Daddy Issues with Violet Benson

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out. If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved. Inspired by the...

Think he was your soulmate ? wrong . He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi. This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.” In this short, savage 5 step guide , I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your ne...

Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for  Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear. From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex dra...

If you’re tired of feeling stuck, this is your wake-up call. In 21 days, you can reset your mind, body, and soul—and completely shift the trajectory of your life. No fluff. No waiting. Just the mindset, the energy, and the exact steps to become her . This is the sign you've been looking for!! Your future self is begging you to press play :) P.S. Make sure to tune in to the 3 call to action steps a...

Buckle up besties, because we’re removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is  not  the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman’s vagina. Oopsies. In today’s spicy little episode, ’m diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead:  Let Them Show You Who They A...

Hi besties!!! This week, Almost Adulting  gets extra raw (and maybe a little gross) as Violet sits down with Bachelor royalty,Kaitlyn Bristowe, for a no-holds-barred conversation full of TMI, laughter, and brutal honesty. In this episode, we cover: We Listen and We Don’t Judge  – Icebreaker confessions, including bathroom mishaps, weird habits, and the things nobody admits to. Living Alo...

Welcome to our  Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This March, we’re giving you  the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The bold traits that make him irresistible—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Proven strategies to grab his attention and keep him addicted to your energy. 🔥 What lights hi...

Tiny Adults , it's that time of the month—our second-week  Dear Violet  episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting w...

Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we’re heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a  rollercoaster  of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had  everything.  ...

BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to  Benson Book Club —your monthly deep dive into books that  actually  hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open  The Let Them Theory  by Mel Robbins.   “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.”  – Mel Robbins Translation? Stop trying to control people wh...

🚨 Buckle up, tiny adults—this episode is PURE CHAOS. 🚨 I’m joined by the one and only  Laura Clery —host of  Idiot  podcast, author, comedian, and dear friend. Together, we’re spilling the most  unhinged, hilarious, and WTF-worthy  stories we’ve never dared to say out loud—until now. But you have to  PROMISE  not to judge. From moving in with a drug dealer she...

Welcome to our  Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This February, we’re giving you  the ultimate guide to getting a Pisces man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The secrets behind his compassionate and mysterious nature—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to captivate his heart and keep him completely hooked. 🔥 Wha...

Welcome to  Dear Violetta  - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear. If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you. Topics Covered: Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxic Sho...

What if I told you  happiness isn’t the goal —and most people don’t actually want it? 🤯 That’s why WE secretly keep self-sabotaging. That’s why we stay stuck. But here’s the truth: As corny as it may sound, rock bottom isn’t the end. It’s the launchpad. In this episode, we get real about: Part 1 - 💥 How hitting rock bottom can be your biggest flex (if you know how to use it) 💥 The&nbs...

Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's  BBC – Benson Book Club  episode is all about  trauma, your brain, and why you can’t just ‘get over it-- because Your Body Keeps The Score ;) We’re covering: 🧠  How trauma rewires your brain & nervous system 🚨  Fight, flight, freeze, or dissociation—what’s your response? ⚖️  Why some people heal and others stay stuck in the...

Welcome to our  Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This January, we’re giving you  the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The key traits that make Aquarius tick—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep him coming back for more. 🔥 What he secretly lo...

Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we’re breaking down what’s holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence. Spoiler alert: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn, and today I’ll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps. In this episode, we'll unpack:  The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers : (4:3...

In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into. Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I’m spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I’m sharing everything you didn...

From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a  journey . Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the  realest  advice you'll ever hear if you think  they're the one  (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step...

Ever wished procrastination was an Olympic sport because you’d definitely win gold? Well, it’s time to change that mindset, one tiny step at a time!  In today's episode, we're diving into the genius of the 2-Minute Rule from  Atomic Habits  by James Clear. Discover how this bite-sized approach to habit-building can turn even the most persistent procrastinator into a produc...

Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome. Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss: Is he  the one  or are you settling? Learn how to ident...

This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of re...

This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about  their  insecurities, not you. The episode wraps with  10 Things Emotionally Intellige...

Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too? Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week...

They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men.  On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed. We discuss: The Power of Praise : Why giv...