Conversations with Toi

In this episode of 'Conversations With Toi,' we're unpacking the idea of 'running a tight program' in relationships. Are we really as in control as we think? We'll also talk about processing grief following the loss of my aunt, and the complexities of navigating a relationship—or the absence of one—with my biological father. And with winter on the way, we're wrapping up with some tips on prepping...

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we’re diving into the non‑traditional ways to check in on the “strong friend”—the one who always shows up, always holds it together, and rarely gets asked how they’re really doing. We’re talking about the subtle check-ins, the intentional gestures, and the everyday ways you can support the people who seem the most unshakeable. This conversation is all abo...

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we're stepping into the new year with intention, clarity, and a commitment to growth. I’m diving into what it really means to leave spaces—and people—better than you found them. This isn’t just a cute saying; it’s a mindset shift that shapes how you move, how you love, and how you show up in every room. We’re also talking about refusing to be anyone’s “bu...

In this festive episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re celebrating the holidays and then diving headfirst into how to make 2026 your year of radical self-honesty. Forget the usual resolutions—we’re owning the hiccups that stand in our way and making personal development the main character of our story ....................................... If you’re ready to move past surface-level resolutions...

The holidays bring out the cozy traditions—matching pajamas, family photos, and curated moments that flood our timelines. But behind the festive snapshots, not every couple or family fits the picture-perfect mold. In this episode, we unpack the envy and pressure that can come with outward displays of “togetherness,” and why matching spirits matter far more than matching fabrics. I also share my th...

Welcome back to Conversations with Toi. The holidays can be a season of light, laughter, and togetherness—but they can also bring up feelings of grief, loneliness, and the holiday blues. In this episode, I’m opening up about what it means to be honest with ourselves during this season, how to acknowledge the hard moments, and why embracing simple joys can help us reconnect with what matters most....

As Thanksgiving approaches, boundaries matter more than ever. In this heartfelt episode of Conversations with Toi, I dive into the real talk around setting and honoring boundaries—with yourself and with others. Whether you're navigating family dynamics, protecting your peace, or redefining what the holiday means to you, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and actionable insight. 🎙️ What...

In this episode, we dive deep into the moments when life shakes our inner stillness—unexpected conflict, emotional overwhelm, or simply too much noise. How do we respond when our peace is disrupted? I share grounded strategies for reclaiming calm, setting boundaries, and honoring your emotional truth without losing yourself. Whether you're navigating a tough season or a tough conversation, this ep...

In this episode, we dive deep into the tension between emotional triggers and personal responsibility. From Kevin McCall’s raw revelation that wealth doesn’t shield you from life’s unpredictability, to Gucci Mane’s candid conversation with The Breakfast Club about his mental health journey—we explore how healing begins with honesty. I also reflect on the books I’ve read this week: Kamala’s 107 Day...

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that your self-care might be slipping through the cracks. From the glorification of overworking and never taking a break, to constantly saying “yes” when your soul is screaming “no,” we’re unpacking the habits that masquerade as productivity but actually drain your emotional and physical well-being. We’ll explore red flag...

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, I'm diving deep into what it means to feel stuck—emotionally, creatively, and collectively. From navigating the weight of a government shutdown to the everyday chaos that almost had me checking somebody’s child in these Philly streets (yes, it got real), we’re unpacking reactive behavior, emotional regulation, and the power of pause. This isn’t just venti...

In this soul-nourishing episode, we explore sleep not just as a biological necessity—but as a radical act of self-care. When life feels heavy, chaotic, or uncertain, going to bed can be one of the most powerful tools in your mental health toolkit. We’ll unpack how quality rest helps regulate emotions, restore clarity, and build resilience during hard times. Whether you're navigating grief, burnout...

In this episode of Conversations with Toi , we’re diving deep into the power of accountability and the role character plays in how we show up—in our homes, communities, and online. From parenting through the chaos of the first week of school to navigating the emotional weight of public figures making headlines, we’re unpacking it all. 🖤 We reflect on the passing of fashion legend Giorgio Armani a...

