Boy Problems Podcast

What to tell....what not to tell...that is the question. :) Today we talk about how we deal with our family and our partners family before and after recovery. We share why we sometimes choose not to tell family about relapses and all the details of our partners active use. We give our advice about how to best support someone who is dealing with a spouse or loved one in active addiction or recovery...

Unfortunately many of us have had to put ourselves in risky situations because of our loved ones addiction. Today we share some of those times that thankfully turned out okay. Topics also discussed: Trust Anger Recovery Relapse Drugs Boundaries Relationships Addiction Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Co-Dependents An...

As social distancing continues, we thought we would get the boys together and hear their thoughts on recovery during the pandemic. Jake and Charlie share their perspective since newly clean from relapses and Steve shares what routines have done for his recovery. Find out what they say about how loved ones have helped them through addiction and recovery. Topics also discussed: Judgement Stigma Fear...

In the past few weeks our world has been completely changed. Today we share our feelings on how Covid-19 is affecting our recovery and our partners recovery. Topics also discussed: Fear Money Recovery Drugs Relapse Addiction in families Boundaries Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda....

Worrying about relapse, being let down in the past and making sure we protect ourselves are things we think about often.  In today's episode we talk about how we couldn't and sometimes still can't count on our partners. Elise shares how years of lying and use still bring up feelings of anger. Alex shares about her interesting conversation with Charlie and Liz talks about how Jake being in a h...

Early recovery is hard...SO hard. It's hard for our loved one but also hard on the ones supporting the addict on this new journey. Today we share stories of the early days with our partners. We talk about how recovery must always come first in our partners lives, how new everything is and how we learned to cope in those early days and months. If you are struggling with the early recovery days like...

In today's episode we talk to Darleen and Randy. Randy has been in recovery for almost 20 years and Darleen has stuck by his side. We hear insights into how they've come so far and how they raised their children with a father in recovery. They also share concerns about their youngest son being addicted to alcohol. Topics also discussed: Love through addiction Recovery Self-Care Relationships Addic...

Addiction takes its toll on the entire family. Today, we discuss how our lives have changed throughout each of our journeys through addiction and recovery. We’ve all grown and learned a lot throughout the process and spend a little time reflecting on the good and the bad. Topics also discussed: Love through addiction Recovery Self-Care Relationships Addiction Boundaries Personal growth Personal de...

In today’s episode, a friend of ours, Lizzie, joins us to share her experience navigating addiction and recovery with her spouse. Lizzie, a wife and mother, shares how she supports her husband, teaches her kids about addiction and works through her own anger and resentments to keep taking it one day at a time. Trigger warning: this episode contains a story about a suicide attempt. Topics also disc...

Today Alex, Elise and Liz get personal and share why they’ve stayed with their loved one through their addiction and recovery. It’s something they get asked frequently (or even ask themselves!) and can be difficult to understand from the outside looking in. Hopefully this conversation provides a better glimpse into the complicated relationship with a loved one recovering from addiction. Topics als...

In this week's episode we hear some good news about Jake. Liz also shares some valuable tips when taking your loved one into a treatment center. Topics also discussed: Treatment Recovery Relapse Drugs Relationships Addiction Loving Support Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-...

Bruce Perkins Notes When is it time to intervene? This is something we’ve all struggled with as we’ve assisted our loved ones through their recovery. In today’s episode, we talk with interventionist Bruce Perkins. Bruce is a recovering person and licensed counselor that has conducted over 2,000 interventions with a 95% success rate. You can learn more about Bruce at http://www.bruceperkins.com/. T...

Episode 9 Notes Anger is something we’ve all dealt with living with our recovering addict spouses. In today’s episode, we discuss the different ways each of us processes and deals with our anger and how we forgive and move forward with our relationships. Topics also discussed: Trust Anger Self-care Recovery Relapse Drugs Boundaries Relationships Addiction Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod T...

Alex has an update to share.

Episode Notes: In this weeks episode we chat with Charlie. He and Alex shares stories about his recovery, relapses and their relationship. Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @boyprobspodcast Facebook: @boyproblemspod Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/ Al-Anon: al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline...

 Episode Notes Today we sit down for a check-in. In recovery based meetings, check-ins are a way to give an update on your progress, setbacks and achievements. As family members in a recovery of our own, this serves as a way to gain feedback on the things happening today and be held accountable for also taking care of ourselves despite whatever else is happening.  During this conversation:  Elise...

Happy Holidays? Today we talk about how to navigate holiday traditions, parties and visits with friends and family with a loved one in recovery. This episode touches on some basic relapse prevention tools, holiday triggers and how to care for you, and your family, during what can be a stressful time for most of us. We hope, that with a little support, you can enjoy the holidays drug and alcohol fr...

Episode 5 Notes Boundaries are an essential component of a healthy relationship with an addict. In today’s episode we discuss boundaries, how to implement them, how they evolve through different stages of addiction and recovery and most importantly, how to make yourself a priority along the way. Topics also discussed: Trust Group and individual therapy Empowerment Self-care Recovery Relapse Drugs...

Episode 4 Notes Today we discuss the topic of anonymity with a licensed therapist. All three women explore why they keep their stories of living with addiction separated from their “normal” lives. The shame, guilt and internal struggle of fear and judgement are all factors that weigh into these individual choices. Topics also discussed: Privacy Judgement Stigma Fear Recovery Drugs Boundaries Relat...

Show notes: Bonus: Check-in with Liz Today we have a bonus episode to check-in with Liz on recent happenings with her and Jake, her boyfriend of 9 years. This episode is a casual conversation we hope will show the ups and downs of addiction with a loved one and how we can protect ourselves during the chaos. Topics also discussed: Relapse Drugs Boundaries Relationships Addiction Halfway house Treat...

Episode 3 Notes Today we discuss the challenge and importance of trust in our relationships with addicts. Each one of us comes from a different perspective to share insights on how trust has evolved (and devolved) throughout addiction and recovery. Topics also discussed: Trust Money Recovery Drugs Overdose Relapse Addiction in families Boundaries Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Twitter: @...

Today we discuss life before we knew our spouses were addicts, or what addiction even meant for our relationships. We take a deep dive into the chaos that tends to surround family members during their loved ones active addiction. Each of us goes into some level of detail about the events leading up to our spouses seeking treatment for addiction. During this conversation: All three women share stor...

 Episode Notes Today we sit down for our first check-in. In recovery based meetings, check-ins are a way to give an update on your progress, setbacks and achievements. As family members in a recovery of our own, this serves as a way to gain feedback on the things happening today and be held accountable for also taking care of ourselves despite whatever else is happening.  During this con...