Black. Queer. Unapologetic.

I've been unemployed for two months, and dating feels different, lighter, calmer, clearer. In this episode, I talk about how not working became a filter in my dating life, revealing who needs me to be impressive and who can meet me as I am. I unpack the pressure on Black gay men to always be strong, stable, and exceptional. My worth didn’t disappear when my job did.

I’ve been single for eight years and I’m not ashamed of it. In this episode, I talk about my dating history, why apps feel like a drug, how therapy changed the way I date, and why I refuse to compete for someone who can’t choose me. If you’re single, tired of being questioned, or done entertaining confusion, this one’s for you.

After 19 years of working nonstop, I quit my job, not because I failed, but because I didn’t recognize myself anymore. In this episode, I talk about rejecting perfectionism, burnout, and the pressure to constantly be “better,” especially as a Black person navigating systems that reward overworking and self-erasure. I share what I saw after a decade in HR, how hustle culture became survival conditi...

This episode is about what happens when success becomes something you perform instead of something you actually live. I talk about the pressure many Black men, queer folks, and people of color grow up carrying the unspoken need to always be “on” to be seen as worthy or safe and how that pressure shows up in careers, dating, and mental health. From tone-policing at work to being “too much” or “not...

In this episode, I break down the negative reactions to my Instagram reels about queer representation and how a conversation about “men of color” somehow became a conversation about Black people. I’m talking honestly about the patterns of queer anti-Blackness, the defensiveness I saw, and how media quietly programs desire for young queer people of color by framing love as something that happens cl...

Season 2 is HERE. New clarity. New intention. Same unapologetic conversations. This season we’re diving even deeper into dating, identity, boundaries, hookups, emotional self-awareness, and the messy, nuanced, human experiences we all wrestle with. Thank you for rocking with me, whether you’re Black, Queer, both, or neither. If you’re open-minded, reflective, and ready for more honest conversation...

This year, I’m heading to World Pride not just to celebrate but to take up space. In this episode, I unpack what Pride really means to me in a world that still wants us quiet, small, and scared. From corporate performativity to the weight of shame we’re still unlearning, I’m talking about the power of showing up, being seen, and choosing joy anyway. Pride didn’t start as a party and I’m not treati...

What happens when the version of you the world praises… isn't the full story? In this episode, I’m unpacking the lifelong performance so many of us get trapped in, especially if you're Black, queer, and navigating corporate systems, family expectations, social media, and survival. From being a queer athlete in the 90 - early 2000s, to managing in Corporate America as a young Black man with...

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal and vulnerable. “and celibate + sober” isn’t just a follow-up to last week’s talk on sexual chemistry—it’s an honest look at what happens when you strip away the sex, the alcohol, the validation, and the constant performance. I talk about what led me to take a break from sex for 90 days and alcohol for 30, how hookup culture left me fee...

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Stephan as we get real about recognizing sexual chemistry, owning our sexual positivity, and learning how to trust our bodies — and our boundaries — at parties and beyond. We share the story of how we met at Folsom Weekend in San Francisco, navigating overstimulation, connection, and how sometimes the universe really does line things up perfectly. We talk a...

In this episode I’m telling a story I never thought I’d say out loud. The time in my twenties when I secretly was hooking up with my friends’ boyfriends. There was no drama. No blowups. No one ever found out. But the real damage? It was what I did to myself. Fresh out of the military and new to the LGBTQ+ community, I was starving for connection. I confused attention with affection, sex with love,...

What if “let’s be friends” isn’t kindness but a coping mechanism? In this episode, I'm breaking down what it could mean to be offered friendship after rejection and why you don’t have to accept it. From emotional bread crumbing to self-abandonment disguised as "maturity", this episode challenges the myth that staying connected is always the “right” thing to do or an act of being the &#...

In this solo episode, I get real about what it’s like to carry imposter syndrome, burnout, and the weight of always needing to be the “strong one.” From hyper-independence, to chasing success to prove my worth, and how that hustle has left me feeling emotionally numb and disconnected from myself. This isn’t just about naming what’s broken, it’s about reclaiming what’s possible. I talk about steppi...

