Breaking the Silence

Motherhood isn’t always the fairytale we were promised. In this episode of Breaking the Silence , Raynea and Kelli talk about what happens when motherhood includes grief, loss, divorce, betrayal, blended families, financial fear, or becoming the only stable parent overnight. You can love your children deeply… And still grieve the way your story unfolded. If you’ve ever thought: • “This wasn’t supp...

What happens to your faith when God doesn’t answer the way you prayed? It’s a question many people carry… but few feel safe enough to say out loud. In this episode of Breaking the Silence , Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about what it looks like to wrestle with faith after loss. When prayers for healing, miracles, or more time don’t unfold the way we hoped, it can leave our hearts tr...

Parenting after loss is a layer of grief no one prepares you for. In this episode of Breaking the Silence , Raynea and Kelli talk about what it really looks like to raise children while navigating grief, widowhood, trauma, and nervous system overwhelm. If you’re a mom grieving the loss of a spouse, child, relationship, or dream — and secretly wondering, “Am I messing my kids up because I’m grievin...

Why does grief still hurt — even years later? In this episode of Breaking the Silence , we’re unpacking how grief reshapes attachment — and why healing after loss doesn’t follow a timeline. If you’ve ever wondered: • “Why am I still grieving?” • “Why do I feel more anxious in relationships now?” • “Did losing them change my attachment style?” You are not alone. Grief doesn’t just affect your thoug...

If love has ever felt like anxiety, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we talk about why so many of us learned to chase perfection—not because we’re controlling or “too much,” but because somewhere along the way, love felt inconsistent. And when love feels unpredictable, our nervous systems do what they can to stay safe. We explore how fear of abandonment shows up in relationships and...

What if the problem was never that you were “too much”… What if your nervous system simply learned a different language of love? In this episode of Breaking the Silence , Raynea and Kelli gently explore what secure love actually feels like—not as a definition or diagnosis, but as a lived, embodied experience. Together, they get curious about the patterns many of us grew up with: love that felt int...

Have you ever felt like the more you lean in, the more someone pulls away? Or the moment you take space, someone panics? In this episode of Breaking the Silence , Raynea and Kelli gently unpack what’s often called the anxious–avoidant dance.... not to label or diagnose you, but to name a pattern so you can finally stop thinking you are the problem. Together, they talk honestly about: what anxious...

What are you carrying into 2026… and what are you finally ready to put down? In this episode, Raynea and Kelli sit down for an honest, faith-rooted conversation about the things so many women are holding right now—pressure, grief, emotional exhaustion, and the quiet fear of not being “okay” yet. Together, we talk about what we’re bringing with us into this new year (real healing, secure faith, hon...

A conversation about obedience, rest, and trusting God when the next step isn’t clear. Sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is pause. In this episode, I share what a season of quiet revealed, what I expected God to say, what surprised me, and how obedience in this season looked more like being than doing. If you’ve been feeling tired, overwhelmed, or unsure of your next step, this conversat...

A new season of Breaking the Silence . A space for honest conversations about faith, healing, grief, relationships, and the quiet seasons that shape us. New episodes begin January 21.

As we close out this year, Kelli and I sat down for one last episode — a tender, honest conversation about what it means to navigate this season holding both grief and joy. With Raynea's son's wedding just around the corner, there’s so much excitement for what’s ahead — love, new beginnings, and celebration. But there’s also that quiet ache for who’s missing, for the moments we wish they c...

After loss, the thought of dating again can feel… complicated. There’s the guilt, the fear of getting hurt again, and the worry about how your kids will handle it — all tangled up with the quiet hope that maybe, just maybe, your heart could open again someday. In this episode, we're talking honestly about what it’s like to even consider dating after loss — especially when you still have kids at ho...

This week’s episode is packed with so many good things — from the upcoming wedding and all the joy and excitement surrounding it, to the sweet (and sometimes funny) ways we show love through our little “terms of endearment.” 💕 I even make my singing debut in this one (you’ve been warned! 😂). Normally, this time of year can feel really heavy for me, but this season, there’s a sense of excitement...

Grab your coffee and settle in, because Raynea and Kelli are pulling questions straight from the jar — and nothing’s off-limits! From hilarious childhood memories to the faith-filled moments that shaped them, this episode is a rollercoaster of laughter, vulnerability, and heart. It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s exactly what Breaking the Silence is all about — finding connection, healing, and a whole...

It’s just me this week—and I’m spilling the tea from my younger years that I’ve never shared before. Let’s just say… if you’ve ever wondered how your attachment style might’ve shaped your love life, this one’s going to hit home. I’m diving into the ways I sabotaged a relationship without even realizing it—and the powerful lessons that surfaced once I understood why . 💭 We’re wrapping up our deep...

When someone sees us up close, the mirror doesn’t lie. Relationships have a way of exposing the hurts we’ve hidden and the patterns we’d rather ignore. In this episode, we’ll step into those uncomfortable reflections—why they surface, what they’re trying to teach us, and how facing them can become the doorway to deeper healing and truer connection. Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine...

In this episode Kelli and I talk about the surgery I’m having today. We also share about the hard but beautiful truth that sometimes we simply can’t do it all on our own. I open up about those first days after Dave died, when I knew I couldn’t raise four kids without a village. Admitting I needed help was one of the most humbling moments of my life, but also where I saw God’s faithfulness the clea...

This week’s episode took a surprise turn. Kelli and I had a different episode planned, but life had other ideas. Instead, we found ourselves talking through some of the really raw and challenging moments of being a mom—the ones that can feel heavy and lonely. 💛 To every mom out there carrying so much: we see you, we get it, and you are not alone. And because sometimes the only way through the har...

We’re continuing the conversation from last week about how fearful and dismissive avoidants use deactivating strategies when closeness starts to feel overwhelming. For avoidants, caring too much or fearing rejection often triggers the instinct to pull back—because distance feels safer than vulnerability. In this episode, Raynea and Kelli walk through 21 different ways avoidants create space in rel...

Have you ever been in a relationship where everything feels amazing one day… and then suddenly, the other person goes quiet, distant, or even picks a fight out of nowhere? Yeah, that’s what we’re talking about today. In this episode, Kelli and I dive into the world of avoidant deactivation —what happens when fearful and dismissive avoidants start pulling back in relationships. We share: The real r...

If you could sit down with your younger self, what would you say? In this episode, Kelli and I each share some powerful pieces of wisdom we wish we had known 10 years ago. From lessons learned through pain to truths that set us free, we open up about the insights that shaped our journeys. We end with an invitation for you to reflect on your own “lesson learned” and how it might guide your path for...

Kelli and I had such a real conversation today about that little dash between the day we’re born and the day we leave this earth. That dash is our one life—what are we doing with it? We talk about being intentional with our time and our words, treasuring the moments with the people we love, and making sure no one ever has to wonder how we feel. It’s about living full out, being bold, and not wasti...

Your identity isn’t up for debate — it’s already been spoken over you by God. But if we’re honest, the voices of others can feel louder than His sometimes. In today’s episode, we’ll dive into why we care so much about what people think, how to untangle our worth from approval, and how the Let Them mindset can help us walk in freedom. If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit into other people’s box...

What do you do when the last child leaves the house—and the quiet sets in? And what if you're still raising kids, but you've already walked five out the door? In this heartfelt episode, Kelli shares what it’s been like watching her stepdaughter—the last to leave—step into adulthood, officially making her a new member of the empty nest club. I (Raynea) reflect on the journey of launching five grown...

What does it actually look like to feel  secure  in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving:  secure attachment . In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking: 💡 What secure attachment is (and what it  isn’t ) 🧠 The mindset and nervous system of...