Character Analysis

C.K. is struggling with the aftermath of discovering his wife’s emotional (and possibly physical) affair after 17 years together and two children. Their relationship had been strained due to communication breakdowns and life pressures, but he trusted her until uncovering late-night calls and suspicious activity surrounding a recent trip. Despite his efforts to rebuild their marriage, she offers li...

A listener writes in to spill the tea (literally) about a high-profile professional's wife who confessed to scaring her husband into fidelity. She faked an affair accusation with help from her family, spies on his phone, and constantly keeps him on edge—all while calling it "playing around." Her reasoning? It keeps him at home and loyal. The listener’s mom, who shared the story, is baffled and thi...

We have another theme-show, Bog Witches! When a friend asks her group to boycott a dinner party because her ex-husband and his new girlfriend are invited, tensions rise. Are the wives being disloyal by attending, or is the request unreasonable? We explore the tricky balance of loyalty, fairness, and maintaining friendships after a breakup. In "Why Are Men" news, a woman goes on a second date with...

Have you ever wondered what your ex's new partner has that you don't? Do you wonder if they treat their new partner better than they treated you? A listener wants to know how to stop pressing the bruise after a breakup. Here's her letter: I have a tendency to get caught up in limerence and stalk my exes Spotify to see what he puts on his playlists. This has often kept me stuck on him, since some o...

Sarah and I share some of our favorite (and most cringe-inducing) lines from the iconic series. Listen to hear which ones held up two decades later. SUBSCRIBE & LISTEN TO FULL-LENGTH EPISODES AND BONUS CONTENT Just a reminder that the first episode of each month is free. To listen to our weekly embers-only episodes, become a paid subscriber. You'll receive 3 weekly members-only episodes, bonus...

Four and a half years ago, Tiktok Creator Lisa aka @stalkedbythefeds had an affair with  TV Personality and former US Marshal Lenny DePaul.  The relationship only lasted a few weeks. Lisa said that after finding out DePaul was married, she ended things and contacted his wife, Ellie. As some form of punishment for exposing the affair, DePaul allegedly called in a favor and got Lisa put under Federa...

A listener shares her story of mixed signals with a friend who showed romantic interest but pulled back after she reached out to reciprocate. She’s left questioning whether he’s lost interest, wants to take things slow, or feels unreciprocated. We unpack what “unfolding naturally” might really mean. *BECOME A SUBSCRIBER TO LISTEN TO OUR WEEKLY FULL-LENGTH EPISODES* ⁠ https://creators.spotify.com/p...

Enjoy a preview of this week's bonus episode. To listen to the full episode, become a subscriber. You'll receive 3 monthly members-only episodes and other bonus content. *BECOME A SUBSCRIBER TO LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE* ⁠ https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/dateologycoach/subscribe ⁠ Imagine you meet someone who shows you the care and attention you crave. He sends you good morning texts and ch...

This guy is THE WORST... "I asked him if there was something I could do to comfort him with how busy he is and he said “just go relax this evening, watch a show and some tiktoks.” I was really pissed at how condescending this was. I’m also busy – I run two business ventures and am starting a woman’s magazine. He works in investment banking and said “work is all I do, hun.” I used to be a VP in ban...

We recently received a letter from a long-time listener seeking clarity on her mother's advice. She wonders whether men are drawn more to women who embrace a relaxed and casual style than those who resemble models fresh off the cover of Vogue. We disagree with her mother's advice and explain why a man might suggest a woman dress down for dates. We also provided feedback to a man looking to spruce...

Yesterday, dozens of relatives of Erik and Lyle Menendez gathered in front of an LA courthouse to advocate for the brother's release. In their speeches, they all addressed the lack of understanding of trauma and abuse that was prevalent in the early nineties when their case was first tried. Family members (as well as the brother's lawyer) also commented that had it been The Menendez Sisters charge...

Let’s listen to Joshua , a self-perceived high-value man, describe his idea of a woman “of his caliber.” According to Joshua, these attraction metrics are: Youth Beauty Fertility Fidelity Agreeableness Sir, is this you? Listen to what we think of Joshua and his article in the full-length episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/how-men-define-113820068 I'm looking for anything—social media/dati...

