Bite Your Tongue: The Podcast

Today Denise and Ellen welcome Michelle Martinez, who is not only a Certified Wedding Consultant, with more than 20 years in the wedding and events industry, but also the creator and host of the world's mosts popular wedding podcast - The Big Wedding Planning Podcast. With 300 episodes under her belt and nearly three million downloads, she's been around the block a few times! Ellen'...

You asked for it!  This episode is dedicated to the often-complicated relationship with mothers-in-laws and their daughter-in-laws. If you’ve ever felt slighted or wanted more connection than the other is willing to give -  this is the episode for you! For several months listeners have asked us to find someone who could talk to us about the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law dynamic.   So many layers...

Today Ellen and Denise  welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something.  In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of my patients being parents of millennials.”  So she’s got both sides of the story...

This is a fun episode.  Today Denise interviews Stanford grads and Brooklyn comedians Carolyn Doyle and Emily Kop. Always wanting to understand and relate to the younger generation, we found these two 20-somethings by listening to their podcast called OKAY STUPID .  While listening Denise found herself gasping as they spoke so personally about their lives - including their sex lives. We wanted to...

Ellen joins Denise in today's episode as we chat with Julia Pimsluer .  Denise actually met Julia in a coffee shop in New York and the two began to chat. Julia is a scaling couch, speaker and best-selling author.  She is founder of Million Dollar Women, a New York-based social venture, which has helped thousands of women entrepreneurs  scale their businesses. Prior to that, she founded  and b...

Today Ellen and Denise interviewed Judith Smith, the author of a new book called:  Difficult: Mothering Challenging Adult Children through Conflict and Change. Judith is a leader in gerontological research focusing on women’s experiences as they age. She is a senior clinical social worker, therapist, and professor at Fordham University. She lives in New York City. Difficult focuses on adult childr...

This is one funny episode. Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article:  When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins.    Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller.  Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when she wrote this article so she is our perfect co-host. (more...

WE ARE ON IT!  Answering YOUR Questions! Today's Question: How do you handle a situation where your adult child is participating in what you believe is dangerous behavior?   They are not getting the COVID Vaccine You suspect they are drinking too much You recognize an abusive relationship These are just a few of the topics we discuss with two experts.  The first you may remember from a previo...

The parent I hope to be.  The Children I hope to raise. We believe that this episode will change everything you think ever thought about parenting. This is one of the most personal interviews we've done.  Our vulnerability in raising our own adult children is challenged.    On this week's episode we speak with Einat Nathan, parenting expert and best selling author. We talk to her about h...

Listeners, Enjoy these pearls of wisdom garnered by our amazing guests this year.  Thank you to our audio engineer Connie Fisher who brilliantly put this together. We hope you will go to our website biteyourtonguepodcast.com and listen to any of the episodes you missed in the first season. Looking forward to meeting again in 2022. Thanks so much to Connie Gorant Fisher, our audio engineer. Support...

Today we speak with the amazing Sarah Morris, a legacy and estate planning attorney in Denver, Colorado.  Sarah specializing in wills, trusts, and philanthropy.  She was recommended to us by a very trusted friend and listener. When our friend gave Sarah a rating of a 10 +, we knew she was our gal. This is a great episode to listen to with your kids or share the link so they can understand the lega...

Welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE.  The is part 2 of  "Holidays and your Adult Children." Connie Fisher, our audio engineer co-hosted this episode with Denise. They are sisters and figured that they had spent a lot of time going home for the holidays! So this was a fun episode to record. Ginny offered quite a bit of insightful observations that will get all of us to think: R...

This is part I of our double whammy holiday episodes.  Part 2 will drop on Friday - that's only two days from now.  Today we speak with Jane Isay .    She is the author of the book Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationships between Adult Children and Parents.   She is a New Yorker from birth and gets right to the point. Have you had enough togetherness during the holidays? &q...

Today we speak with Jane Adams, PhD and author of the book, When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us, Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving them Anyways and Getting on with Our Lives." In addition to being an author (of several books) , Jane is a "post-parent" coach.  And that is what our podcast is all about.  She also has a blog that she updates regularly on Psychology Today. Our dreams f...

For parents of adult children, mental health disease is one of our most frightening thoughts.  We are hoping this episode will help us understand, support and accept this disease.   This is a fabulous episode.  Today we speak with Dr. Elizabeth Cookson (Beth) a psychiatrist who has over 35 years of experience.  A former president of the Colorado Psychiatric Society, she is Board Certified in Gener...

Special episode with new guest host:  Connie Fisher. Connie is usually behind the scenes doing our tech work, but today she joined Denise to talk to  Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo. They are the hosts of the #1 marriage podcasts on Apple podcasts called One Extraordinary Marriage. Does this sound like you? Are you and your partner out of sync since you are no longer parenting young children? As your emp...

Today we talk to Cameron Huddleston , an award-winning journalist who has been writing for over 20 years on personal finance.  US News and World Report named her one of the top finance experts to follow on Twitter.  Link to her Twitter feed. She just released an amazing book called, “Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk. ”  The target for the book is our kids of course, but we switched the conversation wi...

EPISODE NOTES Joining us today are Nyge Turner and Merk Nguyen , the hosts of the wildly popular podcast - Adult ISH. Produced by YR Media and Radiotopia from PRX, these two young adults have become prominent voices of their generation. This episode they discuss everything from mental health and work ethic to social media and their relationships with their parents. They also bring a bit of diversi...

Grandparenting.  This episode is for anyone who is a grandparent, has a grandparent in their life - or might soon become a grandparent. Or you just love an exceptional interview with a fabulous guest! We welcome Julie Dolan Smith, one of the legendary Satellite Sisters .  With over 20-years in the radio/podcast industry, Julie has now taken on the alter ego of “Urban Nana.”  With 10 grandchildren...

In this episode, we speak to two young adults -- Sarah and Dan.  Both of them are in their early 30s.  We work to uncover their thoughts about young adulthood and the role their parents played in their journey. Full disclosure --  both of these young adults, although from different parts of the country, are white and from middle to upper-middle-class families.  Our goal over the next year is to sp...

The emerging adult - now recognized as “the third stage of life.”  Our guest today says that studying the emerging adult years (about age 19-29) is much like studying the preschool years — the preschool years set the stage for the teen years, and the emerging adult years set the stage for the future adulthood.   Today we talk with Dr. Larry Nelson, one of the world’s leading researchers on the eme...

Welcome to our 8th episode!  Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode." For this episode - I plead with everyone to listen and share it.   Many of us think we are progressive and accepting, but to step into someone's shoes helps us learn so much more.  Thi...

Join us for a conversation with Dr. Susan Heitler , a renowned relationship therapist. She is best  known for clarifying the basics of collaborative dialogue and provides wonderful techniques to use - not only with your adult children but for all of the relationships in your life you value. You will take away real tools, words and actions to develop meaningful relationships.  This is a must listen...

Have you ever worried that your adult children have no spiritual foundation -- or maybe that their connection to God or a higher power is different from yours?   How do you handle and respect your adult child's choices, if you are very religious or even if you find spirituality a source of strength and wish this for your child?  How also do you deal with a child that might become very religio...

This is a wonderful episode with lots of advice and suggestions from Kris Burbank, a coach for parents of people with disabilities.  She is the proud mother of three grown children, including a son born four months premature with severe cerebral palsy. She shares her story along with Dr. Ellen Braaten, a co-host of the episode who has a brother with Downs syndrome. Please also take a minute to lis...