Connection Codes

Everyone has a childhood, a past before we met our partner. Those formative years shape how we are showing up in our relationships today- whether we realize it or not. Today, we share a bit about areas of our childhood that are currently affecting us. Phyllis dives into how her childhood shut off the recognition of anger & how she has lived her life being the "good girl."  Learn more abou...

One person is craving, actually desperate for physical touch. While the other is touched out or unaware of it's power. Today, we are diving into the science of physical touch and the practicalities of it. Physical touch is more than a love language, it is a human need. This episode we talk sex, motherhood and caring for young kids, conflicts-- it is full of goodness you don't want to miss. Valenti...

Are you already feeling a sense of dread that Valentine's is around the corner so it is a guaranteed night you will need to show up sexually? Or are you anticipating the night because it has been a while since you have experienced a sexual encounter? Either way-- there can be a lot of emotional pain around sex for this particular holiday. Today- we are addressing our experiences & our mindset...

The Bible says, "Do not fear." "Do not worry about tomorrow." So, what does that actually mean? Is it wrong to process and feel these emotions? What about identity? Is it wrong to lose our identity with our partner if it is only found in Christ? We are talking about the Connection Codes and Christianity with Pastors Josh & Joni Tanner. They dive into what they have learned & how they can s...

It was late at night while laying in bed, Elijah had an epiphany- he was experiencing a disorder of the psyche. This pattern was affecting his wife, his kids, and his perception of himself. He was caught in a pattern. And now that he was aware of it- he can begin to process. This is true for so many people. We walk around being knocked off course due to our psyche being flooded.  This episode...

When is the last time you changed your mind? How often do you say the name of the grocery clerk bagging your groceries? When did you last pause and connect with your neighbor? Carlos Whittaker is sharing the moment his life was transformed because someone saw him-- really saw him. And how that moment was the launching point of how he now devotes his life to seeing others. He is a natural story tel...

Do you want more out of life? Do you wonder what steps to take to get to the next level? To wrap up our beginning of the year series, we brought in Sky Hill- Dr Glenn & Phyllis' son- who shares what he has experienced over the last year to transform his life. He shares the biggest question he has asked himself to get to this change & make it last.  Find out more about the Connection C...

We set our goals- but we fail to reach them because we don’t create the habits it takes to succeed. We break down why habits are important, where people fail, and tips on how to make them.

Ever wonder how to set goals? What mindset helps you actually achieve your goals? We are diving into the emotions involved in goal setting and how to set yourself up for success. 

Do you ever find that you are trying to process your emotions but your partner isn't on board to participate? They may say that they don't feel certain emotions... or emotions at all. It can be hard to navigate improving your relationship when it feels one sided. Today, we answering a question from a listener who is wanting her husband to go all in with her on this journey.  Download the Core...

Why do people fight after they leave therapy? Why aren't date nights helping your marriage? Do you ever feel like you are trying things but getting no where? Today, we are talking about the processes of breaking down the dams that have been built in your relationship. We share what that can look and feel like.  We often say these tools are simple-- but they aren't always easy. Today, we share...

Dr Glenn says, we know the exact number of humans who need help in the world. And that number is 100%. All humans need help... because they are human. Today, we answer a question from a listener who writes in seeking help for her husband who is struggling with depression. We share our stories & give insight to how she can walk with him through this season and give the support that he needs. If...

In session with Elijah & Christina as they share the tools that have transformed how the communicate with each other & how it has helped them individually grow. While we do talk a lot about marriage & relationships-- these tools are for people.... individuals.... you. And Elijah & Christina share all about how they have changed their individual lives for the better, thus creating a...

Lots of emotions come up around family-- your family, your partner's family, the absence of family, the stress of all the tasks to be done. It can be a lot. We are going to talk about communicating expectations, staying connected, and how to partner with each other to not just survive it-- but come out feeling unified. www.connectioncodes.co  Foundations Course

Feel alone at times in your relationship? Have you ever thought it felt like you were talking to a wall? Do you ever freeze up and feel unable to respond? Today, we break down what a still face is-- and how it is creating damage in our relationships and we don't even know it.  Foundations Masterclass: www.connectioncodes.co/foundationscourse Watch the Still face experiment: https://youtu.be/Y...

 What is the right thing to do for grief? What do we say? How do we support someone the best way? Phyllis shared on an episode a few weeks ago about the sadness she was feeling about her mother's passing 8 years ago. She shared how it affected her then & how it affects her today. Today she shares how those closest to her did & can show up... and what you can do too.

Emotional connection? Sex Toys? Masturbation? Setting boundaries? Today, we cover some of the top questions we have been asked.  Late Night: https://www.connectioncodes.co/latenight

Many of us have something that we experience that isn't deemed acceptable-- it is sinful or unlawful. But, we still experience it. The problem comes when we don't process the emotion driving the action. It leads us to further want to participate in the potentially harmful activity. We talk about why the power of community is so important here and Phyllis vulnerably shares as she processes the grie...

"Relational issues are dealt with in relationship."  Today Dr Glenn & Phyllis share their views on when it is right for individual help or help as a couple. Tera shares her past trauma that she thought was no longer affecting her relationship - but realizes it is.  To book an in person or zoom session with Dr Glenn & Phyllis: https://www.connectioncodes.co/private-session To lear...

There are growing pains in your relationship journey. From the moment you learn new tools until the moment your relationship becomes safe and secure. Today, we are answering a question from a listener on what those in between moments look like. And the small shifts to make that will make a big impact. To learn more: www.connectioncodes.co  To download the core emotion wheel:  https://www...

Do you or your partner finding yourself not desiring sex very often... or not at all? Well, you aren't alone. We have been hearing about the low libido diagnosis for years & the array of medication you can take to mask the problem But what if it isn't caused by what you think? Get to the root cause & find the desire you are looking for. To find out more go to connectioncodes.co

It is common for one partner to process their feelings much faster than the other. The fast process partner can feel unloved because they aren't getting the response they are needing. And the slower process partner can feel overwhelmed by the intensity coming at them. Dr Glenn & Phyllis share about a recent moment that Phyllis needed time to sort through what was happening for her. And how get...

There are moments in marriage we that we wish our partner would change. We even subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) try to change them. Today's episode is about learning to connect with each other while accepting each other's differences. It is also about how to recognize when something actually does need to shift & how to approach it. To find out more about us go to connectioncodes.co...

It is a myth that men only want sex for a few seconds of pleasure. There is actually something much deeper they are craving. We answer a question from a listener about what he is wanting from his wife. She is exhausted & is tired of having sex out of duty. Listen as Dr Glenn & Phyllis share their perspective & Tera shares her experience. To find out more go to www.connectioncodes.co To...

There are obvious things depleting us from energy: stressful job, parenthood, bills... but there are also the less than obvious moments that chip away at us each day. Today, we reveal what those look like for us & challenge you to find it in your own life. We also flip the script and give a tip on how to gain energy in a fun & easy way.  Learn more: www.connectioncodes.co