Cheating: When Love Lies

When I was growing up a “hall pass” was the thing you needed in middle school in order to leave class and go to the bathroom. That’s not what a “hall pass” is anymore. Today’s definition is a lot sexier. According to my guest, a “hall pass” let’s you cheat without begin called a cheater. Lets you explore without having to explain. Lets you have sex with someone else without exiting your relationsh...

On this episode I meet one of the Internet’s most successful and sought after cheating consultants. Yes, a cheating consultant - as in someone who will teach you how to cheat most effectively. Dark Horse, is what he calls himself and his blog https://cheatershandbook.com/ is the go to spot for advice on how to cheat, and how not to get caught. But don’t contact Dark Horse to find out how to have y...

Your relative tells you they have proof your spouse is cheating on you, which eliminates all speculation as to whether or not cheating rumors swirling around are true. On this episode we learn how a betrayed wife blamed the messenger for exposing the details of her cheating husband’s escapades. If only the messenger had kept his mouth shut, the marriage could have hummed along as a surreptitiously...

Is cheating ever justified or perhaps your only way out? This episode's guest, (we'll call her Bethany) suffered for years in a highly toxic home and relationship. It wasn't until Bethany's abusive partner discovered that she was having an affair that Bethany was immediately forced to flee her primary relationship and find solace in her forbidden lover's arms. Is there ever a world in which cheati...

Is it love, or an obsession? What is it when you give and give to someone who not only takes and takes, but abuses your kindness then intentionally seeks to hurt you. I rarely use the word narcissist on Cheating: When Love Lies, but the man that my guest Diane (not her real name) fell in love with and helped get a green card, seems to fit the definition of a narcissist to a tee. This person Diane...

Listeners may remember a past episode called “I Am A Christian Conservative Leader Having An Affair.” It was about a young woman who espoused the tenets of her religion, namely fidelity and honesty, despite her having a lesbian affair with her partner who is married to a man. Christine is back because although her affair has now been exposed, Christine’s affair partner is still unable (or unwillin...

If you suspect your partner is cheating, do you seek out tangible proof, or do you just trust your gut feeling? Suppose you trust your gut, but your spouse or partner swears to you, promises you, “there’s nothing going on.” Do you suppress your instincts and convince yourself that covert operations to discover the truth aren’t necessary? My guest today relied first on her gut, and second on her fa...

My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afr...

Can being cheated on be the best thing that ever happens to you? Brendan Fitzgibbons, comedian and host of the podcast "Spiritual Asshole," joins me to talk about his transition from needy, codependent, boyfriend to self confident, single guy. With a mix of humor, vulnerability and common sense thinking, Brendan explains how being cheated on took him on a journey that changed his life from sad and...

A 2 minute loyalty test-Yup! Boyfriends and girlfriends can find out in just minutes if their partner is faithful or a cheater. My guest Ayrel, better known as IknowAyrel, has developed a huge following to the tune of 91M likes, 3.9M followers on Tik Tok, and almost 300,00 Instagram followers, by conducting his signature loyalty tests on college campuses and in public venues. On this episode we fi...

How many wives would choose to meet their husband’s lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let’s call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his l...

Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know if it was happening to you? Gaslighting is when an abuser manipulates you and tries to create doubt and confusion around something you know to be true. The abuser will deny what they said or did ever happened, which in turn makes you question yourself, your observations, and your sanity. My guest today whom we’ll call Wende, was was gaslighte...

Her recent Spectator article called “I Regret My Promiscuity” and the intense social media interest it sparked, reminded me just how provocative writer, comedian, and podcast host Bridget Phetasy truly is. https://spectatorworld.com/topic/regret-casual-sex-promiscuity-slut/ When a woman tells me “Big dicked womanizers were my kyptonite … I loved them” I stop and listen.  Only a woman as funny, vul...

You’re married and you’ve been cheated on. You end your marriage because you feel that the trust and integrity of your relationship is gone forever, and you’ve lost all hope that the life you dreamed of - with your spouse by your side- can ever be achieved.  You’re devastated, and the demise of your relationship is about to be compounded by shame. Your community is about to shame you and shun you...

You’re in a bad relationship. You’ve tried to make it work, but you’re still  very unhappy. You’re easily tempted to have an affair with someone who love bombs you: that’s someone who showers you with attention, gifts and promises for the future. This love bomber appears to be in love with you, and you get completely swept up. In some cases you agree to marry, live with, or even have children with...

It’s still vacation time so this week we’re featuring another one of our favorite episodes “from the vault.” Listeners loved this short fictional story about affairs, and the panel discussion about infidelity that followed. Stay tuned - fresh new episodes of Cheating: When Love Lies are coming soon!  What if you’re married but secretly sending DMs and sexy pictures to someone you're attracted to....

Summer is here. It’s vacation time — so we are taking some of our fav episodes from the vault while everyone here at “Cheating: When Love Lies” gets some well deserved R+R. This episode features a panel discussion about infidelity. 3 diverse people all comment on a story (based on true life events) about an affair. This crew of panelists is opinionated, raw, diverse, unapologetic and a hell of a l...

Your wife has been sleeping with her assistant. Your partner has been doing the naughty-nasty in the park with the dog walker. Your boyfriend decided to go to his college reunion alone and ran into his ex: the ex he once called the “love of my life.”  Uh oh.  What if when you find out you’ve been cheated on, you refuse to become the devastated, dejected partner who feels cast aside, and instead yo...

My guest Lishone is a true provocateur. Her forceful criticism of men’s behavior as juvenile and lacking self control has caused an uproar on social media. An opinionated writer, some of Lishone’s recent titles implore women to “Stop Begging Men,” and remind women that “Accountability Is Not Hate.”  Lishone’s position on Black men versus Black women is particularly divisive: she declares that Blac...

A mature married man who’s been with his wife for 20 odd years decides to go off and have an affair with a hot young 20 or 30- year-old. Nothing newsworthy there. In fact, some more cynical types might say it’s commonplace. But what about a mature married woman in her 40s or 50s having an affair with a married 20 or 30 something? It feels like she’d be tarred and feathered on Twitter. There’s a do...

For the July 4th holiday, we relaunch one of our most popular episodes. A married woman is tortured by the chaos and ever-changing dynamic of her affair with a married man. The woman's lover claims his wife is mean and neglectful and makes his home life miserable. These two married cheaters have a deeply emotional affair peppered with intimacy and fantasies, yet soured by episodes of his ghosting,...

About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you’re devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the marriage. Fast forward, and you find out the reason he wanted to go to therapy...

You’re a wife. You’re fed up. You’re tired. You’ve talked yourself silly trying to be heard, recognized and appreciated by your husband (or partner). When your husband barely responds or is dismissive, you stop trying to communicate with him, and you start seeing your marriage as unsalvageable. This is when a wife can develop walk away wife syndrome. But does walk away wife syndrome literally mean...

You’re a devoted husband with a loving, committed and intelligent wife. You want to family; a traditional American dream with a wife, kids, and a cozy home. But secretly you’re in love with another man. You and he have an emotional, passionate and sexy love affair that you can’t seem to put aside. For my guests today, Mark and David (not their real names or voices) this was their life, until more...

You’ve cheated. You’ve done the deed. Whether that’s sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you’ve done it: you’ve created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you’ve got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at...