Boysober

Hope has been stuck in a very familiar pattern — go boysober, boylapse, repeat. In Boysober 's final episode, she’s desperate to break the cycle. So desperate that she travels to a monastery to seek guidance from women who might be considered the original boysober evangelists: nuns. This may not be a perfect ending. But it might be a real beginning. See omnystudio.com/listener for priv...

Peggy Orenstein is an author and journalist who has interviewed countless young women about their sex lives, including Hope. In the midst of writing the follow-up to her popular book Girls & Sex , Peggy stops by the podcast to share her newest findings. As it turns out, you can’t have a conversation about young women and their intimate lives today without talking about celibacy.   D...

What happens when you try to give up men… and keep failing? After years of starting (and restarting) her celibacy journey, Hope talks to two Gen Z women who are actually doing it and thriving. From breaking patterns around male validation to redefining intimacy, Jasmine Gonzalez and Ameya Okamoto share their own personal experiences with what happened when they stopped centering men. ...

You learn so much about people when you work in a service job: How they interact, what ticks them off, and how they lay on the charm for tips. It's also fun to interact with customers, do some innocent flirting, and maybe... some not so innocent flirting. Today, we have a bartenders to lovers story that will make you believe in love again.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to...

Many people have had a certain someone they just can’t quit. Hope is in the thick of it right now and calls on relationship expert Jillian Turecki to talk it through. Their conversation about limerence and romantic obsession goes deep, takes some unexpectedly personal turns, and will leave you with a deeper understanding of how to pursue healthier relationships. Jillian’s best-selling...

Class is in session: Dr. Nicole McNichols , best known online as the " Sex Professor ," is here to fix your sex life — or at least unlearn everything that’s been ruining it. From Gen Z's performative, porn-influenced hookups to the myth that good sex should just “happen,” we get into why so many people are having less (and worse) sex, and what actually makes it better. Nico...

Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized, and Secure. Those are the four major Attachment Styles that you might be familiar with even if you're not in therapy. Clinical psychologist Dr. Morgan Anderson helps identify what each style looks like in dating, the biggest misconceptions that are shaping our behaviors, and what it really takes to move toward secure, healthy relationships.   Do you have a boy...

“ Are You Mad at Me? ” It’s the question that lives rent-free in every people pleaser’s head — and it’s also the title of psychotherapist Meg Josephson ’s book. In this episode, Meg joins Hope to unpack why people-pleasing is actually a trauma response, how it can turn into subtle dishonesty, and what it takes to stop losing yourself while trying to keep e...

When a woman decides she doesn't want kids, everyone has an opinion about it. For women in that position, it can be disorienting to distinguish between what you want and what society wants for you. This week, audio producer and storyteller Helena de Groot tells us her story about giving up everything to stay true to what she knew she did and didn’t want. To hear more of Helena's story, liste...

Comedian Chanel Ali tells us the story about how, throughout her life, she had to rely on herself to figure out the answers to life's big mysteries. Through her complicated search to find her biological family, she confronts the weight of generational patterns and chooses to build a legacy that’s fully her own. For updates on her next shows, check out her website chanelali.com , or follow he...

Patterns are hard to break. Cue: Therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab , who joins the show to help Hope tackle her own tendencies of becoming enmeshed in codependent relationships and learn how to change her behavior in both romantic and platonic relationships. Nedra's new book, The Balancing Act: Creating Healthy Dependency and Connection Without Losing Yourself , is out now.&nbsp...

Hope is no stranger to real-life romance, but when it comes to the genre of romance—books and TV shows like Heated Rivalry or Bridgerton —she’s a complete virgin. Today, she gets her education with a trip to a romance bookstore, a conversation about monster romance with romance novel expert Sanjana Basker , and a serious look at how wounds from past relationships could be keeping...

Cheating is often treated like the ultimate dealbreaker — but it’s way more complicated than that. Therapist (and author of " Beyond Infidelity ") Lauren LaRusso talks with Hope about why cheating happens, why staying or leaving a relationship is rarely black and white, and what actually helps people heal after betrayal.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear f...

Comedian Britt Migs tells us the story of the man she married, the bot that tore everything apart, and where dating after divorce led her. Britt is adapting this story into a special called "Dolphin Mode." For updates on when that's coming out, be sure to check out her website  brittmigs.com , or follow her on Instagram and TikTok .   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love...

Do the straight men in your life have friends? Do they have a close emotional relationship with someone other than their romantic partner? If not, and you are in a relationship with one of these men, you might be “mankeeping,” a term coined by psychologist Angelica Ferrara to describe the emotional labor many women take on for their male partners. Today, we have Angelica on the pod to...

Hope is boysober but she’s also sober sober… like from alcohol. For Dry January, she’s chatting with her friend Chris Murch (aka Nigel Roxbury , content creator and host of the online series " Dumb Hot ") who has been sober for almost two years. Many might think dating while sober is hard, but without alcohol, it can be easier to understand who you are and what you want.  ...

Whether you’re looking for love or completely boysober in 2026, you’ll likely be inundated with dating trends and terms that might affect how you think about relationships these days. Hope, with producers Emily and Cristina, get in the studio to discuss these terms and talk about what they’re really looking for in the new year.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd l...

A look back on our favorite answers to Boysober's signature question: "What have you unlearned about love?"    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com , or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want t...

It’s the holidays, which is the perfect time to force your family to overshare on mic. That’s what Hope is doing this week with her mom Sharon, who opens up about her own path through love, heartbreak, and the patterns the women in their family keep repeating.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com ,...

It feels like everything is expensive these days. So what does that mean for dating? Comedian Esmond Fountain shares his own experience of struggling to find love when his bank account was basically zero.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com , or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before...

Your boyfriend might not be embarrassing, but the way you talk and post about him probably is. For too long, women have been taught to flaunt their relationships to prove their worth. In this live episode of Boysober, Hope talks to creator Kate Glavan about rewriting that script, and how she had to unlearn the rules of dating to figure out what she actually wanted. To hear more from Kate, don't fo...

Why is living alone so glamorized? Especially when there's a more affordable and less lonely option to live in an intentional community. That’s the message Gillian Morris is preaching. Gillian has lived communally for 10 years in various environments, and is even working to raise her child in one as a single mother. What does that mean exactly and why could it be the answer to so many of soc...

Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop being curious. That’s what  Michelle MiJung Kim realized once she married her husband. As a queer woman, Michelle felt it was important to continue exploring her sexuality even while in a stable relationship. So when she asked to open the marriage, Michelle started her journey to find out what she needed to be happy....

Consider this your fertility Q&A, minus the misinformation you might see on social media. Hope sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon to talk egg freezing: When is the right time to do it? What's a man's responsibility in all this? And most importantly, how can we plan for the future without freaking out about it? To learn more, be sure to pre-order Dr. Lucky's book  The Lucky Egg   (out Ja...

Can men and women really just be friends? That’s the question at the heart of this week's Boysober Rom-Com Roundtable. Comedians Nikki Martin and Andy Spector help break down the iconic When Harry Met Sally—and all the messy, funny, and heartfelt truths about love and friendship it brings up.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice not...