Convergently Speaking

Caitlin joins to talk about the first of the Gottman Method's "Four Horsemen" - Criticism.  What is it? How does it affect our relationships? Where is it coming from? What is the antidote?  We share some of our under the surface if you are feeling the urge to criticise.  Hope you enjoy!  Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking  @danielrelationshipcounselling Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking @dan...

Dan has a great chat with Garry Gilfoy (Author, Counsellor and Teacher in Adelaide) about the developmental archetypes and how we can use their energies throughout our life. They also discuss some of the dynamics they see in relationships in their counselling practices.  Check out Garry's website at https://www.garrygilfoy.com/, he provides Archetype profiling if this is a topic that resonates wit...

Naomi Harrington (fellow INFJ) joins Dan all the way from Hawaii for a chat about being Highly Sensitive and an Empath, and how this shows up for her in her work, marriage and parenting. You'll really enjoy all that she has to say, especially if you are someone who finds lots of sensory input overwhelming, or who absorbs and processes the emotions of others. She shares about how she and her husban...

Dan and Sandra from Family Personalities talk about how to discover your child's personality type and how that understanding can bring more empathy and harmony to your family system. Sandra works with families to go deep in their understanding of each other, and she also hosts a brilliant podcast! Highly recommend. Find her everywhere social media at @familypersonalities and familypersonalites.com...

For this 40th episode Caitlin joins Dan to discuss the biggest personality difference a couple can have in the myers-briggs personality system and understanding this difference as a gift rather than a curse. Find Dan: Instagram: @ convergentlyspeaking  @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook: @ convergentlyspeaking @ danielanearcounsellingcoaching Bookings:  danielanear.com

Sarah Beale joins today to chat about her family's journey to parenting without rules or force and how they sold everything and moved to Europe to start over and live in their values. Dan and Sarah also chat about rites of passage and the awakening that often happens when women find a taste of freedom and wildness. Sarah now works with other parents who want to parent in partnership with their kid...

Dan has an incredibly interesting chat with Samantha Mackay who is a fellow Typology-Lover and Personality Hacker Profiling graduate. Samantha is a former Lawyer, current Trainer and Coach who uses personality frameworks to work with people.  Dan and Samantha chat typology and health - Samantha shares her journey with chronic illness and the work she has done to heal and integrate all parts o...

In this solo episode, Dan talks about the root of many misunderstandings in relationships and friendships and what we can do about it.  He shares some insights on how we can gain more understanding and empathy for the people around us, rather than getting frustrated and annoyed at our differences.  Find Dan:  Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking   @danielanearcounsellingcoachi...

Something a little different - here we are posting Dan being interviewed by Neville Starick (you may remember him from Episode 26). He asked Dan some great questions about his counselling practice, personality psychology, spiral dynamics and podcasting.  If you're quite familiar with Dan and his story, zoom ahead to about 36:00 for an interesting discussion about the Theory of Spiral Dynamics whic...

A solo episode from Dan, exploring how intelligent people can get tripped up by being unaware of their emotions.  Find Dan: Bookings (new website!!): danielanear.com Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking  @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoaching

Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat!  Dario Nardi, Ph. D. is a world renowned author,  researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University  of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver Award for  Innovative Use of Technology in 2005 and UCLA's Distinguished Teacher...

Here we have for you a huge guest and a great chat! Dario Nardi, Ph. D. is a world renowned author,  researcher, speaker and expert in neuroscience, personality, and  body-mind practices. He holds a Senior Lecturer position at University  of California (Los Angeles), where he won UCLA's Copenhaver Award for  Innovative Use of Technology in 2005 and UCLA's Distinguished Teacher...

Dan digs into some more of the technical parts of the Myers-Briggs System and how the different parts of a person's personality interact. He talks about the upsides and downsides of "specialising" in our strengths, and how this can play out in our lives.  Find Dan: Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking  @danielanearcounsellingcoaching Facebook: @convergentlyspeaking @danielanearcounsellingcoa...

