Climb Your Mountain

This feels wicked vulnerable to share, but here it is ... I've been going through a pretty dark burnout in December. One that had me close to quitting my business altogether. One where it is really hard to create, express, or connect to my natural joy. I hesitated to share this, because it seems like as a coach who specializes in nervous system healing, I should have it more together. But the...

Hey friends! Enjoy some highlights from my free 5-Day Self-Healing Challenge (aka Soul Surf Camp). In this lesson, I talk about how to change your memories. Which if you're haunted by a moment in your past is a useful thing to be able to do! I should clarify: we're not actually changing the memory itself. We're just changing the emotion around it. So that a moment that made you feel...

You might be drawn toward "magical" practices like breathwork, plant medicine, hypnosis, and energy healing believing they will get you there faster. (And to a large degree, you're right!) But sometimes trying too hard to have a breakthrough ... Can actually repel the magic and push it away. And often when you release the need for a breakthrough, that's exactly when big magic c...

"You've gained a few pounds since last year!" "You're not married yet?" "Why can't you be quiet and sweet like your sister?" "Are you really going to have another drink?" "Of course we invited your ex. He's still family. We don't have to ask you." "Have you heard about our lord and savior Jesus Christ?" Welcome to...

"The universe hates me." This was my conclusion when unexpected expenses kept smacking me in the face all through October. There was the appliance repair company ripping me off. The Assisted Living facility making a billing error — and then correcting it by pulling $13,000 out of my account with no warning.  The Home Health company deciding out of nowhere that I owed them $1800, and I&ap...

Are you feeling unappreciated at work? Longing for the freedom to set your own schedule? Or are you a coach who feels pressure to go full time so you can be a "serious" entrepreneur? If you answered any of the above, this episode is for you! Today, I'm going to walk through exactly how and when to quit your job. Spoiler alert: if you're desperate to get out, finding a new job m...

If everything in your life is going wrong or sideways at once, you might be experiencing ... THE CRUMBLING. It can hurt like hell. It might feel like a personal attack from the universe — or even a spiritual death. But I want you to know that THE CRUMBLING really is here for your growth and expansion. When you're preparing to move to a new level, everything unaligned must go. And that include...

My mom will tell you I was an easy, sunny, sweet baby. What she really means: I never expressed any needs that were inconvenient, embarrassing, or made demands on others. And if I'm honest, it took me into my 40s to really start taking my own needs seriously. (Better late than never!) Being direct, setting boundaries, and telling people what I need are still wicked uncomfortable sometimes. Bu...

I totally wish that instead of trigonometry and other worthless stuff, my high school had offered classes like self leadership, emotional regulation, and especially ... stress management. As a coach, I see a lot of stress. And here's the truth: most people feel helpless against it. We experience too much too fast. We have a lot of traumas (big and little T) that keep us disconnected from our...

Common perfectionist beliefs (raise your hand if you can relate): I can't feel good unless I'm doing good People only value me when I am near perfect A mistake means I didn’t try hard enough If you were like "hells yeah!" to any of the above, this week's episode is for you. I'm going to share a rule a little about my own journey with perfectionism. (Oddly, it starts w...

A few years ago, I took a 90-day break from alcohol that changed my life.  You know what was the hardest part? The social events! I was dating, so that felt super terrifying and vulnerable. I traveled and stayed with family for a few days, which is always kind of stressful. (Not because they aren't lovely, but because my nervous system gets really jangled when I don't have my own space.)...

I've barely got words for what a fucking year it's been. Long covid has been a wild ride.  A shamanic initiation.  A cracking open.  A curriculum for my expansion.  A burning down of everything that was out of alignment or in wrong relationship. In this week's episode, I pull back the curtain and get juicy and vulnerable about: The ups and downs of this year. Let's talk treatme...

Do you ever say cringeworthy things out loud? Make the wrong decision? Hurt people and regret it later? If so, this episode is for you! We live in a society where it isn't easy to make mistakes. There's a lot of judgement and blame flying around — not all of it justified. It can make it hard to be a human who's evolving in real time — whether as a parent, professional, or partner. B...

