Cuppa Care with Deborah Harlow

Dear-heart, Despite what much of modern self-help teaches, the answer is not simply: “Choose yourself, Becky!” Life for a woman with a myriad of responsibilities and relationships cannot be reduced to a quippy meme. The women I know do not live in isolation. They are mothers, partners, caregivers, leaders, and community builders. They ARE actively choosing themselves in each of those roles. It’s n...

October’s Goals Workshop invites you to pause, breathe, and honor what’s shifting in your life. As the trees release their leaves, we’re reminded that letting go is not failure — it’s wisdom. This month’s episode explores how seasonal change mirrors our internal transitions, and how release can become a sacred act of devotion. Inside this episode, we’ll explore: 🍂 Why the “in-between” space is wh...

What part of you is ready to come home? In this episode of Cuppa Care, Deborah explores shadow and integration, specifically, what it means to meet shame and heal the unseen. Deborah shares: * Her personal story of caregiving + shadow * The distinction between guilt and shame * How shame functions as a systemic tool of harm * Reflection invitations for integrating hidden parts into wholeness Refle...

Dear-heart, This month, we are sitting with the mirror. Not the kind that shows you your hair out of place or your reflection in passing, but the mirror that lives inside you. The mirror that shows you the shadow you’d rather not see. The mirror that whispers: It’s time to look. Shadow work is often misunderstood. People think it means chasing down everything dark in us, or fixing the “bad” parts....

September Goals Workshop: Inner Alignment, Outer Action & Sacred Structure As summer gives way to autumn, we are invited into clarity, rhythm, and rebalancing. This month’s workshop explores how to align your inner compass before taking outer action, and how to design structures that support freedom rather than restrict it. Together we’ll talk about: * Why inner alignment must precede outer action...

What does it really mean to tell the truth to yourself and to others? In this episode of Cuppa Care , Deborah explores how radical honesty begins quietly, in the mirror, and how that self-truth becomes the foundation for transparency and deeper connection with others. We’ll talk about: ·       Why truth-telling can feel like safety, not shame. ·       How old scripts shape the ways we say “yes” or...

August Goals Workshop - Reclaiming Creative Spark Have you ever felt the tug to create, but also the fear that it won’t be "good enough"? Or maybe you feel the nudge to try something new, a bolder vision, a braver voice, but perfectionism and pressure stop you in your tracks? In this episode, we explore reconnecting with our Creative Spark , not as a task, but as a sacred pulse of aliveness. We’re...

In this episode of Cuppa Care, Deborah shares a love letter to the silent space caregivers occupy, where devotion meets depletion and stories go unspoken. Grab your favorite mug and settle in for a gentle reflection on the emotional toll of caregiving and what it means to be witnessed. So... pour a cuppa, get cozy and tuck on in. Get full access to Gather with Deborah Harlow at deborahharlow.subst...

July Goals WorkshopCourageous Visibility: Showing Up Aligned, Brave & True This month’s workshop is a love note to your presence. In this episode, we explore: What it means to be courageously visible without performance Where you might be hiding your voice, truth, or power How to align with visibility that nourishes instead of depletes This episode includes a guided reflection and journaling promp...

In this episode, Deborah shares a tender and truth-filled reflection on how boundaries aren't about pushing others away. They’re about drawing yourself back to center. You’ll hear: * A bit of storytelling * Some real talk on people-pleasing * A truth you might need to sip slowly * A spark of sass and a heap of heart So... pour a cuppa, get cozy and tuck on in. Get full access to Gather with Debora...

June Cuppa Care Episode: Saying No with Love — A Ritual for Belonging In this episode of Cuppa Care , we explore the Sacred No — how to say no with love, truth, and clarity. If you’ve ever felt the tug between people-pleasing and inner peace, this short ritual offers a path back to self-belonging. So… pour a cuppa, get cozy and tuck on in. Get full access to Gather with Deborah Harlow at deborahha...

Cuppa Care Episode: May 2025 You Can Begin Again — A Ritual of Return for the Flower Moon Hello dear-heart, and welcome back to Cuppa Care — a soft place to land, a sacred space to reflect, and a gentle voice to remind you: you are not behind. This episode is titled “You Can Begin Again” — and it’s a ritual of return. May was a month of fire and bloom. And also… a month of flicker. Of fullness tha...

🌿 June — Cultivating Rhythms That Nourish Mindful Momentum from Inner Authority Hi dear-heart, If you’re new here, I host a monthly goal-setting workshop rooted in soul-aligned strategy and gentle accountability. These episodes, now shared through Cuppa Care , offer mindset teachings, reflection prompts, and a handout you can download to support your planning practice each month. This month, we’r...

Hi dear-heart. If you’re new here, I host a monthly goal setting workshop that focuses on mindset paired with tips and tools to support your mindful momentum. In the April goal setting workshop, we focused on Emergence & Gentle Momentum. Pull up a comfy chair and brew yourself a cuppa. Lean in and receive. Click here to download your Aligned Flow worksheet for April. 🌿 Part 1: Self-Attunement – V...

Hi dear-heart. If you’re new here, I host a monthly goal setting workshop that focuses on mindset paired with tips and tools to support your mindful momentum. In the March goal setting workshop, we focused on Micro Habits & Habit Stacking in Challenging Times. Pull up a comfy chair and brew yourself a cuppa. Lean in and receive. March Journal Questions * How would your life change if you made cons...

When I was 12 years old my father had a massive stroke. It left him paralyzed and needing full time care. He was 57 years old. There was no plan in place for how to handle this level of need in our family. My life was forever changed. Gather with Deborah Harlow is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Did you know tha...

Hi dear-heart, How are you? Gather with Deborah Harlow is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. I've been thinking of you during this winter season. Here we are ... 2023 came to a close and 2024 has begun. 2023 was certainly a challenging year filled with more questions than answers. “There are years that ask question...