Calm & Confident with Trina Gray

As we enter into year two of the Calm & Confident Collective, I'm grateful to continue this conversation with you. Today's episode is about evaluating seven areas of your life and reflecting on your satisfaction and happiness in each area. The coaching is relevant, quick-paced and thought provoking. I shared my observations when I delivered this lesson live to an audience of 400 health care profes...

This week's episode marks the start of year two of the Calm & Confident Collective. After 365 days, 52 podcasts and thousands of downloads and messages, I'm grateful that you with me. Thanks for being part of the journey where we talk about how to live a better life at work and at home. I love hearing from listeners. You can find me on my socials (links below). Today's topic is about being present...

In this week's short episode, I offered ways to navigate the heaviness of the world – whether you are feeling whiplashed by constant news headlines, or you are feeling the weight of a challenging circumstance in your own corner of the world – at home, or work, or with family or your health. I shared some simple ways to narrow your circle, spend quality time with people who you feel safe and seen b...

In this week's episode, I offered a five-step practical plan for feeling better next week — not next year, or when love slows down. It won't. Life can feel heavy, fast-paced, or even mundane. Here are five ways to have more energy and set down some mental load. This is about feeling lighter and more in control of your life. This is about taking meaningful, intentional action. From fitness to decis...

In this week's episode, I celebrated our 50th show by creating an "essentials album."  Just like your favorite artist creates a  "best of" album from time to time, I shared a quick recap of our top downloaded podcasts. I took your favorite lessons and delivered them again, in real time, not past recordings. From remembering to set things down, to saving your battery, to knowing people's place in y...

In this week's episode, I took a deep dive into the word control – which usually comes with a negative connotation. Examples: Control freak, out of control, a controlling parent, etc. I looked at the word control through two lenses. First, where we lack control over our lives (most commonly our schedules, our finances or our  health). Next, where we try to exert too much control in life that is ca...

In this week's episode, I shared the concept of the Lottery of Life. There are areas of life where we are "winning," and it has nothing to do with a winning ticket, an endless beach vacation or money growing on trees. It's about having pieces of our lives that feel whole, fulfilling, nurturing, safe and exciting. We'll dive into four areas – relationships, home, purpose and health. I'd love for yo...

In this week's episode, I shared how I have mentored people to better handle frustration. Most people are in one of two camps – either they show frustration or they swallow frustration. I teach a strategy for feeling frustration in a healthier way, sharing it in a way that heals you and helps others, and finds resolve. I shared my own tendency to show frustration quickly, and how I have navigated...

In this week's episode, I shared some listener feedback and expanded a bit more on last week's topic of decision-making. Today, I talked about simplifying life – from your health to your office to your closet to your budget to your thoughts. I shared examples from my own life of doing fewer things better and how that helps me feel less rushed, less stressed and more confident. We often don't need...

In this week's episode, I shared a lesson that I created when making decisions in my business this month. We all have decisions to make in life – big and small. From parenting, to vacations, to budgets, to projects, to home repair, and more. Letting decisions sit undone causes unnecessary stress and confusion. Decisions do not go away. In fact, they usually get harder the longer you delay. Even sa...

In this week's episode, I interviewed my dear friend and celebrity wellness expert Elise Joan. @elisejoanofficial  Elise shared the value of the Calm & Confident podcast in her life, and how she has navigated transitional times. We dove into her beliefs on reducing stress in life, including the stress caused by overly restrictive fitness and nutrition standards.  She wants women, especially over t...

In this episode, I shared a lesson about accepting all of your past chapters. We all had parts of our lives that we'd rather not revisit – decisions we made, places we went, or people we surrounded ourselves with that did not bring out our best selves. Those chapters – whether they lasted months or years, still shaped the person we are today. When we hold onto worry, shame or regret, it's hard to...

