Convergently Speaking

Dr Tracy is a the Feminine Boss Academy Founder and she helps women from all walks of life on their journey to true self-love. Through her program "Reclaiming Me" she walks with women coming out of narcissistic abuse situations, helps them make sense of what has happened, and how to move forward and thrive in life. Dr Tracy joins Dan to talk about her new book "Narctionary" whi...

Local friend and colleague Addie Michlitsch joins us to share about her work as a trauma therapist. We discuss how trauma is stored in the body and some of the ways that she brings people through the process of resolving this. We also discuss codependency and boundaries. Overall, Addie shares her amazing grounding energy and a beautiful vision of what life can be like beyond our triggers and copin...

Jumping off from last week's episode about positive vs. negative sentiment in relationships, today Dan shares some practical ways that you can increase the positivity between you and your partner. Find Dan (including bookings for couples therapy and personality coaching) at danielanear.com

In this episode Dan discusses how negative feelings in your relationship can pile up and create their own momentum, so that it colors every interaction you have. He also shares how to get out of this pattern and why it's not as hard as you think! Find a helpful article on this topic HERE Find Dan at danielanear.com

We're back!  Join us for this incredible chat with Line, who is a Nervous System Coach and a wealth of information about the way our nervous system works, how it always has a reason for doing what it's doing. She shares how to know if your nervous system needs more up regulation or down regulation, and methods what we can work with it in these ways. That, and lots more! This was such a comprehensi...

Enjoy the last episode in this series - the differences between Judgers and Perceivers.  We'll be back with a new episode next week! Find Dan: danielanear.com

In  the 3rd episode of this series on relationships and personality, Dan  discusses the difference between thinkers and feelers.  Do thinkers still have feelings underneath all that cold, hard logic?  (yes!) Can we ever get on the same page?  Listen to understand where your partner may be coming from and how they  see the world, and you'll begin to speak the same lang...

This second episode in the series about personality and relationships,  Dan discusses the differences between Sensors and Intuitives.  Understanding this difference between people can make a huge impact on  how we relate to each other, maybe more than any of the other 3  dichotomies of the Myers-Briggs system. Sensors and Intuitives see and experience the world in very differen...

We're taking a break from podcasting for the month of January, but we won't leave you hanging!  In case you missed it, here is a re-release of our series on Myers-Briggs and relationships. This week, Introverts and Extroverts - how this difference plays out for couples and how to manage some of the struggles that come along with it.  And we hope you didn't miss our conversation with an a...

We are SO excited to bring this episode to you. This is an awesome conversation with Kyle and Laura Friesen, owners of Friesen Holistic Wellness in Manitoba, Canada.  Kyle is a Life and Relationship Coach and Laura is a Neuromovement practioner and they are both well-versed in Myers-Briggs and cognitive functions. They share how this knowledge has helped their relationship, what hurdles they...

Happy New Year and enjoy this re-release as we work on a big episode for next week!  Find Dan at danielanear.com

This episode is part 2 to last week's about the Dreaded Drama Triangle.  Learn how you can flip the script on the vortex that is the Drama Triangle, and change your mindset into a more empowered one.  Find more info into Dan's practice HERE  Book an appointment with Dan HERE   Stay Curious!

Do you find yourself stuck in relational dynamics that are just never-ending drama? You want to break out of it, but feel powerless to the pull of the drama and the familiar cycles.  On this episode we share a very simple and yet profound model to look at these dynamics called the Drama Triangle. You will hear:  - what is the Drama Triangle and how it shows up in popular culture, religio...

You may be in a situation in your relationship that you feel completely powerless over. You don't like how your life is going, but you don't know how you could possibly change things. You are tired of the status-quo, and feel like if your partner could change, then things would be better.  But what if you have more power than you think? What if changing yourself or the way you interact with t...

Intro to our new ongoing series where we will be interviewing couples about how understanding personality types has impacted their relationships.  Dan and Caitlin discuss some examples of how personality types have massively helped their relationships and those of clients.  danielanear.com

Do you feel like you and your partner have started drifting apart, or lost your spark? Or you're feeling bored in your relationship?  Maybe a baby will fix it!  This is a question that is often asked, and Dan speaks to this as a marriage therapist.  Is having a baby an experience that may bring you and your spouse closer together than before? Definitely!  Will it amplify the issues that were alrea...

Dan talks about a concept he uses in his practice, which was coined by Terry Real as "Bad Deals". This is when a couple gets into a pattern or unspoken agreement that really doesn't work for either of them, but they just keep continuing their side of the "bargain" because they are just stuck and aren't aware of another way of operating.  Dan also shares how he works with couples who are in th...

Caitlin has her little sister, Heidi, in for a chat about the Enneagram. Heidi is a certified Enneagram Coach and takes us through an overview of what the Enneagram is and a brief rundown of all the numbers. She also shares how she uses the Enneagram as a coach and how it has made a huge difference in the ways that she approaches her life and relationships.  It was so fun to witness her impre...

Dan and Caitlin share a huge change they've undertaken as a family. They've recently moved from Adelaide, Australia to live in Caitlin's hometown in Minnesota, USA.  You'll hear a bit about the reason for this big move and also plans for Dan's practice going forward.   Dan is an INFJ and Caitlin is an ISFJ in the Myers-Briggs system, and anyone who knows a little bit about IxxJ's knows t...

We're back! We've been quiet on here, for reasons we'll explain in the next episode. But we're back with this chat about what it means to be curious in life and especially in relationships. Are you more likely to get stuck in your own perspective or are you able to keep an open frame of mind? How can we change these impulses to embrace curiosity?  Find more including bookings for appointments...

Solo episode from Dan discussing the downfalls of using only logic and facts when working through relationship issues. 

To round out our series on the Gottman Method, we have an interview with Psychologist Steve Wiese who has been working with couples and singles for over 30 years and using the Gottman Method for nearly 20.  Steve talks about the research-based tools that he uses with couples - things to build their fondness and admiration for each other, how to maximise the dreams and priorities of both peopl...

This is the final episode of our 4-part series on the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  We outline what stonewalling is, and why it happens. We talk about why someone who is stonewalling and appears calm is actually anything but calm. And we give you some excellent ways to remedy the situation if you are finding this an issue with your partner.  Look out next episode for a bonu...

This is our third episode in the series on the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" . Dan and Caitlin discuss contempt: what it looks like, what is behind it, and why it is the number one predictor of divorce. We also discuss what the antidote is - what you can do about it if you see it in your relationship, and how to avoid it in the first place.  Find Dan: Bookings and relationships...

Dan and Caitlin discuss the second of the Gottman Institute's 4 Horsemen: Defensiveness. Do you find in your relationship that whenever one of you bring up an issue, the other person gets immediately defensive and either shuts down or goes on the attack? This is a common issue, and one that can lead to much worse dynamics in the future if it's not addressed. The good news is, though, that there is...