Create Your Own Light

In this episode I discuss how loyalty can stunt your growth and affect not only your happiness but your families happiness. I also get into the importance of diversifying your happiness, living in a virtual world and intentionally hurting the people you love unintentionally. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media. facebook.com/yourwelder   a...

In this episode I discuss the inability to show emotion to those who need it from us the most and why we seem so cold during the moments. I also get into changing perspective from negative thoughts and situations. I go on to talk about being man enough to admit when you're wrong and having the ability to be flexible with people who are not wired the same way that we are. Enjoy! Visit our Spon...

In this episode I discuss the importance placing unreasonable expectations on other people. I also get into how we mold others around us without even knowing we are doing it. I go on to talk about discourteous people and making the attempt to reduce levels of hyperviolence.  Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media. facebook.com/yourwelder   a...

In this episode I discuss having the ability to tune out the chaos while welcoming the happy moments in life. I go on to talk about Golden Opportunities and how many of us are too afraid to take a chance on uncertainty. I also get into working for the man and complaining about our situations but not doing what it takes to change things for the better.  I also get into the difficulty but importance...

In this episode I discuss doing whatever it takes to be happy. I go on to talk about letting go and living in moments. I get into living vicariously through your children if you have them. This is all going away for all of us so why not enjoy it while we can? Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media. facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com...

In this episode I discuss the potential disappointment of meeting your heroes. I go on to talk about the abuser / abusee relationship and why we allow abuse to happen from both points of view. I also get into why we can be so angry at times. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media. facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder Grab M...

In this episode I discuss the benefits of keeping your mouth shut during various scenarios and having the ability to maintain self-control. I also get into how we can work through the negative feelings associated with relapsing behavior. I go on to talk about the comparison of critical incidents of first responder's vs non first responders.  Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwel...

In this episode I discuss the difficulty of not being able to emotionally start your own engine and what happens when you give yourself to everyone and everything else around you. I also go on to talk about people taking your kindness for a weakness, medication, and not turning every situation into a worse situation. Enjoy!  Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them...

In this episode I discuss having the ability of being strong for those you love while also having the ability to be soft, kind and compassionate at the same time. I go on to talk about the dangers of trauma bonding with like-minded people. I also get into Pink Cloud Recovery and understanding the potential pitfalls of your victories. Enjoy!  Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or c...

In this episode I discuss having the ability to change the way that you think while having an open mind in order to promote personal growth. I go on to talk about what I used to think a man was vs what I belive a man is now.  I also talk about writing a goodbye letter to the people you love and working through mental health setbacks. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or co...

In this episode I discuss how much time has passed since we felt truly alive and how we have squandered every minute since. I go on to talk about the importance of words of affirmation as it applies to the family and individual dynamic. I also get into EMDR Therapy, setting ourselves up for failure in social settings and why it's important that we do not compare ourselves to others. Enjoy! Vi...

In this episode I discuss being a better friend. I talk about ditching the superman act as we get older and keeping an open mind to things that could lead to potential positive growth. I also get into suicide and compassion. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder Grab My Book "Creat...

In this episode I harness my inner brain scientist in an attempt to explain how PTSD impacts the brain and the expectations of not just ourselves, but others.  I go on to explain having the ability to become gentler and more self-loving over time. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder G...

In this episode I discuss how we face adversity. I get into the mindset of understanding nothing lasts forever and what happens when we become stagnant in life.  I go on to talk about working through emotional triggers and tossing out the excuse crutch. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwe...

In this episode I discuss the importance of knowing whether you are supported or tolerated by those closest to you.  I go on to talk about the difficulty many spouses have understanding the need for outside support and how bonding with like-minded people can be threatening to a relationship. I also get into throwing the perfect plan out of the window and doing things that make your heartbeat even...

In this episode I discuss being a shitty friend and making everything about you. I also get into why First Responders should not compare their profession to the civilian world. I go on to talk about being honest with your mistakes and the mindset of blaming the calendar for your problems. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/y...

In this episode I return from a much deserved three week break off from life. I discuss the importance of simply unplugging in order to recharge and regroup. I also get into balancing Gratitude and Guilt. Thank you to everyone who has supported me over the years. I am not good at taking time off, but I reached a point where I simply had to. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.co...

In this episode I discuss carrying guilt and the ability to change the way that we carry it by retraining our brain. I go on to talk about having the right support around you and the importance of being exactly who you want to be. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder Grab My Book &quot...

In this episode I discuss what happens when we spend a lifetime pushing people away. I also get into how we allow joy to slowly slip out of our grasp over the course of time. I go on to talk a little bit about stand-up comedy and how much fun it used to be. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yo...

In this episode I discuss what happens when we let our careers define who we are. I go on to talk about the potential fallout of not being mentally prepared for retirement while also covering how unfair it can be when we make others pay for our life experiences. In closing, I discuss why it is so important to have a little fun in our life's vs taking everything so seriously. Enjoy! Visit our...

In this episode I discuss internal emptiness and how important it is to recharge in order to be the best version of yourself. I go on to talk about letting go of useless pride and how a negative morning sets the tone for your entire day. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder Grab My Boo...

In this episode I ask when is the right time to teach our children about quitting? When do we make the transition in thinking "It's just a game vs It is reality?" I go on to talk about my recent experience of being asked to leave the soccer field for attempting to teach my daughter about the importance of not quitting. I dive into how some people misunderstand command presence and s...

In this episode I discuss the power of our personal thoughts about ourselves. I also get into the mindset of Hard Work vs Smart Hard Work and growing beyond our circumstances and planning for more in life. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media facebook.com/yourwelder   and instagram.com/yourwelder Grab My Book "Create Your Own Light&qu...

In this episode I discuss the uncontrollable light switch of emotion that can sometimes be flipped over the smallest things. I also talk about managing your emotions before attempting to have a productive conversation. I go on the talk about the importance of therapy animals and peace in our lives. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on social media face...

In this episode I discuss the lowering of standards for Police Officers and stress cards for those who need a little time out. I also get into the reclusive nature of those with PTSD and how, if not careful, our home can become our prison. I go on to talk about taking the time to unplug and put yourself first. Enjoy! Visit our Sponsor's website www.yourwelder.com or connect with them on socia...