Everything ends. Jobs. Relationships. Chapters of your life. Even versions of YOU end. And new ones come online. Sometimes change can feel amazing. (Let's burn away the old and make space for the new!) And sometimes change is upsetting and destabilizing. You might wonder if it means you're doing life wrong. Society like to mess with our heads by holding up permanence as the ideal. It&apo...

Setting healthy boundaries is one of the best ways to practice energetic sovereignty and manage your nervous system. So in this week’s podcast episode, I'm going to talk you through ... 🌟 What actually are boundaries? 🌟 When is it appropriate to set a boundary? 🌟 An exact script you can use to set that boundary. 🌟 Tips on holding a boundary. 🌟 How to make a request when a boundary isn&ap...

Have you ever caught yourself thinking: I need to know the right answer The more information I have, the better I must never waste time or money with the wrong decision Other people know better than me Then you might be suffering from analysis paralysis! We humans often use overthinking to keep ourselves safe. And in prehistoric times, it probably worked.  But even though the world is now safer, w...

If you're anything like me, you're always searching for the right answer to every question. Like when I wanted to run an ultramarathon, I not only read a book and scoured every website I could find for training advice. I actually got certified as an ultramarathon coach to make sure I was doing it PERFECT. #queenofoverdoingit But you know who a lot of us aren't asking for guidance? T...

We all have this romantic idea that when we most need support, our friends will lean in. And sometimes they do. But very often, they don't. It's pretty common for people experiencing grief and loss to find themselves alone, forgotten, or misunderstood when they need community most. Even intimate partnerships get impacted. It's more common for a marriage to end after a major loss or...

Whenever we're chasing a goal or working to solve a problem, our brain likes to go straight to action. We are little planning machines. Which kinda works. But not really. Because too often, when we focus on action, we're actually solving the wrong problem. What works better? Starting on the inside. Looking at who we'd be when we have what we really want. And finding ways to be that...

A manifestation portal? What the cheese balls is that? And why should you care if you’re not a whacky, woo woo, green-juice slurping, crystal farming hippie? 😂 Bestie, I promise. Manifestation is for everyone. And no, you don’t have to be a toxic positivity monster to benefit and enjoy. To help you understand manifestation and how it works, I made you a video! It includes a little bit of teaching...

About a year into my personal growth journey, I was convinced I was fucking it up. Why? Because I wasn't having any massive breakthroughs. 🔥  I wasn't making six figures in my business while sitting on a beach with my laptop. 🔥 I wasn't engaged to the love of my life. 🔥 I didn't have a perfect, healthy body with a six pack. (Do 47 year-olds even have six packs? Doubtful. But...

Hypnosis. Trance. The unconscious. To some people, these are spooky concepts! But to me, they are some of the most healing words in the English language. And it's time to pull back the curtain. In today's episode, I'm going to spill the beans on all things hypnosis. What it is ... and isn't. How it works, and what modern neuroscience research tells us about its effectiveness. H...

I know we've all been beaten over the head with the need to sleep more. And I can tell you as a coach and personal trainer that SOME OF IT IS HYPE. However, a good night's sleep has many benefits: Cleanses your brain of neurotoxins Promotes neuroplasticity, change, and emotional shifts Regulates your hormones and metabolism (can even help you lose weight) Promotes deep cellular healing (...

Is it toxic to badmouth positivity? Maybe.  But if you know me, I like to stir the pot a little. Also, as part of the coaching and personal development industry, I feel a duty to call out harmful practices.  That way, potential clients can recognize them, avoid them, and self-innoculate for those moments when they show up out of nowhere.  (Yes, even when it's something I say.) It's time...

"You need to feel it in order to heal it." But do you really Becky? Or is that just something all the personal development people say? As a somatic practitioner and hypnotist who teaches people how to regulate emotions (often to the point where you can't feel them at all), I get a lot of questions about this. Shouldn't we be feeling our emotions instead of knocking them down? D...