Chosen Not Chasing

Let’s be real for a second… Some of us aren’t chasing people — we’re chasing the feeling we think they’ll give us. And that’s where it gets dangerous. Because when you don’t feel chosen within yourself, you’ll start auditioning for roles in people’s lives that were never meant for you. You’ll overextend, over-explain, and overstay… just to feel seen. Whew. Yeah, I said it. On this episode of Chose...

Boundaries are not ultimatums…they’re standards, sis. Let’s clear that up right now. An ultimatum says, “Do this or else.” A boundary says, “This is what I require to feel safe, respected, and loved.” One is about controlling someone else. The other is about honoring yourself. And too many of us were taught that having standards makes us difficult. That speaking up makes us dramatic. That protecti...

When you’re healing, you don’t move the same. You’re not impressed by bare minimum. You’re not flattered by inconsistency. You’re not confusing butterflies with red flags anymore. Dating while healing is different because you’re not dating from wounds…you’re dating from awareness. You notice how someone handles conflict. You notice how they communicate. You notice how you feel around them. And ins...

🎙️I wasn’t in love… I was in pursuit. And there’s a difference. For a long time, I thought effort meant love. I thought if I just communicated better, showed up softer, proved myself harder, or waited a little longer… things would finally click. But chasing will have you exhausted and calling it commitment. Chasing will have you anxious and calling it passion. Chasing will have you shrinking and c...