Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

So you met someone who seems fantastic and everything has been moving along well...except that you don't talk much between dates. Should you be communicating more? Or is just setting up the next date sufficient in the early stages? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how different people operate with texting/calling/video chats, etc, ways you can up your text game to build connection,...

We all have a story about ourselves that explains why our love lives aren't falling into place...but are they even true? We're chatting with Ben about how his lack of dating and sexual experience has caused him to identify as undateable – and how he's letting his past get in the way of his future. We discuss why we struggle to see ourselves the way others often do, how to let go of the...

Maybe you had a date or a series of them that were fine. You *could* see them again but would also be perfectly OK if your paths never crossed again. But all this does is make you apathetic about dating and seeing them again. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to start having great dates, why giving people more chances can work if you change your approach to each date, and ways to ma...

What happens when the sexual wellness community you're part of starts to feel like a cult? We're chatting with Rebecca, who is still coming to terms with her experience with orgasmic meditation and the organization OneTaste, which got profiled in the Netflix documentary Orgasm Inc. We discuss what attracted her to the practice in the first place, the tipping point of when this experience s...

So you’re dating someone new and when it comes time to meet the friends…there are none. Is this a major red flag or not a huge deal? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the many ways that friends play into the equation, why the relational skills you learn through friendship, and how to determine if this is a problem or not for your relationship. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up...

What happens when your "type" doesn't seem to work, yet you keep gravitating towards people with similar characteristics over and over again? We're here to learn how to reset our romantic GPS with Marc Sholes so we don't keep steering toward the wrong partners. We discuss how attachment style plays into the partners you choose, when to work through a rough patch vs. accept it&#...

We all want to be the cute loving couple but never to be THAT couple....so what's the line? And how do your levels of PDA change depending on if you're alone vs. with friends, family, or coworkers? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing ways to show love and affection that won't alienate others, what to say if you have THAT friend who makes it uncomfortable, and how to stay inclu...

Is there ever a good way to break up with someone? Well, we know there are certainly some less-than-ideal ways (ahem text) as we chat with comedian Allison Goldberg about the art of breaking up and if texting is ever a good idea. We discuss why text is the modern-day post-it note (IFYKYK), how you can get more closure in any breakup, and ways laughter can be the best medicine to help us heal. Foll...

From all the romcoms and dating advice, we've been told over and over again: if they wanted to, they would. They'd move mountains to be with us and if they can't, then they just aren't that into it. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing when someone says they can't do something / they aren't ready and what this means for you, why this saying isn't always so black...

Why is it so damn difficult to make it past the second date in today's world? We're chatting with Kevin about how it was so hard that he thought he had a second date curse – until he realized the pressure he was putting on himself. We discuss why we look at dating as an achievement, how to stop putting so much emphasis on milestones and metrics such as the number of dates you've been o...

When dating, we're always looking to see if we have common interests as potential partners....but does it matter? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how a relationship can work if you have different hobbies and interests, the line between accommodating your lifestyle vs. what doesn't matter for the long haul, and how we can reframe what we're looking for to account for the gr...

We often throw up the red flag card, but how can we make sure we are focused on actual red flags that may lead to unhealthy relationships? We're diving in with Ebele Onyema from the OneLove Foundation about signs of unhealthy behaviors in relationships and how they can show up subtly in early dating. We discuss the line that makes a behavior unhealthy (or even abusive), how you talk to a frien...

When we're dating we always want to know...is this person as invested in me as I am in them? Are they serious about this relationship? But what happens when all the boxes are checked but you still are unsure? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re talking about how DTR'ing and putting labels on a relationship aren't everything, how you can communicate what a relationship means to you, and w...

It's getting hot in here – as we chat about sex, intimacy, and why talking about sex could be the key to having the love life you've always wanted. Whether you wish you were having more or happy with the way things are, single or partnered up – it doesn't matter – we're diving into it all with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander. We discuss what really goes on behind...

What happens when you’re dating someone who needs large amounts of alone time? How do you not start to feel neglected? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re talking about the balance of your personal well-being with your partners needs. We discuss what a healthy amount of independence looks like, how you can make both yourself and your partner a priority, and why independence doesn’t have to be imbala...

Why is it so difficult to be single AND happy? And why do we assume being in a relationship will bring us nothing but joy? We’re diving into s cience-based strategies to keep your sanity while looking for a soulmate with Dr. Jenny Taitz, Psyd. We discuss how to stop thinking about being single as a layover to a relationship, the thoughts that get in our own way, and how we can enjoy our own compan...

We're back for our final installment of Ask Us Anything before Season 16! We're picking up some topics y'all wrote in about such as the #1 thing we'd fix about modern dating, how we'd approach dating if we were single again, and more! Plus we spill the tea on some BTS (behind the scenes) stuff we've encountered in our 7 years of doing this podcast. Our Finding Your Person p...

With Valentine’s Day (and our new season!) right around the corner, what better way to end our bonus episodes than with a v-day prep guide. Whether you’re pretending this day doesn’t exist, celebrating with a new partner, hitting the town for galentine’s day (or the bro equivalent), or snuggling with your beau of many years, we’re diving into how to prep for the big day, the best gifts for every s...

You've asked, and we've delivered. We're doing our first-ever Ask Us Anything episodes leading up to our Season 16 Premiere! We're diving into a few gems we received from you all around topics such as if we've been on a date with a listener before, whether to wait to meet someone IRL, how to date without resorting back to old patterns, plus so much more. Our Finding Your Person...

Modern dating sucks, but it shouldn't have to – and in fact, we can make it better, we know we can. We're catching up on what's been going on in the new year and re-airing an episode where we were guests on the podcast Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn. We discuss the biggest mistakes that are happening in all our dating lives, how we can turn each date into a learning experience, an...

From being the "cool girl" to avoiding difficult conversations to blowing up when trying to DTR, we're unpacking more bad dating habits that we both had – that you probably do too. But this week, Julie is interviewing Yue about her dating history and how these behaviors got in her way – even today. We're discussing how dating games ended up being counterproductive, why bad dating b...

From staying in situationships to being rigid with timelines, we all have some bad dating behaviors that have gotten in our way. On this week's bonus episode, Yue is interviewing Julie about her past patterns and how they still sneak in even while in a relationship. We dive into it all: from how these behaviors were learned, how they manifest in dating, and how she's still trying to unlear...

Is this the year we'll finally stop ghosting each other? With Dating Sunday behind us, it's time to take on 2023 with all we got. On this bonus episode, we're chatting about how to recession-proof your dating life, what's happening with dating and our mental health, and why 2023 is the year to finally take control of your love life. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website...

With the new year upon us, it's time to get intentional about what we want for our love lives. We'll be back for Season 16 shortly but in the meantime we've got a bonus episode just for you where we get real about some of our own challenges in our love lives while discussing how we can all ourselves up for success in the new year. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for m...

We're turning the tables as we hear the full story of mismatched timelines, becoming "ready", and letting her love story unfold as we chat with Amy about the trials, tribulations, and triumphs of her relationship with Will (who you may remember from last season!). We discuss the challenges no one talks about with relationships, how to handle difficult conversations and situations when...