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Send episode requests here I know a huge pain point for so many women of faith is that they’re tired of things fizzling out between them and the men they’re dating. They’ll have great chemistry with a guy…go on a couple of dates…and as soon as they get emotionally invested…they either stop hearing from him… …OR he pulls away and wants to be friends. They think the solution is to get more time on t...

Send episode requests here If you’re going out on tons of dates with men you like…and your connections almost always fizzle out or never lead to anything… …let me ask you this:  Are you being open and vulnerable?  After working with hundreds of clients, I've discovered that there is a direct connection between a man being inspired to pursue and a woman’s ability to be vulnerable.  In today’s...

Send episode requests here Food for thought:  Many times when you feel men aren’t emotionally available… …it’s actually because YOU are the one who is being emotionally unavailable. And I say this with my whole chest because 99.9% of the time when women come to me and say:  “Torah! How do I stop attracting men who are emotionally unavailable”  I’m able to dig deeper and discover that these same wo...

Send episode requests here “He just wants to hang out or keep things casual” “He doesn’t express how he really feels about me” “He doesn’t discuss plans for me in his life. He just goes with the flow”  “He never wants to talk about his past or what’s bothering him” Many women might see this as an emotionally unavailable man…but I'm not so quick to jump to that conclusion.  Based upon experien...

Send episode requests here One of the biggest misconceptions I hear a lot as a love coach is that the older you get…the harder it is to date… …and the harder it is to meet quality men.  I’m here to say that it’s all lies.  I don’t care if you’re in your 40s, 50s and even 60s. Florence is a great example of what it looks like to have a fun, fruitful, forward-moving dating experience…in your 50s.  J...

Send episode requests here There’s a lot of dating nonsense floating around about women who are 35+ “You’re a leftover woman” “Men know something is wrong with you” “God might want you to be single” And what I hate the most is that so many single women are choosing to believe this.  Faith was one who believed that since she was over 35 and didn’t meet her original timeline for marriage…that God mi...

Send episode requests here Abstinence can be a period for self-love, personal growth and honor of one’s faith. But because so many women of faith are going on abstinent journeys AND they have no viable marriage options…it is becoming more of a period of dysfunction.  See…women of faith are wanting sex, BUT they are also waiting for marriage.  This is a problem because most women of faith aren’t cr...

Send episode requests here One of the biggest reasons why women don’t create yummy love lives for themselves is because they are afraid of what people will think of them if they do.  They fear people will judge them for kissing men on the first date They fear people won’t approve of them dating multiple men They fear being labeled “difficult” if they bluntly asked for what they wanted for men and...

Send episode requests here Imagine pushing 30, never been on a date, never even kissed a guy before.. Annnddd…you’ve been waiting on God to send your husband, but he’s nowhere in sight. That was Marshae when we first met in 2017.  A beautiful, outgoing high-achieving woman of faith who desired marriage, but was lost when it came to dating and interacting with me because all her life she  was taugh...

Send episode requests here We live in a time where women have more choices than ever before.  We can buy our own property…we can go to school for whatever…we can choose our own careers, we can play professional sports.  We can even go to war if we want to.  And  even with all of these modern freedoms…we still have societal chains that keep us in bondage… …that keeps us from TRULY being who we want...

Send episode requests here Ever shot your shot with someone and scored big time?? I feel this way about snagging Crystal Irom who is another dope ass love coach and a really good friend of mine.  Almost 2 years ago, I slid in her DMs during the pandemic and since then we’ve grown a beautiful friendship that is filled with so much love, joy and a lot of respect for one another.  Not only do I love...

Send episode requests here Women of faith are being gaslit by mainstream religion.  They deeply desire love, sex and marriage…but are often programmed to bury these desires to appear “godly” and not “desperate” They are single and unsatisfied in their 30s, 40s and 50s…but being told to “commit to The Lord” more and the right man will find them.  They are being taught to keep their legs closed…but...

Send episode requests here One of the biggest fears women have while dating is “Falling in Love” with a man.  So they act unbothered…they suppress their emotions and worst of all…ignore their desires.  And although they are successful at not “falling in love”...they are also successful at damaging their love life.  They have no idea that trying to avoid falling in love is also preventing them from...

Send episode requests here For every time I urge women to have fun while dating.. …there is always someone who is ready to reply “But Torah! I’m intentional. I’m dating with purpose.”  What I find so fascinating is so many women believe they have to choose between pleasure and purpose.  Newsflash! You can have experience BOTH while dating Queen...at the same time You don’t have to sacrifice fun to...

Send episode requests here One of our favorite Celebrity couples is calling it quits after 14 years of marriage.  And a lot of us are struggling with the news.  We’re asking questions like:  “If they didn’t make it…what hope is there for me?” Or  “I thought they were so happy…how could they divorce?” What if I told you that both of these questions are flawed and based in falsehood? What if I also...

Send episode requests here One of the biggest fears we have as women, while dating, is getting rejected by a man we really like.  And some of the most painful rejection is getting ghosted by a man that we really could really see ourselves building a life with.  Shruti was one of many women who became devastated after her dream man ghosted her out of nowhere. He was attractive, checked off all the...

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Send episode requests here “How come it’s the ones who engage engage in premarital sex that are getting married and yet we who have been sticking to our principles, trying to do things God’s way and praying for years are still waiting (and getting older by the day?)” I’m always seeing variations of this question in online communities where women of faith reside.  What these women don’t realize is...

Send episode requests here Most women are dating in scarcity mode.  They are constantly drained, disappointed and finding it damn near impossible to meet attractive, high-quality men that they’re excited about. There are a few women who have cracked the code and learned to date in abundance mode.  These women have no problem designing the love life they want and attracting the men they most desire...

Send episode requests here If you think it’s hard to find one quality man, let alone multiple quality men to date…. If you are struggling cultivating your options in quality men that you are attracted to and excited about.. And If you think dating several high-quality men who provide, protect and pursue you at once is a fantasy… Then it’s a good chance that you have a spiritual deficiency that is...

Send episode requests here “When is it going to be my turn?” “When am I finally going to meet my husband?” “Why can’t I be married already?” These are all questions that are asked by women who are attached to a destination…but not really taking responsibility for and honoring their journey at each milestone.  They think… “Once I have this man…this commitment…this partnership..” “...It’s going to s...

Send episode requests here f you find yourself often find yourself drained and disappointed with men Or that men keep leaving you feeling foolish and that he just wasted your time… It’s a good chance that you might be a woman who is easily impressed.  Because an easily impressed woman almost always ends up somebody’s fool. In today’s episode, learn what it means to be an easily impressed woman, wh...

Send episode requests here As women…we often complain that men objectify us for our bodies and sex. …because we want to be seen for more than our breasts, thighs and ass.  We want to be valued for more than what’s between our legs.  We want to be known and loved for WHO we are as women…and not for what our bodies can do for men.  Well ironically…WE objectify men just as much as men objectify us. I...

Send episode requests here Out of all the men we date…there’s always this ONE that we really like…but we find it hard to have him.  We wanna hear from him daily  We wanna see him all the time.  And we freak out when he’s being inconsistent, emotionally unavailable or even pulling away.  Some of us don’t realize that the ONE we like…is the one that feeds our addiction to dysfunction.  Like crack, t...

Send episode requests here They say first comes love, then comes marriage…then comes the baby with the baby carriage.  But what happens when the love leaves and the marriage is over and we are left alone with the baby? Is new love and marriage still on the table?  It is for my very good friend Christina David  She ended at the end of a hard divorce as a single mom with two young children and now s...