This is a soft, no outline, no script, no talking points, no guest episode, Where i'm being honest about burnout, writer’s block, and the emotional weight of building something real. After 90 days of podcasting consistency, the fatigue is hitting hard. Not just physically, but mentally and spiritually. This episode isn’t a masterclass or a list of tips. It’s a check-in. A reminder that showing...

In this necessary conversation, I sit down with Joseph, a biracial Black and White gay man to talk about the deeply uncomfortable truth behind racial preferences in the queer community. From the casual “no Blacks, no Asians, no This, no That” on dating apps to the fetishization of Black men as sexual objects. Together, we unpack what’s really behind the phrase “it’s just a preference,” and how med...

Making friends as an adult is hard—but making Black best friends in new cities and unfamiliar spaces? That’s a whole different journey. In this episode, I’m joined by my real-life besties, Nizer and Jamal, as we get into how we found each other, what it means to build deep friendships as Black gay men, and why chosen family hits different.

Gay bars have always been a staple of queer culture, but for BIPOC folks, the experience isn’t always welcoming. This week, I’m joined by Clif, a DJ and no stranger to the insides of LGBTQ nightlife, to unpack what it’s really like navigating queer nightlife as Black and Brown people. We getting real about the need for truly inclusive spaces for ALL OF US. Are traditional gay bars still serving ou...

Ever wondered what it’s like to go on a gay cruise? Well, I did too—reluctantly. In this episode, I break down my first experience on a gay cruise in 2023, why the marketing didn’t appeal to me as a Black gay man, and how going with a large group just didn’t work for me. But plot twist—I went again in 2024, and this time, I did it my way. From the cost (because, baby, this is not a budget trip) to...

Have you ever felt like your body wasn’t enough? Like no matter what you did, you were either too much or not enough for the spaces you existed in? In this episode of Black. Queer. Unapologetic., we’re getting real about body image struggles. From the pressures to fit into the ideal gay body—lean, muscular, light-skinned, and hyper-masculine—to the extreme lengths people go to for validation, we’r...

We’ve spent all February talking about relationships—being single, dating apps, open relationships, hookup culture, and everything in between. But today, we’re closing this series with the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself. In this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to fall in love with yourself—not in a superficial or conceited way, but in a way tha...

After listening to our last conversation on Relationship Dynamics , my friend Sean felt compelled to share his own story—and trust me, you don’t want to miss this one. In this episode of Black. Queer. Unapologetic. , we dive even deeper into the complexities of relationships, exploring what works, what breaks down, and how hookup culture plays into it all . Sean opens up about his personal experie...

Dating. Long-term relationships. Monogamy? Open? Situationships? In this episode of Black. Queer. Unapologetic. , I sit down with my friend Brian—someone I haven’t spoken to in a while—to unpack the many layers of modern relationships. We’re diving deep into what it means to figure out the kind of relationship that truly works for you, exploring deal breakers, communication struggles, break ups an...

Dating in 2025? A whole mess. In this episode of Black. Queer. Unapologetic. , I’m joined by my friend Fernando as we dive into the ups and downs of being single, navigating the wild world of dating apps, and the unique struggles that come with finding modern romance as we get older. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a few dating truths we all need to hear.

Rejection—whether in dating, work, sports, or life—is something we all face. It can often come with layers of racism, homophobia, and bias. In this episode of Black. Queer. Unapologetic. , I'm taking a deep dive into the painful, complex, and sometimes surprising ways rejection shows up in our lives. I'm unpacking how rejection chips away at our confidence and self-worth over time. But it’...

Love is in the air—or maybe not. This February on Black. Queer. Unapologetic. , we’re diving into all things dating and relationships. From the ups and downs of dating apps to embracing singlehood, exploring open relationships, and navigating love as BIPOC and Queer individuals, we’ve got you covered. Join me every week for unfiltered conversations, juicy insights, and relatable stories about the...