Couples C.H.A.A.T

In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s chaat about individual and shared growth and development withing a relationship and how you seemly can’t have one without the other. In life the only thing constant is change, and if you must change let the change be some form of growth. Now it’s not enough to only grow individually…for any long-standing relationship to work everyone within the par...

In this episode of Couple C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s chaat about social media and the role it plays in relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’re an influencer or someone who post once or twice a year social media in relationships can be tricky. In this episode you’ll her about topics like navigating DM’s, fake accounts, sharing passwords, blocking followers and so much more. If you've ever had to hav...

In this episode the Alston’s chat about what it really means to be “Equally Yoked” too often people miss out on a great chance for love & happiness in a relationship because they don’t feel like they have much in common with the person they are interested in or dating. Similarities and commonalities do not a yoke make! In this episode the conversation goes deep into what truly makes two people...

In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T. the Alston’s chaat about how even though your heart may be in the right place taking the approach of “Mr./ Mrs. Fix it” in your relationship normally is not the best approach. It’s nearly impossible to fix an issue that you don’t truly understand, and when your partner is having a bad day or is experiencing negative feelings, I know the first thing you’d want...

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how loving someone doesn’t always mean that you like them. It is normal and healthy in a relationship to at times not like your partner. Maybe they did or said something that rubbed you the wrong way or your just fed up with life lifen’ and may be very much overstimulated but at the end of it all you just can’t stand even the sight of your partner yet a...

In this episode of Couples C.H.A.A.T the Alston’s CHAAT about doing the hard thing and addressing the elephant in the room. We all know the saying goes “ignorance is bliss” however we also know that there is nothing blissful about continually staring a problem in its face and pretending it’s not staring right back at you. Instead of bliss you’re more likely to be met with frustration, irritation a...

In this episode the Alston's C.H.A.A.T about body counts. Should the answer to the question "How many people have you slept with?" determin how you treat someone or more importatnly if you chose to move forward in a relationship with them? We'll chaat about the double standered that comes with this age old question that views men and women diffrently when it comes to body count. What's your body c...

In this episode the Alston's C.H.A.A.T about being in a relationship while having best friends of the opposite sex. Many may not see this as an issue, however, has it been discussed? Does it exist? If so, come chaat with us to hear our thoughts on it and how to handle it if you find yourself having a spouse with an opposite sex best friend.  Subscribe to Couples C.H.A.A.T on Soundwise

Welcome Back to Couples C.H.A.A.T Darris and JoAnne Alston Jr. are excited to reconnect with you, our valued listener with season two. In this episode the Alston's CHAAT about losing your personal identity while in a relationship. You will also hear more about the 4 primary attachment styles and how they can affect how you treat and handle yourself while in a relationship. Have you ever lost sight...

PSA: This episode is Rated R. In this episode the Alston’s chaat about sexual fantasies, if there is really such a thing as “bad sex”, sexual desires, pleasures, and much more. All these topics around sex can be very awkward to talk about however, knowing what you want and need in the bedroom and being able to effectively communicate it can be fulfilling and rewarding for both you and your partner...

In this episode the Alston's chaat about financial literacy in a relationship and the importance of being like-minded when it comes to all things relating to money. There’s no one stingier than a person with a coin lol. Those “$$ bills y’all” can have even those people full of love turn into people of hate and resentment. It is completely normal for couples to encounter issues around money no matt...

In this episode the Alston’s chaat about how trauma can affect your relationship. Past trauma, hurt, guilt, or abuse can have a major effect on how you engage with your spouse due to not fully processing the trauma to begin with. Unprocessed trauma can affect not only one’s brain but how one may react to certain situations. It refers itself to PTSD (Post Traumatic Disorder) where your body is in f...

In this episode the Alston’s chaat about the multifaceted nature of love! We all know Love is patient and Love is kind…however, it can be and is so much more than just those things. Just as a chameleons’ instinct is to change and adapt to its environment, love also changes and adapts to those who embody it, who experience it, and those who long for it. Love is surely not just black and white it is...

In this episode of the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T. about how spending quality alone can help you discover what it is that you value in any relationship to come. Being alone has its benefits, it gives you time to reflect on past relationships and gives you time to set clear values and boundaries about what you want in your next relationship, if that's what you desire. It also comes with challenges, wanting...

In this episode of the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how we navigated our way of being married at 23 years old, we were questioned by many as to why we were getting married so young, but if you ask us, it was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. Age has nothing to do with a successful marriage, passion, love, shared vision, and commitment speak to longevity. Come C.H.A.A.T. with us about our expe...

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about how often in relationships, people tend to take on a lot of responsibility, we like to call this superhero syndrome. If you feel like the weight of the relationship is on your shoulders you may be suffering from superhero syndrome. No matter if it’s self-induced or forced upon you, left untreated can lead to high stress, lack of communication, and even...

Description: In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about being able to trust your partner to represent you when you aren’t present. Would you feel comfortable with your partner speaking on your behalf? Sometimes we are scheduled to all sorts of events, from family gatherings, business engagements, even kids’ playdates, in which one of us can’t attend however, we know that if either one of us aren...

In this episode the Alston’s CHAAT about a simple approach on how to navigate emotions while addressing conflict. In part three of the conflict series we will explore T.H.I.N.K, our interpretation on how to navigate the steps discussed in episode two of the conflict series "S.P.I.R.I.T". We will also discuss how we used all of these techniques to get through conflict in our marriage. We all unders...

 In this episode the Alston’s CHAAT about how to address conflict. By using the Acronym S.P.I.R.I.T couples can successfully navigate through situations causing conflict within their relationship while also realizing that the conflict is an attack to the spirit and not the person, the ego along with pride can make conflict turn for the worst. Come C.H.A.A.T with us! Subscribe to Couples C.H.A.A.T...

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about the importance of conflict. Many people view conflict as a negative however there are multiple benefits to conflict in a relationship. Sounds crazy right…Yea we know!! Explore with us as we explain why the one thing couples do their best to avoid is the very thing they need to sustain consistent positive growth. Come C.H.A.A.T with us about how your rel...

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.AT about holding oneself accountable while in a relationship. Too many people often feel attacked when getting into a disagreement with their partner. Sometimes we must take a step back and ask ourselves..."What did I contribute to the argument?". Or "How am I responding to make my partner feel this way?". Enjoy listening to our story and how we overcame this and...

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about shackin' up before marriage. What was once frowned upon has now become the new normal. A topic that’s a two-edged sword…to shack or not to shack, that is the question? Let’s C.H.A.A.T! Subscribe to Couples C.H.A.A.T on Soundwise

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about healthy boundaries in a relationship. Do you struggle with setting boundaries? The motto we use to sustain our boundaries is “friend, family, or foe you gotta go”! Sit and chat with us on how to establish healthy boundaries while sustaining your peace. Let’s C.H.A.A.T! Subscribe to Couples C.H.A.A.T on Soundwise

In this episode the Alston’s C.H.A.A.T about the 5 love languages we have all come to know but, have you ever considered your hate language? Take a seat, listen, and discover how you tend to spew hate to the ones you love and most importantly how its effecting your relationship. Let’s C.H.A.A.T!  If you like what you are hearing be sure to visit our website www.coupleschaat.com and subscribe to ou...