Coffee With Dr. Kashey

So you’re familiar with the notion of constructive eating—what’s next? In this episode, Dr. Kashey goes over how to put together meals, logistical versus nutritive balance, and the importance of how you eat (and how donuts can actually be a legit part of your constructive eating hierarchy).

Dr. Kashey believes that utilizing structured patterns for when to eat your meals is a surefire way to combat overeating and unnecessary craving, which is the second most important step in Dr. Kashey’s Hierarchy of Constructive Eating. While this is the proper path to growing your eating competence, Dr. Kashey acknowledges that sticking to this concept by the book is likely to be difficult in prac...

“Consistency is key.” We read those words on bumper stickers and on motivational posters in our office cubicles. But consistency is an outcome, not a way to achieve a goal. In this episode, Dr. Kashey explains how this trite expression is actually damaging our ability to improve ourselves, and how persistent action is truly the key to solving problems we’ve been stuck with for a long time.

What does it mean to be a constructive eater? Do calorie calculators and metabolic wards actually help you determine the right number of calories for your body? In this episode, Dr. Trevor Kashey discusses his method for helping people learn what enough food feels like for them on their way to developing permission, discipline, resilience building, and competence.

In this episode, Dr. Kashey addresses the most common questions he receives, such as “What’s the best way to start a diet? How do I lose weight? What do I eat?” The world of dieting can feel overwhelming and full of conflicting information, but the good Dr. Kashey and his “Hierarchy Of Constructive Eating” are here to help. By sharing some important fundamentals such as eating enough food, creatin...

While we technically could “eat better,” Dr. Kashey wants to give credit where it’s due - to you! If you have made it this far, then you’re doing well. Since most of us have a good idea of what to eat, Dr. Kashey instead discusses how to eat in this episode. Rather than impulsive, chaotic, rebellious, and otherwise amateur eating, he teaches us how to eat like a pro: with permission, discipline, a...

Restraint versus discipline. What’s the difference? Dr. Kashey explains restraint as the mind and body working against each other, while discipline is the mind and body working with each other. Restraining what you eat requires a lot of focus on exactly what to eat, but takes away the joy of actually enjoying your food. Prolonged restraint can also cause a person to be chaotic in their actions, wh...

  In a continuation of Dr. Kashey’s series on “how and why the brain is wired to be lazy, oversimplify, and what you can do about it,” he now discusses the subject of outcome bias. Outcome bias is when someone judges the validity of a decision or person based on the outcome rather than judging the validity of the decision itself and the reason, logic, and evidence on which the decision was based....

Are you struggling with productivity? Unable to focus? Have you been trying to solve the problem with block schedules and task lists? Dr. Trevor Kashey details the error in this thinking and delves into the reasons behind our attention deficit and underperformance. Join him as he helps you disrupt the loop of stimulation and boredom and allocate your attention. Listen to Ep 60.  ‘ Dr. Kashey’s Fix...

Dr. Kashey believes that mentorship is the most collaborative platonic relationship you will ever have. A mentor doesn’t only teach you what to think, but also how to think and why you are thinking it. Studies show that when the mentor/protege relationship clicks, the protege has 200% to 400% greater levels of achievement. Through modeling, collaborating, and providing consistent feedback, a mento...

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!” Dr. Kashey closely scrutinizes this phrase and observes how it affects people. The damaging, perfectionistic standards that this romanticized saying sets can lead to someone feeling guilt and shame. While challenging experiences do strengthen our resilience response, it wouldn’t make sense to invite pain, inconvenience, and other unnecessary challenges i...

Dr. Kashey believes that acting assertively is essential for getting what you need while maintaining a synchronous relationship with your environment and the people in it. Feeling guilty or selfish for needing something and being worried about another person’s response are the major roadblocks to being assertive. Dr. Kashey addresses both of these roadblocks and shares a step-by-step process on ho...

