Convergence

Brendan is holding space and being held up by many hands. Mark is done with giving 120% and is ready to ut bak on some stuff (not this podcast, though). Links Drop the Dead Donkey The Chimp Paradox , by Steve Peters Self-Compassion , by Kristin Neff

Brendan returns to Darkenshrub, and Mark gets grumpy in London.

Mark is almost at a podcast conference. Brendan is juggling men's retreat options. And together they plot to save the world.

Mark has an idea for an app, Brendan had a revolution while dancing, and the boys have some advice on mopping. Links Simple Marketing For Smart People , by Billy Broas, Tiago Forte & Ali Abdaal Moral Ambition , by Rutger Bregman Pulp – Common People Quotes by Alan Watts

Brendan be dodging balls, Mark be watching The Pitt, they both be watching Sinners, and Michael B Jordan.

Brendan moved his mum into a new care facility, Mark reconnected with his therapist, and the pair reflect on creating intentional routines, reducing digital distractions, and their dreams.

Brendan and Mark have questions and thoughts around moderation, and Brendan has questions for Mark on his sleep. (00:00) - Stumbling into failure (00:07) - Mark is weirdly on his shit (00:52) - Brendan is on his shit (04:25) - Brendan has thoughts on moderation (14:28) - Mark has a pending relevation (25:12) - Brendan doesn't trust the messages his body gives him (28:09) - Mark tries to grapple wi...

The boys mostly talk about sugar, both in chocolate form a la Easter, and in pill form via placebo. (00:00) - The most thing is sugar (01:17) - Brendan describes needing a hug (03:18) - Mark describes his norming (06:10) - Mark mourns a friend (10:30) - Brendan and Mark spoil an episode of Black Mirror (16:57) - Mark describes a book (18:51) - Mark and Brendan appreciate Paul Giamati (22:00) - Bre...

Mark and Brendan figure out how to talk to people in real life. (00:00) - Is this what normal people do? (00:19) - Brendan got a visit from his mom (03:00) - Mark dreamt of Brendan (06:03) - Brendan went to a trade show (27:07) - Mark recounts his public speaking journey (45:07) - Mark reckons with his unlikeability as a child (56:46) - Mark makes a metaphor (59:21) - The pair talk about assertive...

Mark encourages Brendan to make short-form video... not at all because he has started making his own. (00:00) - Y'all are welomed to the show (03:42) - Mark wouldn't call a dude "love" (05:19) - Mark says "y'all" ironically (08:28) - Undo is now monetised (17:17) - Brendan's killing it running a meditation group (22:25) - David chimes in (23:16) - Brendan questions his medium (32:55) - Brendan's g...

Mark opens a can of worms full of aspartame, and Brendan has both joined a dodgeball league and started a meditation circle. Now who's being a productive dynamo!? (00:00) - Now I have a bag of pegs (00:42) - Dopamine Nation (07:52) - Does Mark trust Brendan? (19:09) - Mark pokes the bear on aspartame (38:47) - Brendan brings up the Potato Famine (40:08) - Mark was write about community (44:09) - M...

Brendan and Mark kind of have a fight a little bit. In as much as two enneagram 9s can. (00:00) - We're senseless to our selves (00:59) - Mark's chat history (05:22) - Brendan and the holy trinity (13:59) - Mark gets triggered by the word "recover" (27:56) - The tug of war (38:33) - Another parable of the blind man (43:05) - Part 1 of Mark trying to make a short-form video series (49:46) - A men's...

Our heroes navigate freelancing and money, and Brendan has an update for Mark on fasting, courtesy of everyone's favourite large language model. (00:00) - Playing myself at Magic the Gathering (00:12) - Brendan consulted ChatGPT on fasting (06:16) - The YouTube diet (12:31) - The forthcoming men's group (14:11) - Make a plan B (19:25) - Just exist (28:21) - Freelance hubris (36:43) - We don't have...

