Coffee With Dr. Kashey

In this episode, Dr. Kashey will percolate the idea of internal versus external control, and how our desire to manage the uncontrollable often leads us to make unwise choices, causing us to stew in frustration and anxiety.  Roll up your sleeves as we grind down the 'Four Ds of Distortion' those mental grinds that clog our decision-making filters.  It’s a full-bodied session where we will decant wi...

In this next mini series, Dr. Kashey talks about the facets of self-control, and cracking the code of self-control. There are three aspects of self- control, first is that thoughts are the most important determinant of our emotions and our actions. Second is that the need for control creates stress and misery, and stress and misery leads to a greater need for control. And third is, there are three...

In this episode unwrap the riddle of working non-stop with fervor that never fades. It's not about surviving the week; it's about thriving through the years. In the face of adversity, when helping others becomes a Herculean task, learn how to harness the stress and turn it into the kind of eustress that shapes champions. Dr. Kashey brings forth a tale of wisdom where he shares the secret to choosi...

Welcome to the finale of our series on stress with "Coffee with Kashey." Today, Dr. Trevor Kashey, is here to guide you through the labyrinth of stress management with a compass pointed towards one crucial destination: Purpose. In this culminating episode, we delve into the essence of what keeps us moving forward. Drawing inspiration from the profound wisdom of Viktor Frankl, we'll uncover the sec...

Today, Dr. Kashey is going to show you that sometimes, all you need is a fuzzy pole—his cheeky term for anything you can muster affection for, from pets to pasta sculptures. We're ripping off the band-aid and exposing the raw truth about intimate relationships and their power to douse the flames of stress.  So if you're ready to get real about who's got your back, and maybe laugh a little too, “Co...

Kicking off part one of our final series on mastering stress resilience, Dr. Kashey’s not just chatting about weathering the storm—he’s building a fortress with three resilience keystones.  Today we stock up on our psychological vitamins, the kind that fortify your spirit and keep you balanced when life goes off-kilter.  In this episode, Dr. Kashey provides a fresh perspective on physical activity...

Embark on a journey through the inner workings of stress—the kind that's more than just a buzzword, but a battle cry for those ready to confront their personal boogeymen. Dr. Kashey lays out the map of our central nervous system, decoding how we process stress from a blip on our radar to a full-blown emotional typhoon. Get ready to unravel the psychophysiology behind stress, why your next fight or...

On today's episode of Coffee with Dr. Kashey, the good Doctor, serves up a deep cleanse for your stress system. No fluff, no filler—just straight talk on breaking through the barriers that keep you feeling stuck.  From cognitive patterns to biological responses, learn how to flip the script on stress and turn action into your secret weapon.  Dr. Kashey shares insights on expressive writing and the...

Today, Dr. Kashey doesn't just teach us to write; he guides us to rewrite our emotional blueprints. Dive deep into the science of stress, where your secrets don't suffocate you, and expression is the first step to liberation.  Unlock the age-old secrets of journaling, a sanctuary for the stressed, a fortress for the overwhelmed.  This isn't just about feeling better for the moment; it's about reen...

Dive into a philosophical journey with Dr. Trevor Kashey as he navigates the realms of what's natural and what's not, inspired by Bertrand Russell's timeless essays.  Get ready to chuckle and challenge your mind as Dr. Kashey dissects our penchant for labeling the familiar as 'natural' and the new as 'artificial.' Through a lighthearted exploration of historical opinions and our own preconceived n...

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of explanatory style – the powerful force shaping our resilience or resignation. Imagine the scene: electrodes, a kennel, and a dog taught helplessness through relentless zaps, revealing profound truths about human behavior.  Dr. Kashey guides us through groundbreaking experiments that illustrate how the stories we tell ourselves forge our paths to ei...

Dive into the latest episode with Dr. Kashey, where he takes you on an intellectual journey through a stress workshop. Dr. Kashey goes over how to u nderstand how stimuli lead to responses, which in turn become new stimuli.  Recognize that altering one can impact others while a cknowledging that stress is often a product of our opinions about external events. Learn to i dentify stressors as either...

