Dad Starting Over

Ralph explores the often harsh reality faced by newly divorced individuals re-entering the dating world. He challenges the romanticized notion of "the one" by presenting the concept of serial monogamy, where multiple long-term relationships replace the quest for a singular lifelong partner. This video provides a thought-provoking examination of the shifting nature of relationships in a post-divorc...

Ralph addresses a "Dear DSO" letter from a man named Steve, who shares the breakdown of his 15-year marriage due to his wife’s significant lifestyle and fitness changes. The story unfolds themes such as infidelity, personal change, and the impact of overlooking warning signs in relationships. Ralph provides advice and support to Steve and listeners facing similar issues. Steve’s story highlights h...

This is my very first live call-in chat with a "Dear DSO" submission. You can submit your own question or story to https://deardso.com. In this one, Christopher talks about how he has been married three times, engaged once, dealt with his bipolar disorder... and now falling in love again with a much younger single mother of three that lives in his apartment complex. Lots to talk about in this almo...

In this episode, Ralph examines the challenges men often face after divorce, noting that 70% of men are surprised by their partners' decision to leave. He discusses the emotional and physical loneliness these men experience, as well as their quick attempts to start new relationships. The episode looks at the reasons behind mid-life divorces, such as perimenopause and changes in focus once children...

Ralph examines the emotional turmoil that follows infidelity, focusing on the psychological effects on those who have been wronged. The discussion highlights betrayal, trust issues, and psychological disorders, offering an in-depth look at dysfunctional relationships. Join the HFM Brotherhood!

Everyone seems to be talking about DUTY SEX right now. Why is this such a hot-button topic? What exactly is it, anyway? Should women do it? Should men accept it? This is a series of clips from our last HFM Brotherhood meeting. We hold several different live meeting Zoom meetings every single week and record all of them for our members to listen back to later. We also have private discussion forums...

This episode of "Dear DSO" addresses a common couple's issue: reduced sexual intimacy. Ralph shares a letter from Jack, a 40-year-old struggling with a near-nonexistent sex life in his 10-year marriage. Jack notes that he and his wife have been intimate five times in five years. Despite his efforts to spark romance, his wife remains uninterested, which strains their relationship. Ralph examines th...

In this episode, Ralph examines the changes men undergo when shifting from "nice guys" to more confident "alpha males." He discusses how a personal crisis often triggers this transformation, referencing Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy." Ralph analyzes how today's dating world rewards confidence and extroversion, though sometimes at the expense of sincerity and emotional connection. Join...

In the latest episode of 'Dear DSO,' Ralph responds to a question from a participant called "Wordsmith." Wordsmith compares the decline of workplace wages to the decrease of intimacy in relationships, questioning why some women expect their partners to stay in a sexless marriage indefinitely. Ralph takes this opportunity to discuss relationship challenges, comparing professional and personal commi...

A follower reaches out and shares the typical "anxious man/avoidant wife" scenario we hear about so often, but this time with one twist: His wife does seem to want sex, but it's only in an apparent attempt to get her sexual need met. There's no connection with him, at all. She seems very much disconnected emotionally from him and doesn't seem interested in fixing the problem. Join the HFM Brotherh...

A lot of people have been sending me the link to a video interview between Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. In this episode of DSO Reacts, I break down a couple of points that Sadia makes about women and cheating, and give my two cents (hint: I agree). Join The HFM Brotherhood!

In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph discusses the topic of how men relax and how women perceive it. This subject was brought up by a contributor named Mr. Wordsmith 380. Ralph talks about why women might find men's leisure activities, especially when they're alone, annoying or misunderstood. He looks at the habits of male relaxation and how society views gender roles. Ralph explains that men tend t...

Ralph examines the psychology behind men's perceived scarcity in the dating world and its effect on their interactions with women. He looks at how this mindset influences their reactions to women's choices, whether it's about promiscuity or opting out of dating entirely. Ralph uses real examples and hypothetical scenarios to show how these dynamics work and offers strategies for men to deal with f...

Ralph discusses pornography, sex work, and their psychological and social effects. He starts by examining the historical background of these industries, disproving the idea that they are recent inventions and instead showing they meet long-standing demands. He then addresses the psychological impacts on men who frequently watch porn, noting the risks of addiction and challenges in forming real-lif...

Ralph responds to a question from a YouTube viewer, Jason, about the dynamics of hooking up—not dating—after a divorce. Ralph explains the complexities of post-divorce relationships, especially for men who are anxious and how this can affect their decisions and emotions. Ralph goes into the mindset of newly divorced men, especially those who are anxious and focused on self-improvement. He highligh...

Ralph addresses a letter from a listener named Dunk, dealing with the aftermath of his wife's infidelity. The episode explores the challenges of handling betrayal, mental health issues, and co-parenting with a difficult ex-partner. Ralph gives practical advice to help Dunk set boundaries, communicate effectively, and focus on personal growth. Dunk's situation is complex, as his wife started a rela...

Ralph discusses a listener-submitted story from Thomas about relationship issues and maintaining intimacy in marriage. The episode, titled "Wife not worried about being left," covers a relatable situation for many men. Ralph provides clear advice, addressing themes like religious constraints, emotional detachment, and personal growth. Thomas talks about his marital problems after a lack of intimac...

Ralph discusses the widespread issue of scarcity mindset among men, especially in relationships. He explains the harmful effects of a scarcity mindset and how it manifests in negative comments and a pessimistic view of life and relationships. Ralph talks about the need to shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset, particularly in relationships. He explains how negative self-talk and a defeatis...

In this episode, Ralph delves into the controversial topic of "lesbian bed death" and the unusually high divorce rates among lesbian couples compared to their heterosexual and gay male counterparts. Ralph uses statistical data from the Office for National Statistics and explores the psychological underpinnings and societal expectations that might contribute to these phenomena. He discusses the rol...

Ralph delves deep into the emotional traumas many men face due to infidelity and broken relationships. He critically examines the burgeoning trend of male victimhood and the echo chambers that fuel it. Ralph emphasizes the importance of sticking to factual data rather than sensationalized statistics when discussing issues like divorce rates and paternity fraud. Join The HFM Brotherhood!

Ralph addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity and provides a nuanced perspective on why it might happen. He kicks off by debunking the myth that most women in relationships cheat, presenting scientific evidence and personal experiences to show that cheating is actually less common than some might believe. Ralph emphasizes that certain subsets of men, particularly those he identifies as "anxiou...

Ralph delves into an intriguing message from a Facebook follower that serves as a perfect illustration of the typical challenges faced by men in today's dating and relationship landscape. The follower, whose message Ralph dissects, shares his frustrations and experiences with relationships that have led him to a place of cynicism and resentment towards women. Ralph takes this opportunity to provid...

Ralph delves deep into the distressing world of infidelity, targeting the psychology behind why women cheat in relationships. Through a blend of data, anecdotal evidence, and expert insights, Ralph addresses the quintessential question plaguing many men who discover their partner has been unfaithful: Why? He pulls no punches in his explanation, setting the stage for an honest, potentially provocat...

Ralph addresses a poignant letter from Jay, a long-time listener seeking advice on how to revive the dwindling romance in his marriage. The letter, filled with raw emotion, highlights Jay's struggle with feelings of inadequacy and longing after discovering his partner's emotional affair seven years into their relationship. Despite attempts at couples therapy and personal efforts to rekindle their...

Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." In this episode, Ralph tackles the anxiety and insecurity surrounding permission-based intimacy in long-term relationships, especially in the face of health-related challenges. In our listener's scenario, his wife suffers from unspecified health issu...