Come As You Are Podcast

Today's talk is about relationships, intimacy, trust, abandonment, betrayal, communication, ghosting, and the importance of the empty cup. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a talk about things that are so ingrained we don’t question them. Maybe it’s the way you’re going about your day, the process by which you get things done, or stories you have about yourself or other people that are so old, they feel like “the way things are” and not like something that needs examination. It’s just the water we swim in, until one day, we realize maybe we’ve been swimming a...

Today's talk is about the value in doing the wild and unexpected thing sometimes. It's about our tendency to make plans, to stick to our schedules and set alerts in our phones, even as we know all our careful plans can be turned upside down at any moment. It's about motherhood and remembering who you were before small people started calling you Mom, and it's about getting to know yourself again wh...

This episode is about the pendulum of the mind and how it swings into the past with longing and regret, and into the future with fear and anxiety, skipping over the present moment which is the only place where peace is available. It's about longing, insecurity, comparing and contrasting, obsessing, intrusive thoughts, our crazy culture, and how to break the cycle. Sometimes you have to break the c...

This episode is for people who struggle to ask for help, and/or the people who love them. Why is it so tough for some of us to admit we're struggling and could use some support? What's the fear? I dug into it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This episode is about the things we lose along the way, like sets of keys, childhood toys, beloved pets, and most painfully, people. It's also about attachment, non-attachment, vulnerability, loss, and the insight gained by letting go. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This episode is about loss, grief, uncertainty and time. It's about the idea that time is folding in on itself and every version of you that has ever existed is still running through the hallways of your mind and heart. Sometimes you catch glimpses of your younger selves when the light is just right. And sometimes letting go is the key to opening and surprising yourself so you can ride the waves w...

This episode highlights the difference between loving people and trying to save them. If you've ever tried to save another person from their own internal demons, you know it can't be done. Love, support, kindness, rooting on and showing up certainly help, but if you start to think you can make everything okay for another person, you're in trouble, too. This is a public episode. If you'd like to di...

This episode is about attachment styles, relationships, communication, and the particular pain that ensues when an anxiously attached person is chasing after a person who finds intimacy terrifying. It's a conversation about times when we've betrayed ourselves by accepting treatment that doesn't feel okay, or convinced ourselves to stay even when we know we have to leave. It's also about understand...

This episode is about our collective state of fight or flight and the way it shows up on the internet. It's a conversation about the actions that help make the world a more peaceful place, and the actions that contribute to feelings of utter hopelessness and depression. And it's about the power of starting with the world that exists within each one of us, creating more peace, tolerance and compass...

This episode is about the stories we tell ourselves. Sometimes we have a story about why we are the way we are, why things are the way they are or why someone else is the way they are ... and our stories are wrong. Or maybe they aren't wrong, but they're old, they're a narrative we're carrying around that might have been useful at one time but no longer is. Sometimes people are casting us as the v...

This episode is about goodbyes. They aren't easy, but they're part of life. We lose people through death, or because we come to a fork in the road and one person goes one way, the other, another. It hurts. If you have fear of abandonment or struggle with goodbyes, if you're dealing with grief due to the loss of a loved one for any reason, maybe this will help. This is a public episode. If you'd li...

This episode is about how far back you in time you have to travel to find the moment when you first doubted whether you were worthy of love, or wondered if something essential was broken inside you. It's about how you heal if the break began in your mother and was passed down to you, along with genes. It's about mother loss and mother rage and the pain of heading out into the world as a girl if yo...

This episode is about why I dislike the phrase "everything happens for a reason" or any other sayings that have the potential to make someone who is suffering feel alienated on top of it. We really love to make everything make sense, and sometimes we contort ourselves to try to cram everything that befalls us into the gratitude column. Spiritual bypassing, toxic positivity, religious or spiritual...

This episode is about change, and particularly change you didn't ask for or didn't see coming. It's also about the nature of life and its constant fluctuations, it's about all the loss we face as we enter the middle years or the middle of the story, and how to ride the ride without gripping the wheel. It's about letting yourself feel your feelings, and how best to navigate times of groundlessness...

This episode is about communication, and particularly, how to communicate with people who don't make it easy. Maybe you have someone in your life who can never be wrong, who can never say they're sorry. Maybe you love an addict or you have someone in your sphere who doesn't seem to feel empathy or is more attached to their narrative than they are to resolving conflict. If you've ever spent time tr...

This episode is about the gift of meditation and how it can be so helpful in bringing to the surface the feelings that might really need our kind attention. Sometimes those feelings are physical and sometimes they're emotional, but understanding yourself and having compassion for yourself are two ways to make the journey easier. This episode is also about the middle years, the Sandwich Generation,...

This episode is about the tendency to try to make everything okay for everyone else all the time, and about how futile, exhausting and sometimes annoying it can be. It's about overcoming that tendency and learning how to shift the focus back onto our own feelings, which are the only feelings we can truly manage. It's about trusting our loved ones to be able to handle some of the more uncomfortable...

This episode is all about relationships. Intimate relationships, those we have with our closest friends, but also our relationship with time, with our own work, with people we meet in passing, and the one we're having with ourselves. It's a conversation about shifting the way we think about relationships so that there's less fear and more freedom. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss...

This episode is about relationships, dating, post-divorce dating with kids in the mix, overcoming the tendency to try to make everything okay for everyone else all the time, boundaries, holidays, dysfunctional family dynamics and more. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This episode is about longing and childhood wounds, and how they can wreak havoc in our adult relationships. Sometimes we tolerate love that hurts because it feels like home. If you've ever been in a soul-crushing relationship where you struggled to leave, or watched someone else grapple with that painful experience, this is for you. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with oth...

Is time linear or is it folding in on itself? What happens when you're pulled out of the normal timeline of your life due to tragedy? What tethers you? This episode is about trauma, loss and grief, but it's also about time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This episode is about complicated familial relationships and the complicated grief that can follow when you lose someone who wasn't always easy to have in your life, but whom you loved nonetheless. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

If the holidays are hard, this episode is all about the different ways to be gentle with yourself, and create boundaries and your own traditions when needed. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit allyhamilton.yogisanonymous.com/subscribe