Confessions of a Recovering Micromanaging Perfectionist Martyr

Lately, I’ve caught myself stressing about not having “enough”—whether it’s food, time, or hand sanitizer. But this scarcity mindset reminded me of my secret pact with my closet: when I need something, the right shoes always seem to be there. This simple faith in “enough” is something I want to apply to all areas of life right now. In this episode, I reflect on how trusting in abundance can quiet...

This weekend, as I celebrate both my birthday and the blog’s third anniversary, I’m reflecting on my relationship with Ambition. Over the years, I thought ambition only drove my professional goals, but I now see she’s been with me in every area of life—pushing me to pursue self-growth, seek happiness, and become the best version of myself. In this episode, I share how ambition shows up not only in...

With the pandemic shifting our daily routines, I’ve noticed that even small changes—like moving less or snacking more—are impacting how I feel in my body. This week, I reflect on how little adjustments in diet and activity add up and how those changes affect both my mood and sense of well-being. Join me as I explore what it takes to regain balance and feel good again, from mindful eating to daily...

Sometimes, the best support comes from those closest to us. In this episode, I share how a video call with my sisters-in-law turned into “Sister-Church,” a Sunday ritual that’s quickly become essential. These connections offer a safe space for honest sharing, guidance, and laughter—a foundation of love and trust that benefits not only us but our entire family. Join me as I reflect on the power of...

Life during COVID-19 can feel as frustrating as parenting a toddler. In this episode, I reflect on how toddlers handle the world—and how their simplicity might be the perfect approach right now. From taking pride in little achievements to feeling emotions fully, these small steps could be the key to redefining “thriving” during corona. Join me as I embrace a toddler-inspired reset, finding humor a...

Adapting on the fly has become our new normal during COVID-19, especially with our family’s “Social Distance Academy.” Inspired by the true meaning of Darwin’s survival of the “most adaptable,” I’m learning that making changes based on what’s best for everyone isn’t just about survival—it’s about growth. Join me as I share how adapting (over and over!) is helping our family thrive, even when patie...

Living under the same roof 24/7 during COVID-19 has brought new family challenges, and sometimes, backing off is the best way to show love. In this episode, I share what I’ve learned about “weathering the storm” of family frustration: I can’t control lightning, and I don’t have to stay in a storm. Join me as I reflect on how stepping back and warning others when I’m about to blow helps keep the pe...

We’re all having a laugh over staying in pajamas during social distancing, but I’ve noticed that my productivity depends on how put-together I feel. In this episode, I share how getting dressed—even just for myself—boosts my mood, productivity, and how I treat others. Join me as I talk about why my “corona-self-care” routine has become part of my family-care routine too, and how small steps like t...

As our family navigates the realities of COVID-19, we’re asking ourselves the same questions we do after visiting history museums: Who do we want to be in this moment? This episode is a reflection on using this unprecedented time to become the people we admire from the past. I’ll also share an update on our “Social Distance Academy”—the routines, lessons, and ways we’re staying connected as we tac...

After years of knowing what I need to feel joy and peace, I’m finally learning to honor those needs without guilt or resentment. In this episode, I reflect on how my “martyr cloak” kept me from asking for support—and how setting boundaries helps me show up better for myself and my family. Join me as I explore what it takes to ditch the martyr act and declare, unapologetically, “I got this.” JoinTe...

As the world slows down, I’m realizing that this time with my family may be an opportunity for healing rather than fear. In this episode, I reflect on how the forced pause has revealed a chance to heal myself, my relationships, and my family dynamics. What I once thought was impossible—everything just stopping—has become reality, and I’m ready to embrace whatever lessons emerge. Join me in listeni...

As the school closure looms, I’m preparing to tackle homeschooling in my own way—teaching my kids real-life lessons like tipping etiquette, checkbook balancing, and “History of Me” class. But beyond the logistics of running “home school,” my biggest challenge will be the distance from friends and loved ones facing tough battles, from illness to anxiety. Join me as I share why, while I may not be i...

