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I had a coaching call recently with a mom who was stuck in the exhausting cycle of yelling, feeling guilty, and then yelling again. Right in the middle of our session something clicked for her, and I thought, everyone needs to hear this. Here's what shifted everything: what if instead of trying to stop feeling triggered, we focused on developing the capacity to feel everything and still paren...

Acceptance is one of those words that sounds soft but is actually some of the hardest work you'll ever do. I know because I've lived it, including a moment sitting across from my husband at dinner where I had to stop mid-conversation, cover my mouth with my hands, and just breathe through everything I was feeling before I could say another word. That moment didn't happen by accident...

This episode is personal. I spent years letting people live rent free in my brain, specifically a few women who had once been my closest friends and then made it very clear they didn't like me. I was destroyed by it. I tried everything to get them to like me again. It never worked. What came out of that experience changed me as a parent and as a human. Because here's what I had to learn...

When one of my daughters was refusing to go to bed every single night, my first instinct was to fix it. But when I paused and actually got curious about what was going on, she told me she was scared to be alone. Her behavior wasn't defiance. It was fear. That's what this episode is about. Over 95% of our kids' problem behavior was never intentional, and when we treat it like somethi...

Regret shows up often in parenting, but it doesn’t have to keep us stuck.  In this episode, I explore how regret can become a tool for growth instead of a weapon we use against ourselves. We’ll talk about the difference between regret that leads to learning and regret that keeps us spinning, how to shift from past-focused rumination to future-focused growth, and a simple framework I use to turn re...

Every season of growth asks something of us. In this episode, I’m talking about self-doubt, not as a problem to fix, but as a signal that you’re stretching into your next level. Whether it’s parenting, personal growth, or the work of becoming who you’re meant to be, doubt often shows up right before expansion. We’ll talk about why growth doesn’t feel easy, how self-doubt is part of the process, an...

What if there’s no such thing as a hard day? In this episode, I explore how we unknowingly assign meaning to our days, and how that meaning shapes how we feel, how we show up, and who we become. I talk about why discouragement and self-doubt aren’t signs that something has gone wrong, but signals that growth is happening. We’ll look at how parenting challenges, emotional discomfort, and everyday s...

When kids go “off track,” it’s easy to see the behavior as disrespect, defiance, or a problem that needs fixing. In this episode, I reframe behavior as information, a signal from a dysregulated nervous system, not a character flaw. You’ll learn: What off-track behavior is actually telling you Why punishment and rewards rarely create lasting change How to stay calm, connected, and in the lead when...

In today’s episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast , we’re talking about embodying emotions. NOT just noticing them, NOT just allowing them, but fully living inside the emotional experience while simultaneously creating from the end in mind . I’m sharing ten lessons I’ve learned about emotional embodiment through real, everyday experiences, from almost running out of battery in my Tesla wh...

It’s not your mood that creates the life you want. It’s your state. Your way of being. Your identity. The assumptions you live and act from every single day. In this episode, we explore why chasing the right mood or the perfect plan doesn’t work, and what actually creates lasting change instead. You’ll learn the difference between mood and state, why identity comes before evidence, and how choosin...

Most parents don’t say they feel defeated. They say they’re overwhelmed. They say nothing is working. They wonder what’s wrong with them. In this episode, I talk about what defeat actually is and why it feels so intense in parenting and marriage. We separate facts from meaning. We stop making defeat personal. And we use it instead of letting it push us toward quitting. Learn more here --> ...

“Weakness simply means your capacity is lower than what the moment requires.” I recorded this episode in the middle of a full, emotional, end-of-year season. The kind where you want to soak up every moment with your kids, make the holidays meaningful, and still somehow hold it all together… while feeling stretched, tired, and not quite like yourself. And that’s exactly why I wanted to talk about w...

When emotions hurt, most of us go straight into fix-it mode. We try to shut it down, numb it out, control our kids, or control the moment. But in this episode, Andee shares why the goal isn’t to eliminate “negative” emotions. The goal is to move through them so they can actually complete and release. You’ll hear a real-life holiday-season story (cruise chaos, kids growing up, and all the tendernes...

This week we are diving into a concept that has completely changed the way I move through my life. It is the difference between low quality problems and high quality problems. Once you learn this, you cannot unsee it. Over the last eighteen months I have been in a season packed with transitions. Business shifts, kids returning and launching, midlife changes, perimenopause, parenting big kids and t...

This week, we are exploring what it really means to practice gratituding in the moment you are in. I’ll show you how shifting out of “life will feel better when…” into “this moment matters right now” can change your entire emotional experience. Together, we will look at why it doesn’t get better than this, not because everything is perfect, but because the present is the only place your brain can...

This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance. After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. T...

In this episode, we’re talking about something that sits at the heart of connected parenting: your emotional capacity.   Your ability to feel your own emotions directly shapes how you help your children navigate theirs. I’m sharing the exact moment a client realized why she kept snapping at her kids, and how one shift opened the door to calmer, more connected parenting. We’ll walk through what emo...

In this episode, I’m diving into something you probably didn’t realize is shaping your parenting every single day…the quiet questions running in the background of your brain. Most parents think the problem is their kids’ behavior. But so much of what we experience as “hard parenting moments” comes from the questions we’re unconsciously asking ourselves —questions like: Why can’t they just listen?...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding . Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life. I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old...

The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts. They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life. Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and st...

This episode is one I've been wanting to do for a while because thought work is truly the foundation of everything we do in Connect Method Parenting. And I know "thought work" might sound intimidating or like some woo-woo concept, but I promise you—it's the most practical, life-changing tool you can have as a parent. The biggest problem isn't that we go into fight or fligh...

Today we’re talking about what it really means to guide your child through big emotions. Not fix them. Not rush them. Just guide them. Think of yourself as the traffic director for your child’s emotions. You’re not trying to stop the traffic. You’re not trying to control it. You’re there to help it move safely in the right direction. In this episode, we’ll talk about: Why your child’s emotions are...

Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment. Nature’s answer to separation is not independence. It is connection.  Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart. In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being full...

We talk a lot about emotions, regulation, and connection—but underneath all of it is belief. What we believe about ourselves, our kids, and what’s possible determines everything that follows. In this episode, I dive into the discipline of belief—the conscious, daily practice of choosing thoughts that align with who you’re becoming instead of who you’ve been. We’ll talk about why your nervous syste...

This week we’re talking about weakness. The parts of us we try to hide, fix, or wish away. But what if weakness isn’t bad? What if it’s actually where our strength grows? In this episode, I talk about how being hard on yourself never helps, how to see your weak spots with kindness, and why loving all parts of you makes you a calmer, happier parent. You’ll learn how to: Stop beating yourself up whe...