Today's episode discusses Tripp, The Dating Coach For Men . He has created three must-ask questions men should ask women on a first date. 1. What's your relationship like with your Dad? 2. How do you deal with stress? 3. What's the longest friendship you've had? These questions have an underlying motivation, and Tripp knows it. They're used to gauge the emotional intelligence and effort a woman wi...

The best way to know if you're dating a narcissist is to express a boundary. Their reaction will tell you everything you need to know. Listen as we analyze a letter from a woman who needs help determining if the man she's dating is a walk red flag. Subscribe to listen to our weekly full-length episodes and get access to other bonus content. ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dateologycoach/s...

Speaking of the worst ex ever... If you listened to the show a few weeks ago, you remember the vile message a listener received from a man she rejected. She sent us the complete message string. We provide a dramatic reading of this rage machine's responses and analyze how he manipulates and insults her under the guise of wanting to reconnect. This guy is so despicable that I googled his social...

In this episode: A man unleashes his rage on a woman for rejecting his sleazy sexual proposition. A woman endures a length long-distance situationship only to be dropped like a bad habit for being honest. In previous episodes, I've discussed my fascination with analyzing writing. Those who've been around for a while know I was involved with exposing a man whose marketing agency fabricated...

Topics discussed in the episode: Why men who insert themselves in women's spaces are often predators. Is it worthwhile to try to reconcile with an Ex? When the Female Best Friend is a red flag. The perfect first date question to ask to avoid getting into a situationship. Delete your account, Sir. A man on TikTok had a disturbing reaction to a recent video of mine where I expressed that men in...

Topics discussed: The patterns that motivate someone to pursue a married man or woman. How FOMO convinces average-looking people they're more desirable than they are. Gaslighting tactics used by toxic men. Co-dependent friend groups like How I Met Your Mother  & Friends  and why they can cause trouble for your relationship. From the "This Fucking Guy" file: ⁠Her husband wants a d...

In this week's episode: Ex drama continued (3:47) When will men learn they can no longer threaten women with their absence? She wants more than a hook-up (27:52) A listener asks why men ignore certain boundaries, like when women say they aren't looking for a casual relationship. The ridiculous discourse around "mixed weight" couples (33:54)   Where have all the Real Women gone? (...

Things we learn in this episode: Patrick Swayze was the first internet boyfriend. When men go low, Sarah goes lower. Calling yourself a "girl's girl" doesn't absolve you of shitty behavior. Straight men hate drama except when it benefits them Follow Up - Fuck That Guy It's been almost two weeks since I told my Ex I missed him and still haven't received a response. I'm...

Enjoy a teaser of this week's full-length podcast. To listen to the full episode, click here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/it-was-week-of-106552875 In This Episode: Be a Clown (00:27) It's been an agonizing three days since I confessed to my Ex that I miss him. The lack of response is making me question my decision and feel utterly foolish. Writer Thinks Her Opinion Of Women's Bodies...

Could you date someone who cheated on a previous partner? (01:42) We revisit an exchange between Carrie and Big about his admission of infidelity in his first marriage. The scene spawned a conversation about whether we'd ask a new mate if they'd been unfaithful and how we'd handle it if they said yes. Could you date a cheater? Vote in our poll! How do you stop romanticising a failed re...

This episode would be perfect for #messytok. #dating #datingadvice #datinghumor To listen to our latest Sex & The City Rewind Recap Episode and get access to our bonus content, subscribe to our Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/dateologycoach Maybe Don't Try To Date When You're Married (03:42) I posted the full letter here.  It's...a lot. Feel free to leave your thoughts. Ask D...

Listener Letter - This Is What Decentering Men Looks Like (05:41) So, I've been seeing this girl for 2 months. We're hitting it off really well. I'm 30+ and this is the first time in a long long time I think we could have a future together. The problem is I'm only seeing her like once every 3-4 weeks. We've seen each other 3 times by now and last time also had s*x. Everything i...

Please rate us five stars on Spotify!⁠ Listen to our exclusive bonus episodes on Patreon ⁠https://www.patreon.com/dateologycoach⁠ Listener Question - Who Pays For The Uber? (01:36) Am I the asshole for thinking she was actually using this man for his money? https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMMvBSbRR/ Should a man give you a ride or pay for your Uber when you spent the night with him? Should he walk you home(...