Conflict Skills

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode discusses 3 underrated conflict skills that are effective in various situations. He emphasizes the importance of not taking things personally, remaining composed in the face of adversity, and the unexpected skill of giving 51%. Simon provides practical insights and strategies for improving these abilities, highlighting their impact o...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode shares valuable insights and practical tips for navigating annoying family interactions during the holiday season. He emphasizes the importance of managing stress, setting boundaries, and focusing on meaningful experiences while dealing with difficult family members. Through strategies for self-regulation, boundary-setting, and goal-...

On this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode, a self-proclaimed introvert, explores the challenges introverts face when dealing with conflict. He offers valuable strategies such as the importance of preparation, tools for managing difficult conversations, and the five conflict modes—avoid, accommodate, compromise, compete, and collaborate—that introverts can employ. Listeners a...

In this episode, host Simon Goode discusses managing conflict during organizational change, specifically when the change is outside of people's control. He applies the stages of grief model by Elizabeth Kubler Ross to analyze staff reactions to change, providing examples of shock, denial, frustration, and depression, and offering strategies to support staff at each stage. Simon also emphasize...

In Episode 32 of the Conflict Skills Podcast, we explore the complex issue of parent and grandparent conflict, specifically focusing on when grandparents have limited contact with grandchildren. A number of strategies for managing these conflicts are provided, with an emphasis on the importance of self-care and self-regulation before looking at practical communication techniques. Overall, this epi...

In this episode, we'll be exploring a step-by-step structure for these difficult conversations, including how to approach the other person's perspective, conveying understanding, and problem-solving collaboratively. This episode is part of a series on repairing friendships, so if you've missed the previous episodes, be sure to check them out for valuable insights. Click here to send...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, we discuss the art of apologising to a friend - to repair a relationship and hopefully introduce a turning point for a more positive direction in your friendship. You will learn the five different types of apologies as well as how and when to use each type. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support the show Thank you so much for liste...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, we explore the topic of repairing a relationship with a friend. We consider the importance of understanding the subjective nature of relationships and the need for curiosity and empathy in the repair process. Tips on how to approach conversations with friends, emphasizing the value of being gentle, kind, and unassuming while avoiding criticism. Click...

This episode is about how to deal with people who are dominating a meeting you are in. Simon explains the 5 different options for dealing with this kind of behaviour and how to figure out which approach will work best in your situation. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support the show Thank you so much for listening! I'd love to know what you think and connect.  website: sim...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, we dive into the topic of how to deal with a defensive employee. As a professional mediator, I share strategies for effective communication to minimize resistance and defensiveness. We also explore the importance of self-care and regulating our own emotions when faced with defensive behavior. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support...

Why are we wired to be judgmental? What happens in our brain when we engage in this behavior, and how can we reduce it? In this episode, we'll explore the science behind judgment and delve into strategies that can help decrease our judgmental tendencies. Being judgmental towards others can hinder our ability to resolve conflicts, empathize with others, and even influence their behavior. But i...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, I discuss meditation. Now, when you try to google search for 'mediation' (as in conflict resolution type of mediation). it always autocorrects to 'meditation' (as in sitting crosslegged chanting etc.). So even though I always described myself as a mediator, I suspect the universe misinterpreted and I've become a mediator! In...

In this episode I discuss the approach I take to reflective practice. This is an incredibly helpful tool to prevent the buildup of negative impact for yourself as well as helping you clarify how to respond to a situation (rather than just reacting). I talk about a personal conflict situation and how I apply this framework to resolve negative thought patterns and figure out a plan for moving forwar...

In today's episode, we'll be diving into the topic of how to stop ruminating and intrusive thoughts. We all know how overwhelming it can be when our minds get stuck on thoughts about the past or worries about the future. But there are strategies we can use to regain control and bring ourselves back to the present moment. Join me as I share some powerful techniques to help you break free...

Learn techniques to calm someone down when are in fight or flight mode. In this podcast I provide a practical framework for de-escalation that can be used in work, family or other conflicts. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support the show Thank you so much for listening! I'd love to know what you think and connect.  website: simongoode.com  email: podcast@simongoode.com

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, I discuss the challenges and stress of managing conflicts between two staff members. I provide a practical framework that can be used as an outline for approaching the conversation. By naming the issue, empathizing, coaching, and following through, managers can effectively address conflicts and promote a healthier working relationship within their te...

In episode 20 of the Conflict Skills podcast, professional mediator Simon Goode discusses effective strategies for dealing with toxic people at work. He emphasizes the importance of empathy and boundaries when interacting with these individuals, highlighting the need for self-awareness and self-care to mitigate the negative impact they can have. Through understanding the underlying causes of toxic...

In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, join host Simon Goode as he explores the delicate art of disagreeing with your boss. Tune in to discover practical tips and strategies for navigating these challenging conversations while maintaining professionalism and fostering productive outcomes. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support the show Thank you so much for listening! I...

In this episode I answer a common question - "How can I feel more confident dealing with conflict". Our feelings are connected to our thoughts and behaviour, and I discuss a number of strategies for changing how we feel by leveraging our thoughts (the story we tell our selves, our expectations, our sense of responsibility for an issue) and our behaviour (self-care, preparing for conflict...

In this episode, I talk about how to give an ultimatum effectively. This is an effective way of dealing with problematic behaviour in an assertive way whilst minimising the chance of defensiveness and resistance. The approach I suggest can be used in workplace conflict as well as in parenting relationships or other personal conflict situations. Of course, you can't control the behaviour of th...

In this episode of the podcast, I talk about how to deal with a situation where someone keeps using their phone inappropriately at work. This is a common challenges for a lot of businesses and as people continue to become more addicted to their phones, it will likely not be something that goes away any time soon. When staff are using their phone at work it can create a range of issues, from declin...

In this episode I discuss how to confront someone making negative comments. Click here to send me a quick message via FanMail Support the show Thank you so much for listening! I'd love to know what you think and connect.  website: simongoode.com  email: podcast@simongoode.com

In this episode I respond to a question that I was sent by a listener. The situation involves someone acting as Team Leader, which is always a challenging situation as you move into a position of authority with people who were previously your peers. It's particularly challenging when this is a temporary situation and you will return to your former role in the future. I discuss some of the way...

In this episode, I talk about why conflict causes us so much stress and a framework to reflect on a situation to gain awareness. I explain the connection between thought, feeling and behaviour and how when we become aware of what negative rumination and emotions are costing us, it opens the door for us to become serious about change. Healing during conflict is inherently difficult due to the fact...

Many of us have been in relationships that have suddenly gone sour. Your partner seems irritable and defensiveness, your boss suddenly becomes critical and erratic or maybe a friend just seems a bit distant. In relationships these experiences often prompt different reactions from us, which, when interpreted negatively by the other person, can lead to issues getting worse over time. In this episode...