Bold Beautiful Borderline

Today my new friend Emily joins the podcast to talk her journey to getting a borderline diagnosis, mothering, and marriage. Thank you Emily for sharing your heart and wisdom with me - it came at a time when I really needed it.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @bo...

In this episode, we break down what self-compassion actually means—without the fluff or fake positivity. We’ll explore why being kind to yourself feels so hard, especially if you’re used to self-criticism as a motivator. You’ll learn practical ways to start treating yourself with the same care you’d give a friend, even on your worst days. Get ready for real ideas and strategies about WTF self-comp...

Today I'm joined by Cynthia Gralla, an author, writer, lifelong student, and professor who happens to have BPD. Cynthia is host of the podcast A Real Affliction: BPD, Culture and Stigma and today she joins us to talk about how it can be difficult and so important for some to get an education and the strategies for supporting your education when you have BPD.  Find her podcast here:  https://a...

In this conversation, Estefana Johnson and I delve into the complexities of trauma and the innovative therapeutic approach known as Critical Memory Integration (CMI). We discuss the importance of understanding trauma not just as a singular event but as a series of experiences that shape an individual's response to adversity. We talk about the need for a personalized approach to therapy that r...

Okay here's a few more of the answers to those questions about BPD couples (where one person has BPD). Please excuse the shitty audio, as ADHD couples do we recorded in the car safely (hands-free driving, ya'll!).  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldb...

Today is our final mini episode and we talk what the hell a trauma bond even is. Don't forget, if your'e on Patreon there's a 4th mini episode waiting for you there!  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline Corey Evans is the artis...

Hi ya'll! Over the next few days there will be mini episodes covering individual topics for the podcast. And then a final, mini episode as a bonus over on Patreon. Today we talk about how asking someone to go to therapy, or wishing that they will, without the right supports in place can be more harmful than helpful. And radical acceptance is the only way to cope with that, I believe, unfortun...

Hi ya'll! Over the next few days there will be mini episodes covering individual topics for the podcast. And then a final, mini episode as a bonus over on Patreon. Today we talk a bit more about masking and how being borderline can result in other people's discomfort.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderl...

As promised I had to talk more about shame. In today's episode Dr. Kiki Fehling brings the DBT perspective to what causes shame, shame vs. guilt, and how we cope with shame. (Can you say opposite action???) Watch the episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qynq1T36Lp0 Kiki is a licensed psychologist, author, speaker, and Linehan-Board-certified expert therapist in Dialectical Behavior T...

We didn't get nearly as far into the questions as I wanted to because #borderline and the damn irritation it causes. But this was really fun for us and I'm looking forward to doing a part 2 of reviewing the questions ya'll have for us about relationships with one person having BPD.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on...

Today I talk about how shame feels like it's chewing me up and spitting me out. I talk about the components of a fear-based environment (or childhood) and how that results in chronic shame. And finally, I share your experiences with shame.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the...

Rachel joins the podcast today to talk about her journey with treatments that didn't work and ultimately her journey with a treatment not commonly used that has worked very well for her, ECT or Electroconvulsive Therapy.   Rachel's story is unique and I'm grateful she joined the pod to share it!  Rachel is raising funds for a wildlife rehabilitation non-profit - please consider dona...

Today Paul gives us updates on his start in therapy a few years after his original time on the podcast! Thank you Paul for once again sharing your story and congratulations on the next steps you've made towards recovery. We love you!  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podca...

We all need a bit of safety and comfort right now. I find nature really comforting but I'm not always able to go there. Today I'm sending you a bonus guided meditation. A walk through the forest for feeling safe.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbe...

In today's episode I speak with Yosi Amram. Yosi is a licensed clinical psychologist, a CEO leadership coach, an author, and a pioneering researcher in the field of Spiritual Intelligence. We talk what is spiritual intelligence, how it  positively benefits mental health and his own experience managing mental health through the use of spiritual intelligence.   Yosi received his B.S. and M.S in...

On today's episode Dr. Michelle Sherman joins us on the podcast to talk my most favorite tear-jerking topic, parenting when you're mentally ill as well as how to support family members who are mentally ill/being the family member of someone who is mentally ill.  Michelle (she/her) is a clinical psychologist who has dedicated her 30+ year career to supporting families dealing with a menta...

Christina returns to the podcast to tell us her experience with a recent move, relapse, new relationships, no-contact updates. Really just all the things in her world. We get down on them all. Thank you, Christina, for sharing your BPD story with the world.  YOUTUBE:  WATCH THIS EPISODE HERE Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Insta...

So with the recent defunding proposition of LGBTQ crisis lines how we do community work around suicide prevention is essential. It's always been essential but even more now than ever. Here's 50 reasons to stay alive - listen anytime you need it. And buy a laminated card to carry around and remind you. 100% of proceeds go to LGBTQ crisis line(s). Example: Trevor Project  BUY HERE Send us...

There's three different types of perfectionism - who knew? In this episode we get into specific examples of mine and Talon's perfectionism and how it hurts us, holds us back, and steals our joy.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline...

The term Highly Sensitive Person was recently referenced in a DBT training I was attending and I thought "I've really gotta read about this" to myself. In today's episode I give a brief overview of what an HSP is, the differences and similarities between BPD and HSPs and what I think about the quiz when taking it for myself. Don't forget a bonus podcast episode went live t...

In this bonus episode, Talon and I dive into the often-overlooked struggles people with disabilities face when navigating the service industry of any kind. In this example, it's an accountant. She fired me, but I fired her first. It was a tough morning but we are finding the humor and steps forward in it.  Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the show You ca...

Laura was on the podcast last year talking about their BPD experience and we thought maybe they had ADHD and did the ADHD Self-Reporting Tool. Fast forward a year and they have a diagnosis, take medication and report "I don't hate myself like I used to!".  A beautiful full circle. Thanks for the updates, Laura!  Listen to Laura's past episode here!   Send us a text message to b...

What is masking?  Masking is when someone hides or suppresses their true emotions, behaviors, or traits—usually to fit in socially, avoid judgment, or feel safer in a particular environment. It’s especially common among people with neurodivergent experiences (like autism, ADHD, or anxiety), but anyone can do it and those of us with BPD certainly do.  This episode was accidental and came organicall...

A BPD classic struggle is to love the potential you see in them or who you want them to be and forgetting to see who they are. I've done this with dozens of people: friends, family, partners, even co-workers. I struggle to meet people where they're at and instead dream about how I can make them fit into my world the way I want because maybe then I'll be worthy of love?  It never wor...

"No contact" has been a term popping up over the last few years in the social media world. It sounds pretty: "I'm not contact". But it's often devastating and wonderful all at once. It's messy. In today's episode I talk about what family estrangement is, some reasons why it can happen, and YOUR thoughts on going no contact.  Send us a text message to be anon...