In this special episode, I’m reflecting on a season spent with the GHS Girls Hockey Team, whose friendships—both on and off the ice—reminded me how none of us face life’s highs or lows alone. Join me for a heartfelt look at the strength in community, shared support, and the moments that bring us together, no matter what life throws our way. 🏒✨ CLICK HERE TO VIEW THE 2019-2020 GIRLS HOCKEY VIDEO...

How do you know if you're following God's will or your own? In this episode, I reflect on the difference between forcing a plan and allowing life to unfold. While hard work and patience are often part of the journey, I’ve learned that God’s path never demands force. Join me as I explore how surrendering control can bring less struggle and more peace, even when life’s timing doesn’t match...

Ever feel like your "serenity engine" needs a tune-up? In this episode, I share how quickly my healthy habits slip when life gets grim and how easy it is to go from meditating at night to bingeing true-crime podcasts. With New England’s grey days creeping in, I’m refocusing on routine maintenance—bringing back the meditation, exercise, and nutrition that fuel my sanity. Join me as I work...

We love those movie moments when the hero conquers the villain, but real life doesn’t always work that way. In this episode, I reflect on my trip to Memphis and how it reminded me of the millions who never had the freedom to fight back. I explore how, in my own life, finding freedom isn’t about conquering anyone—it’s about summoning the courage to free myself from the hold that fear and difficult...

This Valentine’s season, I’m reflecting on the challenge of loving people, especially when it feels hard. Often, my frustration in relationships comes from wanting to “fix” things for those I care about, but I’m beginning to realize that true love is about letting go—not walking away, but trusting God’s plan and allowing others to make their own choices. Join me as I explore why loving people is e...

Ever met a “Supreme Court Justice” in a twelve-year-old’s body? In today’s episode, we’re celebrating our daughter’s fierce sense of justice and compassion. From schooling us on fairness to navigating sibling rivalries with wisdom beyond her years, she’s an everyday reminder of kindness, equality, and a little dose of retribution where it’s due. Join us for a heartfelt and humorous look at life wi...

I’d like to think I have a solid handle on embracing life’s little curveballs—until a family member makes me late! In this episode, I dive into the struggle of showing compassion over exasperation when those closest to me mess up. Inspired by my desire to live with faith and acceptance, I’m working on seeing these family “inconveniences” as opportunities for grace rather than frustration. Join me...

Ever notice how it feels easier to give to someone who doesn’t always want more from you? In this episode, I explore the impact of feeling “never enough” and how it shapes our connections. When we don’t accept what others offer or constantly expect more, we may unintentionally push people away. Join me as I reflect on how to create a sense of ease in relationships—by giving and receiving with appr...

Ever have a small household task reveal something deeper? For G-Man and me, it’s laundry—and my wish to do my own doesn’t make sense to him. Through this ongoing “wash-bin” issue, I’ve realized that true honor doesn’t require understanding or agreement. It’s about respecting someone’s preferences, even when they don’t align with our own. Join me as I explore why honoring others is most meaningful...

When my daughter’s vegetarian order came with chicken, I jumped to fix it—not just because she was hungry, but because I wanted to honor her choice. This small act reminded me of the line between honoring and spoiling, and how much our kids benefit when we respect who they’re becoming. In this episode, I reflect on the ways we can show our children we see and appreciate them without overindulging....

Sometimes, the simplest acts are the most powerful. In this episode, I share a memorable toast from a recent dinner that reminded me of the impact of just showing up for others. Inspired by a friend’s appreciation for presence over advice or gifts, I’m entering the new year with a focus on the beauty of simply being there for those I love. Join me as I reflect on this “just show up” philosophy and...

Are you ready to declutter and start fresh after the holidays? In this episode, I’m embracing my “slow gratification” list of self-care habits, like putting Christmas away early and making little changes to kick off the New Year with calm and clarity. Join me as I share how acts of love—like prepping, organizing, and putting things where I like them—help me rely less on others for happiness. This...

Ever feel like you’re one meltdown away from losing holiday cheer? In this episode, I reflect on how prioritizing rest and quiet has changed my entire outlook on the season and my family. With enough downtime, the chaos and squabbling fade, and I’m able to soak in gratitude for this precious, fleeting time with my loved ones. Join me as I share why rest might be the best gift we can give ourselves...