into modern dating and how that can help you have your last first date. We discuss the biggest struggles in dating this past year, the difference between ‘relationshipping’ and ‘relationshopping’, and how the three why's...

It's harder to move matches to IRL dates more than ever but that doesn't mean we don't have tons of insider secrets to share as we reair our episode with the founder of Coffee Meets Bagel, Dawoon Kang on their podcast 'Save the Date' and talk about navigating everything from dating apps to dating fatigue. We discuss when it's time to move the app to text message, how to tra...

Hang tight...this is a BIG one. We're talking about everything from dick pics to if size matters and re-playing Julie's interview with comedians Kane Holloway & Greg Behrendt from DTBFF. We discuss tactics that work (or don't work) for taking the elusive pic, why your worst self is never your best self, and how it's never OK to send pics of your bedroom activities to your siste...

Don't take bullshit from fuckers...especially when it comes to commitment and defining the relationship. We're diving into when (and how) to have the big DTR talk and re-playing Yue's interview with comedians Kane Holloway & Greg Behrendt from DTBFF. We discuss girls making the first move, why one may turn away love for selfish reasons, and how an engagement ring turned into an epi...

We're diving into the good, the bad, and the ugly of dating over the last year...and boy do we have a lot to say. We're chatting with dating coach Kimmy Seltzer about all the techniques we'll preserve (and ditch) in a post-pandemic world. We discuss how to successfully intertwine your virtual and real worlds, managing expectations when you do meet IRL, and how to nip that FODA in the b...

Pride is SO much more than glitter and garments, so we're so excited to chat with Ryan & Matt and many special guests (Brian, Chris, Djorde, Victoria & Amy) about the true meaning of pride and the unique identity everyone holds. We discuss a utopian world where you no longer have to come out, some of the stereotypes that are either inaccurate or outdated, and what it means to be your a...

So you're single...but are you single on purpose? And why do we stop working on ourselves once we get into a relationship? You're about to find out as we dive in with the angry therapist himself, John Kim, about how he realized post-divorce that the problem lied in his sense of self. We discuss building a fulfilling life beyond just loving someone, how to really masturdate, and why it'...

We're about to crack the code as we chat with Vanessa Van Edwards about the science of people and how to optimize your behavior, interactions, and interpersonal intelligence as it pertains to dating. We discuss why PQ is just as essential as EQ & IQ, how to decode body language and facial expressions, and ways to connect instantly with people within the first 5 minutes of meeting. Follow @...

Who doesn't love a little up the butt talk? We're chatting with the hilarious storytelling extraordinaire Rachman Blake about his experience with the sexual act of pegging and how it was everything he thought it would not be. We discuss how porn paints sexuality in a way that does not mimic reality, why cis men are so resistant to butt play, and how to ease into trying new sexual play. War...

The key to a healthy relationship is communication....but are you a healthy communicator? From the lion to the scorpion, we're diving into the 4 communication archetypes with Sandy Weiner and learning what it takes to communicate effectively in relationships. We discuss framing our needs in a non-aggressive way, why we struggle with the inevitable conflicts in a relationship, and how becoming...

While it's tempting to blame the external stuff, oftentimes it's really the internal work that's holding us back. We're chatting this week with our 'Most Dateable' winner Brian all about how he's evolved over the last year mostly due to therapy. We discuss how the importance of getting to the bottom of our deep-rooted wounds, how we can take ownership of how we show up,...

From algorithms to getting more matches, we're chatting with the founder of Coffee Meets Bagel, Dawoon Kang, about everything you need to know to set yourself up for success on dating apps. We discuss how to maximize your matches, ways you can have a less frustrating experience, and why the best thing for business is to get you off the app. Follow Dawoon @dawoonkang and @coffeemeetsbagel and c...

From date talk to the dreaded 'why are you still single' question, we're chatting with storytelling expert Corey Rosen about how to craft your story in a way that bonds you with others. We discuss how to be an engaging conversationalist on dates, techniques to help with active listening, and how to own your story to make you more DATEABLE! Learn more about Corey Rosen and get his book...

When you're getting showered with gifts, attention or affection, we want to feel like it's the real deal. But how do you know that this isn't narcissistic behavior disguised as grand gestures? Have no fear, we're breaking down what love bombing really is with Dr. Diane aka Back to Love Doc. We discuss the signs to watch out for, how attachment style plays into the equation, and how...

From video dates to finding love in the time of Corona, we're chatting with the rest of our community hosts Janis, Tony, Suanie, and Ryan about their post-pandemic plans and how they've evolved during the last year. We discuss becoming the person you want to date, bringing vulnerability into every dating interaction no matter how small or large, and putting all the self-work into finding s...