Life brings us pain, unfortunately there's no way around that. It is certainly not easy, but when we have particularly painful times, we have the opportunity to harness and use that pain to learn and grow and transform. We may just find ourselves coming out the other end with purpose, all the stronger for finding meaning and healing amongst the pain. Dan share's some simple but profound quotes tha...

Enjoy this beautiful conversation with Jamie Ryan, who is a social worker, counsellor and educator with over 25 years experience in the Mental Health field.  He and Dan talk about the ways that the mental health sector is transforming to put people's experiences more in the centre and how Peer Work is part of this transition. Jamie shares about some of his own experiences, which we are honour...

Dan discusses what can happen when one partner in a relationship begins to get into self development, heal past traumas or question their beliefs. How do you manage these changes and how they affect your relationship? How do you best communicate about what you're learning and what's going on? Is the relationship doomed?  Find Dan: Coaching Instagram: @convergentlyspeaking    &n...

Solo episode with Dan talking about the stories we tell ourselves. Dan shares a personal story of how looking at the stories he was telling himself was holding him back and how the stories we are telling are vital to our sense of well-being. What are the stories you're telling yourself? Do you have control over these or are they malleable and changeable?  Find Dan: Coaching Instagram: @convergentl...

Solo episode from Dan, talking about how to deal with our human tendency to immediately reject and therefore not listen to ideas that are contrary to our own beliefs or are from the other side of a particular issue. What is the antidote to this seemingly inbuilt wiring? How can we teach ourselves to listen better and more fully?  Listen for more! Find Dan: * Coaching Practice * Instagram:&nbs...

Interview with Neville Starick, who shares some of his story as a third culture kid and a life of international travel.  Neville is a counsellor who specifically looks at the role of change in people's lives, and how they can move through the grief that change brings with it. He shares some beautiful insights and stories, as well as some bonus Enneagram content! (Neville is an Enneagram 4). H...

The Enneagram is pretty ubiquitous in culture at the moment, everyone is talking about it and everyone wants to tell you your number.  Dan talks about the Enneagram, which he's been studying for over a decade, how he's found it helpful and transformative in his life, and some insights on how to journey with it as a tool for personal development.  Stay tuned for more Enneagram content in...

Rohan Harry - comedian, podcaster, and friend from way back - joins the podcast to share his story of overcoming some incredible health issues. It's an inspiring, funny, and at times heartbreaking interview, you're sure to enjoy it!  Dan and Rohan talk personality (Rohan is a classic INFP), motivation, the trickster archetype.... and much more.  Find Rohan:  http://attitudeconsultan...

The fourth and final episode in our series about personality and intimate relationships.  The Judger/Perceiver split can be a tricky one to navigate, but with a little understanding, a J/P couple can really thrive as they appreciate and grow from the other's way of doing things. And what if you're both the same type? Dan talks about that too! Something for everyone.  Enjoy the episode an...

In the 3rd episode of this series on relationships and personality, Dan discusses the difference between thinkers and feelers.  Do thinkers still have feelings underneath all that cold, hard logic? (yes!) Can we ever get on the same page?  Listen to understand where your partner may be coming from and how they see the world, and you'll begin to speak the same language and appreciate what each othe...

This second episode in the series about personality and relationships, Dan discusses the differences between Sensors and Intuitives. Understanding this difference between people can make a huge impact on how we relate to each other, maybe more than any of the other 3 dichotomies of the Myers-Briggs system. Sensors and Intuitives see and experience the world in very different ways and yet these pol...

The first episode in a 4-part series,  Dan talks about the differences, tension points, and strengths in romantic relationships in regards to the Introvert/Extrovert dichotomy. Is it ideal to both be the same type? How do you get your introvert partner out of the house? How do you navigate the issues that arise from being so different (or so similar!)? Some thoughts to get you reflecting on y...