Whether it's a minor slip or a major blunder, Dr. Kashey’s wisdom is like a trusty pocket tool for self-reconciliation. It's a reminder that the most reliable friend you need when you stumble is your own compassionate self.  Through guided exercises, Dr. Kashey shows you how to transform the worry in your guts into a wellspring of wise counsel. Get ready to touch your heart, literally and figurati...

Today, we're delving into the art of mental clarity with a unique guided exercise that sharpens your focus and fortifies your resolve.  It's not about sweeping mistakes under the rug—it's about shining a light on them, learning, and moving forward stronger. Prepare to swap the comfort of familiar distractions for the thrill of conquering challenges. We'll explore the intricate dance of stimuli and...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about Tabitha's journey through cognitive, emotional, and behavioral shifts towards activity.  Tabitha challengeed her belief systems by weighing the pros and cons of physical activity.  Through shame extermination and self-respect techniques, Tabitha learned to handle negative emotions linked to exercise,  emphasising on action-oriented steps to solidify an activ...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about various techniques he used to help his client, Tabitha, overcome her self-destructive emotional disturbances and develop a healthier relationship with physical activity. He emphasizes acknowledging negative feelings as a motivator for improvement rather than a source of guilt and shame. Dr. Kashey explains how he guided Tabitha through exercises like purpose...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the emotive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model, focusing on Tabitha's journey in overcoming emotional disturbances and cultivating self-respect regarding physical activity. He explains the concept of "double trouble," where a practical problem escalates into an emotional disturbance, creating a destructive cycle. Dr. Kashey introduces three...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by focusing on the cognitive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model. He introduces the concept of disputation, which involves detecting distorted belief systems, discriminating between rational and irrational thoughts, and debating the validity of these beliefs to replace them with more rational ones....

In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by exploring the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model and the variable outcome principle. He explains how exposing a group of people to the same stimulus can lead to a variety of responses and outcomes, depending on their underlying belief systems. Dr. Kashey contrasts the beliefs of the "generally active" group,...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about his free workshop titled "How to Love Using Your Body, Even If It's Embarrassing, and It Sucks," which aims to help individuals overcome the frustrations and barriers associated with adopting an active lifestyle. He introduces the SRO (Stimulus-Response-Outcome) model, which focuses on addressing the cognitive, emotional, and behavioral aspects that contribu...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about a scientific study by researchers at Stanford University that analyzed the representation of food and drinks in popular movies. The study found that the on-screen diets portrayed in these movies vastly differed from the USDA nutrition guidelines, featuring low-fiber, high-sodium, and an abundance of unhealthy treats, such as candies, chips, desserts, and alc...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about how Tabitha, a recovered diabetic binge eater, approached Thanksgiving and other social gatherings without punishing herself or engaging in self-hate. He shares Tabitha's powerful story of overcoming her past struggles with overeating and purging during holidays. Dr. Kashey highlights Tabitha's newfound mindset, where she focuses on enjoying her favorite foo...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses the concept of frustration intolerance and its manifestations in various aspects of life. He shares real-life examples of individuals like Sarah, Tabitha, and Justin, who exhibit frustration intolerance through behaviors such as impatience, emotional outbursts, procrastination, and self-sabotaging actions. Dr. Kashey highlights how frustration intolerance ofte...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the concept of frustration intolerance and its detrimental effects, using the relatable story of Tabitha as an illustrative example. Tabitha's day is plagued by a series of frustrating setbacks from spilling coffee on her shirt to getting stuck in traffic and missing an important meeting. Unable to cope with the mounting frustration, Tabitha engages in destr...

In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses an essay by the famous French Renaissance philosopher, Lord Uncle Monta, titled "How the Soul Discharges Its Emotions Against False Objects When Lacking Real Objects." He shares amusing tips and insights from Monta's work, which humorously illustrates how people often vent their frustrations on inanimate objects or engage in irrational behaviors when faced wit...