Called to Marriage

Charlie is growing up, and that means the way he learns is changing too. In this episode, we share an honest update on parenting a five-year-old, why his Scripture memorization looks different today, how his love for God's Word has matured, and why we've learned to adapt our parenting rather than force the same methods. Every child develops differently, and we're simply sharing what we're learning...

Our third baby, Maggie, arrived sooner than we expected… and before the midwives made it. In this episode, we share the short version of Maggie’s birth story, how labor unfolded unexpectedly, what it was like welcoming her at home, and why going through birth together deepened our marriage. This was our third home birth by God’s grace and one we’ll never forget. Tell us in the comments:What was th...

How much of who you are today was shaped by your childhood? In this episode of Called to Marriage, we sit down for a simple conversation over dessert and answer questions that led somewhere deeper than expected. We talk about: • What we loved most as children • How our childhood experiences shaped who we became • Growing up in different family environments • The influence of parents and siblings •...

In a culture that increasingly fears family, we wanted to talk about something we believe is deeply valuable: sibling relationships. In this episode, we reflect on our own experiences growing up, the beauty of watching our children bond, and why we believe siblings can become one of life’s greatest support systems. Family is not perfect. But by the grace of God, sibling relationships can become a...

Communication is essential in marriage, but knowing how to deepen it is where many couples struggle. One simple and powerful exercise we’ve used in our own marriage is asking each other intentional questions. Some are light and fun. Others invite us to reflect on our past, our experiences, and even the deeper questions of life. Each one opens the door to meaningful conversation and connection. Que...

In this intimate episode, we celebrate our 7-year marriage anniversary. We reflect on our journey together, from moving from China to the States, raising two boys, and experiencing God's constant faithfulness. We also share insights on parenting, facing challenges, documenting memories, and ministry, all while balancing life and family. We candidly discuss the importance of faith, family unity, ho...

In this episode, we share insights from a Christian Homeschooling convention we attended recently. We discuss our plans for home education, the enriching experience of the convention, and provide a compact list of 10 lessons we learned from the convention. From fostering a vision for your family’s education to practical tips for engaging your child’s imagination and curiosity, this episode covers...

In this episode of 'Called to Marriage, we dive deep into the challenges and joys of the postpartum period, emphasizing the crucial role of paternity leave. We share personal experiences from our journey with our second child, contrasting it with our first, and highlight the transformative power of teamwork and spousal support. This episode is packed with practical advice and inspiring testimonies...

In this episode, we share our personal experience of home birthing our second child, Nti. We recount the details from the early contractions to the challenges of labor, and the joyous moment of delivery. We discuss the spiritual significance of childbirth, the importance of trust in God, and the significance of supportive spouse roles. Marcia provides insights on labor pain, the concept of the muc...

In this episode, we delve into the thought-provoking and personal journey of naming our sons. From discussing the significance of names to sharing family traditions and personal anecdotes, this episode provides a heartfelt look at how we navigated this important aspect of parenthood. Learn about the stories behind our choices, how we balanced tradition with personal preference, and the meaningful...

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of breastfeeding. We discuss the challenges and rewards associated with breastfeeding, share personal experiences, and explore cultural perspectives. Marcia highlights the difficulties she faced while breastfeeding both of our children and emphasizes the invaluable benefits, including health and emotional bonding. We also touch on the important role of...

Marcia and Thomas challenge the conventional wedding and event culture, emphasizing a return to simplicity and biblical principles. They discuss the significant impact of societal norms on our celebrations and explore key themes such as financial stewardship, cultural traditions, and the true intent behind events. Through engaging conversation, they provide insights on navigating cultural pressure...

In this episode of 'Called to Marriage,' we delve into the significance of finding contentment and simplicity amidst the busyness of life. Beginning with a scripture from Ecclesiastes 4:6, we reflect on its meaning and relevance to our current season of life, which is characterized by living simply and making financial sacrifices. We share our personal experiences of choosing to live on on...