This week, I’m opening up about a deeply personal struggle—episodic depression. It’s not always visible, and it doesn’t always make sense. One moment I’m thriving, the next I’m navigating a wave of sadness, fatigue, and disconnection that seems to arrive unannounced. In this episode, I share what these episodes feel like, how they’ve shaped my self-care practices, and the tools I’ve leaned on to f...

In this episode, I open up about a moment of emotional heaviness—when the schedule, the expectations, and the pressure to keep going became too much. From sitting in a locked car to pray and listen to music, to leaning into the joy of family and choosing rest, this story is a reminder that healing doesn’t always look like productivity. It looks like presence. It looks like connection. And sometime...

In this powerful and radically honest episode, LaToi sits down with Ron Souers—ADHD advocate, podcast host, and fierce kindness coach—to unpack the emotional truth behind living with ADHD. Ron doesn’t just talk about ADHD—he lives it, breathes it, and helps others navigate it with compassion, clarity, and courage. Together, we explore: • The emotional weight of late diagnosis and masking • How ADH...

In this week’s episode of Conversations with Toi , we’re diving deep into the emotional seasons of life—especially the chilling, isolating ones we often call our “personal winters.” ❄️ I’m sharing my own recent joys as a reminder that light does exist, even when the days feel dark. From journaling and therapy to intentional self-care, I’ll walk you through the tools that have helped me survive and...

In this can’t-miss episode, Toi sits down with comedy legend and cultural icon Bill Bellamy—the original coiner of the phrase “booty call,” and star of films like How to Be a Player, Love Jones, and Any Given Sunday. From MTV fame to unforgettable stand-up moments, Bellamy shares reflections on his dynamic career and drops gems ahead of his Top Billin’ Tour, making its way to City Winery Philadelp...

🎙️ Episode Title: Joi Carter — Soulful Journeys and City Winery Vibes In this vibrant episode, LaToi sits down with the powerhouse vocalist and performer Joi Carter for an intimate conversation that flows as effortlessly as her music. From the rhythm of her latest tour to the heartbeats behind her lyrics, Joi opens up about the life experiences that shape her sound and spirit. We dive into her cre...

This week on Conversations with Toi , we’re stirring the pot and sipping the truth. We dive into Trump’s latest executive order targeting mental health, drug addiction, and homelessness—what does it mean for our communities, and how should we respond with compassion and clarity? Then we spill the tea on the Tea App , especially the Philly edition that’s taken over the App Store. Why is everyone ta...

🧠✨ Mental Health Agility: The Power of Emotional Flexibility In this episode, we’re diving into the concept of mental health agility —the ability to adapt, bounce back, and thrive through life’s emotional curveballs. Whether you're navigating anger, stress, or self-doubt, mental agility offers tools for emotional regulation, self-awareness, and growth. 🎙️ We’ll explore: How to shift your mindset...

In this episode of Conversations with Toi , we’re unpacking one of the most misunderstood emotions: anger. Is it always a negative force—or can it be a surprising catalyst for personal growth? LaToi explores how acknowledging anger can be an essential part of self-care and how, when harnessed with intention, it can ignite motivation and drive. It’s not about suppressing the heat—it’s about learnin...

This week’s episode is deeply personal. After a two-week hiatus, I’m opening up about where I’ve been, what I’ve learned, and why stepping back was necessary. From the power of setting boundaries to the surprising breakthroughs that followed, I’m sharing the lessons that only silence and stillness can reveal. We’re also talking content creation—not the hustle, but the heart of it. And the hard tru...

In this episode of Conversations with Toi , we're diving into the realities of mental health and wellness. The journey looks different for everyone—some may struggle with deep anxiety, while others battle waves of depression. It's easy to compare our experiences to those around us, but the truth is that no two paths are alike. Despite the challenges, one thing remains constant: there is always hop...

In this inspiring episode, Toi sits down with special guests Liz Jovovich, Priscilla Garner, and Andreas to celebrate a monumental achievement for The Dance Ground, Bucks County’s premier performing arts school. Their youth dance company—an exceptional group of 23 talented dancers aged 11 to 18—has been invited to perform at the prestigious Chita Rivera Awards at NYU Skirball Center in New York Ci...