Dr. Kashey understands that decision-making can be an intense endeavor. To make it easier on us, he shares the top three traps and how not to fall for them. There should be a balance between risk and reward; Dr. Kashey will warn against the harm of leaning too far in either direction. Being afraid of making the wrong decision will inhibit a person’s ability to effectively weigh the pros and cons....

Dr. Kashey deconstructs resilience. Upon studying someone displaying resilience through a tough situation, you may wonder if they were born that way or if it is a learned skill. Good news for everyone – resilience can be taught, practiced, and therefore strengthened! Anything from everyday common inconveniences to real-world traumatic experiences will require a person’s resilience to make it throu...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey will share the woes of being flattened by a bully versus the joy of being uplifted by a wise mentor. While both parties offer criticism, the way in which it is delivered determines how we feel and receive the criticism. Dr. Kashey has wisdom to share concerning how to control feelings, in order to decipher what is helpful and constructive versus what can be tossed to th...

Dr. Kashey speaks to desk jockeys or anyone else that has a typical 9-5 workday. Although it can seem like work takes up the entire day, Dr. Kashey proposes that there is still a whole other day’s worth of time after work. This time should be filled with meaningful hobbies and other skill-building activities that enrich your life. In turn, your job productivity and workplace satisfaction will incr...

Procrastination: the 3-headed monster. Anxiety, boredom, and rebellion are the three main causes of procrastination, according to Dr. Kashey. He explains that there are many different types of “procrastinalities,” such as perfectionists, grand architects, worrywarts, contrarians, doormats, and others. Each procrastinality type has at least this one thing in common: they can find a way to justify p...

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Dr. Kashey revisits his definition of violence: “using brain force to influence change,” and his definition of brain force, which is “focus times intervention times persistence.” Focusing on the persistence part of the equation, Dr. Kashey goes into depth about persistence and why it’s important. Persistence is the length of continuous effort – keeping at it, continuing on, working through roadblo...

When problems arise, it can be easy to create even more problems rather than solutions. Dr. Kashey understands what it’s like to get stuck in a rut of problems, and has plenty of advice to give concerning increasing self-efficacy and confidence in order to get yourself out of the rut. He goes into detail on practical problems versus thinking problems and how each type of problem deserves a differe...

A dash of Dr. Kashey’s violence may be what you need to reach your goals. In this episode, Dr. Kashey describes violence as a force to influence change, with force being cognitive. Instead of putting off commitments or goals with if’s, and’s, or but’s, we need to exercise our brainpower in order to influence the effective change necessary to reach our goals. He coaches us to define our problems, i...

Dr. Kashey shares helpful tricks and tips for making healthy choices when going out to eat. Restaurants are stimulating environments; the commotion, smell of food, company, and other factors all have an impact on deciding what to order. It can be easy to let the distractions cause you to order a meal that is less than ideal for your nutrition goals – unless you’re prepared! “Dr. Kashey’s eating ou...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey scrutinizes the phrase “sitting is the new smoking.” While it is true that prolonged sitting is detrimental to overall health, this does not mean that sitting should be avoided altogether. It makes sense to sit when physically exhausted; but when mentally exhausted, studies show that people are more likely to stand up and/or fidget. Dr. Kashey encourages us to shift our...

When it comes time to make a big decision, it can be tempting to wait a while before choosing in an attempt to make a better decision or avoid being impulsive. However, Dr. Kashey points out that waiting to make a decision doesn’t always result in a better decision. In reality, the longer you wait to make a decision, the more likely you’ll settle for something you were avoiding in the first place....

Do you live with a stubborn mule? Is it hard to get along with people in your household, or do you just struggle with confrontation in general? Can’t tell if you’re a pushover or the other person is just stubborn, or are you the stubborn mule? Here are 5 steps on how to properly compromise, communicate, and implement changes.   Listen to Ep 44. ‘ How To Live With Stubborn Mules Even If They Resist...