What are you waiting on the Lord for? How are you waiting? What is your attitude and posture toward God in delay? Thomas and I answer these questions for ourselves on this episode. We are waiting, hoping, and praying for another baby. Feel free to agree with us in prayer 🙏🏾 😊 but we are genuinely grateful to and content with God and all He has given us. Be encouraged, and may God’s PERFECT will...

Key Qualities to Look for in a Christian Marriage Partner In this episode hosts Marcia and Thomas discuss essential qualities to look for in a potential Christian marriage partner. They emphasize that choosing a spouse aligned with Christian values and beliefs is crucial for a harmonious and fulfilling marriage. The episode outlines seven key qualities, including being a Christian with shared bibl...

After a few lovely years in our last apartment, we have decided to move! Some would consider it a downgrade, but we consider it a great move for us in this season! God has prospered us, and we are trusting Him in our new place and in this new season! We are just sharing some life updates for testimony and posterity sake. FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: YouTube Instagram Facebook TikTok

Counsel is important for life in general, and especially when making one the the most important decisions of life, which is who to marry. On this episode, we discuss the value of counseling at every stage of a relationship, whether simply interested in someone, actually seeing someone, about to get married, or married for several years. The Bible said that in the multitude of counselors there is s...

Lessons we’ve learned from Charlie 1. The activity of the flesh causes visceral reactions in us. We should apply grace but also discipline! (00:43) 2. We are made to be moving constantly! (9:06) 3. From a young age, we have the capacity for extreme focus and diligence (17:10) 4. We are born with courage that we should work to protect. Fear hinders you. (Release your inhibitions!) (22:00) 5. *bonus...

We’re talking about the wisdom of the ancestors! NO, we aren’t talking about soliciting the voice of your dead ancestor through seance or mediums. We are talking about walking in the GOOD ancient path referred to in Jeremiah 6:16. We are talking about not forgetting the old, good ways of the past that societies sometimes lose value for as they advance in technological conveniences and modernize in...

It is good to make a frequent habit of appreciating your spouse. On this episode, we list the ways we help and add value to one another. Gratitude is good for the soul, and it helps your spouse feel joyful and fulfilled in their service to you. Try it! OUR WEBSITES: thomasandmarcia.com calledtomarriage.org FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarriage Facebook:...

On this episode of CTM, we dig a little deeper into how we live on one income, particularly since having our son. The lifestyle is not for everyone at every time, but if you want it, there is a very good chance you could do it! Set your priorities and make decisions according to them. Most of all, align with your spouse! FOLLOW US FOR MORE CONTENT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calledtomarr...

Many families struggle to imagine how they could possibly live on one income, but on this episode of Called to Marriage, Thomas and Marcia offer encouragement to those who aspire to do so. They recount going from Marcia being the “primary breadwinner”, to both working for a short period, to neither working for an even shorter period, to finally Thomas being the sole provider. Everyone’s marriage a...

Responsibility. Life calls for it, and most of the good things in life require it. Sometimes we are afraid of being responsible for anyone or anything other than ourselves. It feels very risky, but we must remember: with big risk comes big reward. We talk about all that and more on this episode of the Called to Marriage podcast. CALLED TO MARRIAGE PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/calledtomarriage You ca...

On this episode, we discuss the importance of going to church. We start out by naming some reasons folks give for not attending church, and then we break down our thoughts and finally try to summarize some reasons why people absolutely should go to church. In addition, we make mention of the fact that the way churches gather in different places and times varies greatly, so regardless of where or h...

Date night is OVERRATED! 😆 Honestly, date nights are wonderful, but in our opinion, not having regular date nights doesn’t mean your marriage is in the red! Date nights are a tool with an important sentiment behind them. That sentiment is vital to a healthy marriage, but the utility of date night in your relationship depends on your circumstances. Hear our thoughts and drop a comment adding your...