Chats with Charlie and Ash

The reason no strategy has worked for you yet? Real change isn't a five-step plan you follow, it's who you're being while you do the doing. This week Charlie and Ash get honest about the thing nobody selling a blueprint will tell you. We've bought the programmes, the proven methodologies, the ten-step processes, all of it, thinking finally, this will be it. Newsflash - it wasn'...

There is something you really want to be doing, and you are doing a smaller, safer version of it instead because that is what you feel ready for. This episode is about that gap, and why waiting to be ready rarely closes it. Charlie uses her own example: she has years of proof that sharing her story helps people, and she still talks herself out of showing up on social media and YouTube. Ash looks b...

You built the life that looks successful, hit the top, and quietly realised it was never actually yours. That's borrowed desire, and this episode is where you stop pretending you didn't notice. I came home from my big trip still riding the high, then a few days later I was in the car, inconsolable, sobbing, asking what the fuck I'm even doing here. Charlie and I sit right in the snapba...

Here's why the women who go furthest aren't trying harder, they're finally giving themselves permission to know who they are and want what they want. Ash comes back from attending Living Brave Live in Denver having danced in her underwear with a crowd of two thousand strangers, and we unpick what that freedom actually is. Not confidence, not another strategy. It's putting down the...

This one is a little different. Ash is away, so Charlie sits down with Fliss Gray, the coach and breathwork facilitator behind Finding Focus, before the session the two of them run together on Sunday 13 September. They talk about what breathwork actually is once you get past the noise around it. Not a big cathartic performance, but the simple act of following your breath until the analysing, plann...

The overnight success doesn't come from failing less. It comes from failing more. That's the thread running through this episode, but it's really a story about redefining what success even means. Charlie once reached the version of success she'd been chasing since she was 19: her own consultancy, real money, the fancy car, the husband and the picket fence. From the outside, she&#39...

Is this the end of our prtnership? That's the question that ran through Charlie's mind during one of the most vulnerable conversations we've had on this show yet. Ash had been sitting with a sudden question mark: how does this all fit and work? Was it time to do her own thing? Rather than swallow it to keep the peace, she brought it straight to Charlie, uncertain what it would mean for...

This one's different. Instead of our usual back and forth, you're sitting in on an actual coaching session between the two of us, unscripted and unfiltered. Charlie had just said goodbye to family after a visit, and found herself doing the thing she's done since she was 14: holding it together, staying strong, keeping the sadness where no one else has to see it. In this episode, Ash gu...

This week we're talking about something neither of us wanted to admit out loud for a long time: choosing money over ourselves. We've both built things that looked successful on paper. Steady income, a stable-looking marriage, the version of success everyone around us was quick to applaud. And underneath it, a quiet not-enoughness that no amount of money ever touched. For Charlie, it meant...

This week's a bit different: new space, new format, and soon you'll be able to watch us as well as listen. The conversation lands in the same place it always does though: what's actually alive for us right now. We start with a school visit for Ash's son Harry, and the realisation that where he goes matters far less than whether he believes in himself. That leads into the invisible...

What happens when the life you’ve built no longer fits—and you can’t unsee it?   In this episode with Vive Oldham, we dive into the messy, honest reality of reinventing yourself  when your inner knowing is pulling you away from the “acceptable” version of success. We explore what it’s like to break the mould (especially as women, mothers, and business owners), and how disorienting it can feel to f...

In his final days, Charlie's father told her he'd got it all the wrong way around, he'd built the businesses, ticked the boxes, and missed the things that actually mattered. This episode is the story of how Charlie woke up inside the exact life her dad had warned her about, and the bedtime story she couldn't read her daughter that finally cracked the illusion wide open. We talk about the lie that...

A few days ago, Ash was walking her dog down the street, listening to music, and was suddenly hit with the most alive feeling she'd ever experienced in her body. No million dollars in the bank. No flash house. No holiday booked. Just her and the absence of everything she used to think she needed. This episode is the story of how she got there, and why most of us are missing it. We talk about t...

Hands up if you've ever paid good money for a course, coach, or expert and then quietly rejected every piece of advice they gave you. In this episode, Charlie and Ash get honest about the very human habit of seeking answers outside ourselves and then poking holes in every solution we're handed. ("That worked for them, but my situation is different…" sound familiar?) They unpack w...

In this episode we discuss a common relationship dynamic where affection and intimacy start to feel like an obligation rather than a desire, often because life becomes overloaded with responsibilities (work, parenting, household admin, finances) and the nervous system feels “tapped out.”    We talk about how busyness, overwhelm, and unspoken resentment can smother the spark, leading to cycles of r...

In this episode we explore what it means to tune back into your inner knowing as a source of guidabce. In a world that sells outsourcing your authority by needing to be an expert or needing other peoples approval for permission. We beleive that when you truly lead from who you are authentically and are tuned into your own desires, that is all you need to lead a happy and fulfilling life. We end th...

In this episode we share the one thing that will help you actuallytake action and create the change you want in your life. Whether it's in your career, parenting, health and fitness or in your relationships. If you can start with this, the rest will unfold just as it should. Join us for our FREE coaching programme Identity Revolution. A four phase transformational experience where we guide you...

Ever wondered what it's like to sit in our conversation? We were mid chat and I knew I needed to get the mics out! Come sit with us while we go deep in our personal conversation about the wild ride that is life and making the decision to go all in.

In this episode we chat about the energetic drain of never being able to confidently make decisions. Big or small, spending time worrying, thinking about, going over scenarios, however you tackle it can be really exhausting and often leads you to the outcome you were trying to avoid. Here we help you to make confident, empowered decisions, fast so you can get going on the things that really matter...

Today we look at what it looks like to live in a constant state of overwhelm . We unpack whats really driving us to be this way and give some practical tools to what you can about it. Check out our FREE resources here..... www.charlieandash.co.nz

Are you choosing to suffer… without even realising it? This episode explores a confronting but deeply liberating idea: while real trauma and hardship absolutely exist, much of our everyday suffering is voluntary. Charlie shares a personal story about the moment I first heard this concept and honestly, I was angry. Defensive. Triggered. Until I realised something that changed everything… I was crea...

In this deeply honest episode, Charlie and Ash unpack what really happens when we get triggered and why the emotion we think we’re feeling (anger, frustration, defensiveness) is rarely the real one. Underneath it? Sadness. Care. Fear of not being enough. Together, they explore: Why anger often protects us from vulnerability How unprocessed emotions create all-day spirals What nervous system regula...

Have you made a goal or new years resolution and find yourself falling off the band wagon. You're not alone! We break down here the reasons why you keep getting in your own way and what you can do about it.

In this episode we talk into fear and how it can be keeping you from going after your dreams, goals or moving at all. We explore the concept that there is no such thing as failure and how you can continue moving forward without letting fear hold you back. We would love to hear what your key takeaways are. Don't forget to download our free ebook Success without Sacrifice here https://api.leadconnec...

On this episode we chat with Amy Shaw, conscious business visionary and spiritual mentor. We cover all things healing, personal transformation, business building, feminine and masculine energy and almost everything in-between. Amy is a powerhouse full of knowledge, energy and spiritual gifts. We are honoured to have her as part of our panel at our upcoming event this Sunday the 14th of December. G...