Byrontology Podcast

“Our marriage doesn’t feel like ones from TV or movies.” Five years of marriage and something still doesn’t line up. I thought I knew what this was supposed to feel like. In this episode, I tell the story of: * Meeting a man who was never boring. * The moment I realized he was here to stay. * How we built a life out of art, humor, and a gopher in the backyard. This is a story about commitment, con...

"How do you know it was really love?" A TV weatherman showed me sunny days and a broken heart. I was 22, newly out of the closet, and convinced I had found something real. Until a storm cloud moved in. In this episode, I tell the story of: * the small-town weatherman who pulled me into my first real experience of being gay * the moment everything broke * and the one question from a child therapist...

“I don’t want to do this.” My mom had a heart attack. I flew home. I handled it. I was steady. Capable. Useful. Then I drove fifty-one hours back to California and fell apart. That’s Byrontology. We take a broken heart and make art. The broken heart is sometimes rejection, jealousy, or despair. The art is the response that brings us back home—a book, a movie, a walk, a conversation, a meaningful m...

“The gay devil used to be inside me. Not in a fun way.” I grew up Catholic, certain, and very afraid. Afraid of desire. Afraid of other people. Afraid of the part of myself I was taught was evil. In this episode, I tell the story of: * the leather daddy I laughed at from a car window * the furious letter I wrote to a Jesuit priest in college * and the slow, inevitable way time dismantles certainty...

Episode 0: Introducing Byrontology—The Podcast “Take your broken heart and go make art.” That was the advice Carrie Fisher gave me years ago. I’ve used it to survive everything from being her assistant to surviving “ball cancer” to navigating the rejection of a novel that didn’t sell. Byrontology is the result of that practice. It’s a podcast, a newsletter, and a community for overthinkers and the...