Come Back to Care

Let’s take a quick breather from our inner child re-parenting series to re-center ourselves. It’s been a lot to process, hasn’t it? In this mini episode, you and I are going to explore three measures of parenting success that aren’t shame based but are more aligned with liberation and informed by child development science. If that sounds generative to you, let’s get started. ----------------------...

In this quick bonus episode, we’ll explore three body-based self-regulation exercises you can experiment with while doing household chores to get out of the freeze response and get back into direct action. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information at: comebacktocare.com/podcast For more BTS of this podcast, follow @comebacktocare on Instagram! Sign up for our weekly Care...

Ep 51-52: Our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58) continues.  In this episode, you and I are going to unpack what happens when we’re triggered both in parenting and social justice advocacy using our react-revert-reduce cycle. Then, we’ll close out the episode with two actions you can experiment with. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information at: comebackt...

Ep 51-52: Our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58) continues.  In this episode, you and I are going to connect the dots between re-parenting our inner child and raising our children to take social justice action that’s aligned with their values, just like the university students who are a part of the anti-war movement now. You’ll explore three things you can play with today in your...

Ep 51-52: Our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58) continues.  In this episode, you and I will zoom in on our nervous system and see what’s going on in there when we’re triggered both in parenting and community organizing. Between this episode and the next one you’ll learn about three concrete tools to replace automatically reacting when you’re triggered with intentionally respondin...

Ep 50: Welcome to our inner child re-parenting series (eps 50 to 58). In this episode, you and I will explore these themes: why Inner child healing boosts your child's development and what inner child wounds are. Then, we’ll wrap up the episode with one action you can play with to care for your inner child wounds. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information at: comebacktoc...

In this episode, you’ll hear about Aireen’s healing journey and how she puts the social justice parenting and inner child re-parenting ideas that we discuss in our podcast into action…most of the time. In our conversation, you’ll hear us talk about how Aireen was working with her parenting triggers to get unstuck from yelling at her little one. You’ll hear about some of the body-based strategies s...

In this episode, you’ll hear about how I started social justice organizing back in 2007, how I’ve learned to love and trust myself in the world that simply hates that I exist and look fabulous, and what made me fall in love with serving young children, parents, and families aka you. ** This episode is originally published as an interview from  the Burn the Box with Dr. Sonali Deepika Podcast....

In this episode, you and I are going to explore what social justice parenting means and what it actually looks like in practice using a framework I’ve been using with families for 15 years. You’ll see how the two components of the framework fit together so that you can begin applying it to your daily parenting at your own pace. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information a...

In this season finale episode, you and I will explore what parenting agility or the hokey pokey of parenting means to our liberatory practices. Together we explore how do we stay in the struggle for liberation and shape the liberated future for our children to grow up in amid climate catastrophe and systemic oppression? How do we keep going without blowing our pain through others or giving in to d...

In this episode, you and I are going to explore the roles that you play in liberation both in your home as a decolonized parent and in your community as a social justice advocate. You’ll hear examples of small-yet-significant parenting moments that you’re already doing. My hope is for these mundane and messy moments to be a concrete receipt that tells your inner critic, “excuse me, I am powerful,...

In this episode, you and I will explore a framework for strategic communications that a political messaging expert and campaign advisor, Anat Shenker-Osorio , teaches. Then, you’ll adapt and apply this three-part framework to craft your own statement that you can use to set boundaries and protect your peace with those who judge or critique your parenting choices. I’ll share various examples of wha...

In this episode, you and I are going to unpack this question: how do we keep fighting for liberation in Gaza, Sudan, Congo, and Ukraine in between school drop off, pick up, and grocery runs? How do we fight against antisemitism and Islamophobia in between our work shifts, Zoom meetings, and the kids’ homework? How do we grieve the lives that have been lost when we can’t fall apart…otherwise the wh...

Special note: I’m taking a break for real now and I’ll be back on Nov 21st. --------------------------- In this episode, I’ll walk with you through a few somatic or body-based exercises. So that you can take a moment to take care of your nervous system and fill your cup. And then with fuller cups you and I can take action and demand a ceasefire…from a place of dignity and solidarity not fear, conf...

A quick note: I’m taking a brief break and returning the first week of November. --------------------------- In this episode, you and I are going to unpack the concept of “organized abandonment” together. A term that’s enlivened by professor Ruth Wilson Gilmore, a prison abolitionist and scholar. Then, we’ll explore one antidote to abandonment and codependence which is interdependence. We’ll close...

In this episode, you and I are going to explore an aspect of attachment theories that can help us make sense of our fear of rejection and abandonment. As per usual, we’ll also layer a political analysis on top. Then, you’ll unpack one invitation you can experiment with to heal your wound of abandonment and shift from codependence to interdependence in your parenting practice. ---------------------...

In this episode, you and I are going to explore a question that one listener emailed me about attachment theories: what inner child wounds are and how to re-parent our inner child. So we’ll start by going right to the heart of attachment to explore why we need to shift from saying “attachment styles” to “attachment strategies.” Then, we’ll continue our exploration of why attachment discussions nee...

In this episode, Sylvia shares her decolonized parenting practices as she’s raising her bi-cultural and bilingual 8- and 10-year-old mixed race children. You’ll hear how Sylvia re-parents her inner child to move through her parenting triggers. I’ll offer reflective questions for you throughout the episode as invitations to reflect on and enrich your own parenting practices. -----------------------...

In this episode, you and I are going to explore two needs that children across cultures and abilities need from their caregivers to thrive. Then, you’ll unpack three things- action, awareness, and agility- that you can play with to meet those needs in your child...most of the time. Together, we’ll find ways to put 60 years of attachment research into action, so that you’re ready when systemic oppr...

In this episode, you and I are going to unpack parenting worries and fears that drive us to unintentionally center coercion, control, compliance, and domination in parenting. Then, we’ll explore a three-part process of powering-with so you can design your own way to balance power-over and power-with in your parenting. You’ll also look at how power-with builds children’s brain development and socia...

The pressure to teach and prepare your child to survive systems of oppression can easily take over your parenting driver’s seat and put your social justice values in the back seat, especially when you’re exhausted. To relieve this pressure and slow down the urgency to teach people pleasing to your child 100% of the time, let’s step back and notice four lessons your child is already teaching you ab...

In this episode, you and I are going to unpack people pleasing or appeasement. We’ll unpack what’s going on in our body and nervous system when we people please. Then, we’ll zoom out and look at people pleasing in our social, cultural, and political contexts. And we’ll close out by discussing ways to address people pleasing in parenting. I hope we can shift the question from “am I raising my child...

In this episode, you and I are going to explore lessons from research on queer and trans resiliency. And perhaps, when it’s safe-ish to do so, we can apply them in our lives so we can be all of who we are instead of contorting our bodies to fit into the tiny gender binary boxes defined by white, colonial, capitalist patriarchy. Next, we’ll explore ways to apply the same intention to family buildin...

In this episode, you and I will explore a practice that can lower the volume of your inner critics and strengthen your nervous system at the same time too. I’ll share why this practice can be really nourishing, drawing on lessons from neuroscience, western psychology, and social justice action. If that sounds generative to you, let’s get started.  --------------------------- Get full show not...

In this episode, I invite you to explore your parenting guilt and self-judgment through a new perspective, specifically through the lenses of both western psychotherapy and social justice action. You’ll walk you through reflective questions in a framework I call the 4 D’s to transform your parenting guilt and inner critics into actions that align with your values. --------------------------- Get f...