Conversations with Toi

Its Fathers day weekend and I am not sugar coating how these fathers are. However it is not in the way that you think. I share my own pain around my own biological father. What it means to have that Kirk Franklin' Somebody's son(daughter) experience. .... Why are some Content Creators so mean and full of drama? Yall just eating it up. Everytime you share bad content, controversial content, and mor...

If you ever been in your people pleasing phase then you know the toll it takes on your mental health. From being mad at yourself for always feeling giving in and not saying no when it needs to, from feeling as if your being nice is hurting you, and more, You know that people pleasing isn't where you want to be. So like Melissa said, we not holding hands anymore. No more trying to get folks to see...

The news broke of Trump being a 34 time felon while I was driving and talking to my grandma-what a wild time in the world. As a political science major I do not argue folks down about who they vote for. It is not my business. However it does say a lot on both sides about people. So don't let the election take you into the arguing with people way it's not worth it. ....................... However h...

It's Memorial Day weekend which means the unofficial summer has begun. We taking trips and using our PTO but we have to act right. What is your mental health regiment for flying or taking a road trip ? I have mine that has been working. From packing a few weeks to a week before, arriving to airport 2 hours ahead to eat and have a beverage. There are things that we can do to help ease things like a...

We have none other than Kevin Ross . He is a breath of fresh air. You may know him from his hit Long Song Away. He is a writer, singer, and producer. His songs are mesmerizing and his range undeniable. He is coming to Philadelphia to a sold out show on May 25th at City Winery. He does have tickets available for the Pittsburgh show happening that Sunday. ........... We talk about his passions, what...

Happy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way .......................... With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about goi...

Sometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae. ............................. Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken , offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and f...

What is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality...

Mental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on. ........................... Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist o...

On this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often. .......................... I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are...

When you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key. .......................... On the podcast we talk briefly ab...

No one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more. .................................... Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandl...

I wonder if men knew that bragging about how strong your significant other was by staying in a relationship with someone is NOT a flex. Every relationship has their ups and downs. However, if you saw that by stepping over my boundaries multiple times and being okay with that is crazy work. .......................... How do we justify bad behavior time and time again? Men and some women, please und...

What does commitment have to do with the Cirque du Soleil Corteo? Everything as we have acrobat Joris Kondija share his reasons for starting with gymnastics and how staying the course led him to the brand of Cirque du Soleil. ................................. We have to stay committed to something in this world that seems to want to encourage failing. So here's to you taking this conversation and...

Is anyone else looking forward to shedding this seasonal depression and step into a Spring awakening? From travel since its National Plan a solo trip day to letting go of the things that holds us back I get into all of that this episode. ...................................... Are we giving participation awards to parents and specifically dads? Lil Scrappy had a lot to say this week on why people d...

Have you ever questioned your past choices in life? We all make mistakes so this isn't about perfectionist. In life, there will be times when you realize later on aka your future self finally understands the past was building the good for your future. On this episode: I also cover the 50 part plus Rissa Tissa, Wendy Williams, and leave you with some encouragement that I hope on your darkest day il...

Comedian Mo'Nique and her son, Shalon have been creating a stir this week. Since Mo'Nique's rise it's been no secret that Mo'Nique doesn't have a desire to be a wife or parent. Fast forward to Mo'Nique's appearance on Clip Shay Shay where sh talk about her lack of parenting with her son. ................................................... Its easy to also note that Mo'nique has 2 other sons. Eithe...

No matter what field you are in there's always room for more. I dislike when I hear people use tactics to be the mean girl/women and disinclude others. Often it's from their own insecurity but still its unnecessary in every way. ........................................... We have this week Elle of Siponwhat as we talk about her moving into the Content Creator space, tips she's learned, forging her...

Unfortunately in content creation or blogging there is always room for clapbacks. We have Camille Mola of Positive Publicity as our guest as we talk all things writing, pop culture, and more. She shares how she got into the joy of writing. Whatever your joys are one thing is for your gift will make room. .................................................................................................

I love my Content Creator friends. So I will be bringing them on for a few weeks as we talk about different things in the industry. This is definitely something to tune in if you want to start something new (whatever your new is) but you are hesitant about what to do first. We have on today's episode is Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs and we talk about content creation and wanting to be on the scene...

Goals and The Temptations? Yes on this last episode of the season and year I talk to E. Clayton Cornelious about his role as Paul Williams on the Broadway show of Ain't Too Proud coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus January 3-21st. Tickets are now available. ........................................................................................................................................... E...

Christmas is a wonderful holiday. Everyone is getting gifts and you may be thinking of what you don't have, missing those who aren't here, and so much more. While everyone is wrapped in joy you may be seriously in a place of despair. It may be a silent issue as you feel like saying that would damper others so you smile in rooms you don't want to be in. .......................... With that being sa...

Oh how transformative gospel music can be. However when you are queer the church institution is one of the most isolating. Trying to water who you are out of fear of not being accepted is one thing but straying away from the faith seems to be the solution until Jess performed in the Color Purple Broadway show and it brought her back to it all. ....................... Tune in as we listen to Jessic...

If you ever had an old school momma or aunt or whomever in your life tell you about how back then used to be and the changes that we see now, this is your episode. We respect and love what back then taught us. We love the richness of the history but right now we also have to add in skills set to live that helps us be better people. ...................................... With Mental Health often ti...

Have you ever thought about writing? Feeling like you don't know where to start this is your episode. In addition writing is therapeutic. It heals parts of you just from being vulnerable and willing to share your story. Today's guest is Sheila Bender. ........................... Sheila Bender is a poet, essayist, memoirist, and master teacher, who has helped hundreds of people write from personal...