In this must-listen episode to start the New Year, I shared my most powerful lesson of 2025. This is not about resolutions, or regrets. It's about reflection. Tune in to hear the one lesson that shaped my life and work the most. I'll share tips, examples, stories and gems to help you take my top lesson and implement it into your life for greater ease and joy. Then I shared my unique strategy for p...

In this episode, I shared a phrase that we are all familiar with: "The little things are the big things." I first heard this advice as a young mom. Older parents often reminded me to cherish the small moments with my kids, not just the big vacations for birthday parties. I listened, even when life was busy. I paid more attention to conversation in the car, going out for pancakes, taking a walk tog...

In this episode, I shared a recent Instagram post called: "Awards that you're trying to win that simply don't exist." My daughter shared this with me from @womenwhotype. I loved the concept and dove deeper into each of these false awards, as well as how to avoid the temptation to earn it,  and what to do instead. It's a quick, fun listen. You are worthy just as you are. Feeling accomplished feels...

In this episode, I shared 12 commitments directly from my 2025 Calm & Confident planner. Let this serve as a road map to a better life. This will feel like a "best of" edition of my favorite, foundational life lessons — some that I've shared in more depth on this podcast and some that I have not. I know that a few of these commitments will resonate with you, and you'll know it when you hear it. Gr...

In this episode, I shared three simple ways to calm down when your thoughts are running wild in your head in the middle of the day, or the middle of the night. Our day is made up of our thoughts. When we choose better thoughts, we choose a better day for ourselves. However, many things want to take us off track — headlines, social media feeds, other people's words and actions, or everyday life cha...

In this episode, I shared a method that I learned more than a decade ago from my mentor Todd Durkin, for "color coding" your life. I have tweaked it and adapted it over the years to fit my life as a working mom. This can work for you as a college student, working professional, or retiree. Take my tips, tricks and examples and make this your own.  This system is an easy way to create more harmony i...

In this episode, I talked you through five tips or strategies for dealing with hateful words or rude people. It's not glorious, but it's a real part of life and one that I want to help you handle better. If you've been on the receiving end of rude comments, or personal attacks, this is for you. If you've had people launch mean words at your workplace, your organization, your leadership or you as a...

In this episode, I talked you through an eye-opening journaling exercise that can truly help you thrive in life. I shared the experiences of hosting a local Calm & Confident Fall Retreat for 20 women and this part of the weekend was one of the most impactful. I had the women write and share on when they are thriving in life. I'm asking you to consider that question – what is the state of your heal...

In this episode, I shared ten ways to let go of unnecessary stress in order to live a more calm and fulfilling life — a life with less weight on your mind and unease in your gut. I distinguish between the kind of stress that drives productivity from the kind of stress that feels like dread. Know the difference and go through my checklist of ten common stressors to see where you could make a change...

In this episode, I shared one of my takeaways from a recent Ultra Mastermind retreat, hosted by Brendon Bruchard, a high performance speaker and best-selling author. He talked about how frustration can lead to burnout or bitterness. I took this topic and ran with it, applying it to work, family, and personal life. I shared examples of how it shows up in my life and yours. I talked about who we bec...

In this episode, I shared four tips for organizing, leading or hosting ANY event – from a bridal shower, to a family gathering, to a community fundraiser, to a work retreat, or a conference. This can be used in your personal or professional life to create a better, easier experience for you and your guests. We'll dive into preparation, plan b's, positivity and presence as ways to create a successf...

In this episode, I share stories and lessons on an area of life that matters to all of us —  friendship. I discuss how to honor, but differentiate friendships that are built on a circumstance or a chapter of life, from those that are built to last time, distance and life experiences. This is a great episode for reflecting on the types of friendships that you have in your life, and to think about w...

In this episode, I share two ways to be more productive, less stressed, and more focused on your pursuits in life. The strategy is to be stronger than distractions, and better able to handle disruptions. These "d" words come in all different shapes and sizes. Tune in for examples from my life that might spark ideas in your life. Let's discuss how to prevent social, news, emails, texts or other peo...