Brendan's not eating again, and Mark has opinions about education. (00:00) - Cheesecake (04:46) - Brendan is not eating (17:32) - Teaching by experience vs study (19:47) - Profit vs compensation (28:20) - Study vs experience revisited (47:04) - Finding intrinsic confidence in your work (01:09:12) - Only Correct Links Wake Up and Open Your Eyes , by Clay McLeod Chapman

Mark's vibrating internally but has got some funky stuff cooking, and Brendan still wants Mark to stop using TikTok. (00:00) - Brendan's tree joke (00:20) - Manic Mark (03:18) - Undo update (08:52) - It's all coming together (22:17) - Big changes and ADHD (25:32) - Pathologising a good time (29:59) - r/blocked (38:48) - Brendan tries to deprogramme Mark from TikTok again (52:18) - Brendan's duck j...

Brendan's going to church and Mark's starting a choir. No, like, really. Links The Problem with Time & Timezones (00:00) - They're just trying to have a Tuesday (00:12) - Mark's other podcast (11:44) - C90 Community Chorus (32:52) - Life starts now (35:06) - Brendan's going to a church (46:56) - God is a woman (56:14) - A means of control (01:05:52) - 7 days (01:08:14) - Timezones

Brendan has an app idea and a new tattoo, and the boys both watched The Menu . And have things to say. (Spoiler: they liked it.) (00:00) - No powders (00:14) - The Godmode app (20:49) - Mark has discovered Substack (27:55) - Content as an act of service (29:47) - Brendan got a tattoo (39:42) - The wolf that wins is the one you feed (52:16) - The Menu Links The Menu (2022) Triangle of Sadness (2022...

Brendan and Mark talk about pain, shame, and programming; Mark does a recce of Brendan's website;  (00:00) - I am more bit than man (00:49) - A nice little shop (04:23) - Being essential (07:30) - What doing business looks like in 2025 (16:33) - Raising rates (20:37) - Positioning (30:42) - From me to you (32:17) - Mark's regular "how do I make a reliable income" wobble (38:04) - Brendan's website...

Mark's chair is broken, Brendan is still obsessed with The Cable Guy, and AI always has to have the last word. Links Shell Game Guns Akimbo (2019) Deep Questions with Cal Newport We Can Do Hard Things

Brendan and Mark are back in their respective homes, coming down to earth and discussing music, dancing, numbing, and more. Links My Pink Half of the Drainpipe , by the Bonzo Dog Doo-Dah Band Open Arms , by Elbow Anjunabeats SMART goals are not so smart: make a PACT instead Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom , by Connor Beaton How to Begin: Sta...

Brendan and Mark celebrated Brendan's 40th by being in the same city together yet again. This time it was Brendan's turn to host Mark, and so the pair recount their adventure. Links Watch the boys smash stuff up Brendan's 40th birthday dance party (00:00) - We're just going to be here until I can drive again (00:12) - Mark's been up mountains (03:10) - Brendan turned 40 (08:06) - Get Better (15:26...

Mark is packing to see Brendan who's building a bathroom. Also there's talk of vaccinations, what to do when your friends won't join you on your journey to understand yourself and the world better, and why there is a mathematically correct politics. Links Break the Mold: 5 Tools to Conquer Mold and Take Back Your Health , by Jill Crista (00:00) - It's not paranoia if they really are out to get you...

Friend of the show Billie Proffitt joins Brendan and Mark to discuss fasting, the stars, and how our choices affect the outside world (Mark's jury is still out). And there is a Tune Tumult to adjudicate. (00:00) - Silent heart shapes (01:23) - Fasting content (10:05) - What we teach our kids about food (15:51) - Your strange addiction is valid (21:11) - Brendan's fasting update (23:37) - You;'re o...

Mark snet Brendan a photo of himself in the bath... and also had to go to hospital. Meanwhile, Brendan is becoming more comfortable as the face of Godmode – and there's a v1 document draft! (00:00) - Episode 54 (00:36) - Mark's hypertensive crisis (18:23) - Godmode v0.1 (41:07) - The face of Godmode (46:14) - Capitalism and medicine (50:43) - Stop doing everything (55:30) - Kassablanca (01:04:25)...

What tactical deployment of the word "bro" can do for men who need to call out other men. Also, a rundown of Heretic , which the pair saw this week. (00:00) - 2024-11-24 Episode 53 (01:17) - Brendan's birthday playlist (03:38) - Mark's 40 hour fast (09:19) - Brendan got a splinter (14:42) - Men can't help themselves (28:07) - Emasculation vs objectification (35:15) - Bro (39:55) - Masculine and fe...