Bite Your Tongue: The Podcast

This episode digs deep.  Today we interview Daniel Maté ,  who, with his father  Dr. Gabor Maté has been holding  highly engaging and popular workshops called “Hello Again - A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children." He points out that they do not call their workshops "a happy ending," instead it is a "fresh start."  Everyone's fresh start will look differen...

Disrespect.  We've all been there with our grown children.  The rolling of the eyes, the under the breath grunt and sometimes just complete disrespect.  Is it normal?  How do we react and handle it? Today we speak with Jennifer Williams who is the founder of Heartmanity and the Heartmanity Center, located in Bozeman, Montana. Her passion is to help people create thriving relationships. She  w...

Today we talk to Dr. Jefferey Berstien. He is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been helping children, teens, couples and families for over thirty years. He is the author of several books including his latest - now coming out in its third edition called 10-days to a Less Defiant Child. The articles he has written are numerous covering many subjects.  Because of his breadth of experience we...

Today we speak with Tracy Hargen who tells us about her journey to becoming a featured writer on so many topics for the popular website Grown and Flown. She helps us, with real ideas, for starting conversations with our adult children that are not just about their jobs and relationships, but work to build our relationship with them as adults. We talk about this article “We Absolutely Made the Righ...

Before we get into this episode I want to remind listeners to sign up for this FREE "Graceful Empty-Nester" Virtual Conference.  It begins on February 19 and runs through Feb 28. There are featured experts with strategies to reconnect with your children, heal relationships and inspire a future of connectivity!  You can listen to one two or all of them! Denise is one of the guests and sha...

Don't underestimate how much the people who come after you are going to know about you!  Today, our guest is Erik Vance.  He is an award-winning story-teller and New York Times editor based in Boulder, Colorado. (lucky guy).  We came upon an article he wrote called:  "How I Time-Travel to Parent My Adult Son." When we started to read it really had nothing to do with adult kids, but...

This is the  most requested topic by our listeners! We talk to Dr. Mark McConville,a Clinical Psychologist and author of the book - “Failure to Launch,” Why Your Twentysomething Hasn’t Grown Up….What to Do About It. Dr. McConville is an expert in adolescent psychology and his groundbreaking book comes at a time when 2.2 million young adults in America are struggling to find their way in the world....

Listener requested!  The wedding is over.  Grandchildren have arrived, but now there is trouble in paradise.  Your Adult Child is Getting a Divorce . When to bite our tongues? How or when to offer advice? The wedding was such an exciting time and now the heartache begins.    This episode will help you navigate the toughest situations. Also, we are going to explore narcissism and how to identify th...

Today we are rewinding and sharing a holiday episode we loved.  We interview Jane Isay . She is the author of the book Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationships between Adult Children and Parents.   She is a New Yorker from birth and gets right to the point. Have you had enough togetherness during the holidays? "Shut the door," she says.  How about when the kids come ho...

Don't Bite Your Tongue -- that is what today's guest says!  "Silence does not build intimacy."  Today Denise and Ellen interview Dr. Ruth Nemzoff , the author of the book "Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with your Adult Family." Dr. Nemzoff claims it is better not to bite your tongue. Bringing up important topics builds intimacy, but...

Today Ellen and Denise are talking to Ellie and Carrie Monahan.  They are sisters and as some of you might know they are the daughters of Katie Couric, an American journalist and author.   They just started a podcast and I listen to every Friday when they drop episodes. The title is: “All Each Other Has.” We love listening to the voices of these young adults - Ellie (a millennial ) and Carrie (on...

Adult step children --  today you will hear from a step-parenting author and expert and -- to round things out --  some adult step children.  Our guest says:  "I think being a step-parent is one of the hardest jobs in the world and it is also one of the biggest challenges to personal growth."  Denise speaks with  Nancy Landrum, the author of the book “ STEPPING TWOGETHER .”  Stepping Two...

What is the biggest regret of most parents today? Our guest today, one of the foremost experts who studies how individuals and families develop and change throughout their lives, tells us that as we age, we regret not reconciling with family members we may be estranged or distant from.  Today we welcome Dr. Karl Pillemer, Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, where he is also a fac...

We made you wait for this one!  Why you may have trouble sleeping as you age and what you can do about.  Do you happen to know what the "on-off" switch for sleep is in your brain?  We did not.  But now we do.  Listen now to learn more about your sleep and how to make it better! As you know in our last episode we interviewed a young researcher Mark Czeisler who was part of the COPE Initia...

This is such an important episode and one that we hope all listeners will enjoy this second time around. For parents of adult children, mental health disease is one of our most frightening thoughts.  We are hoping this episode will help us understand, support and accept this disease.   This is a fabulous episode.  Today we speak with Dr. Elizabeth Cookson (Beth) a psychiatrist who has over 35 year...

Another listener favorite.  So many listeners wrote about how they put Dr. Heitler's suggestions to good use! Join us for a conversation with Dr. Susan Heitler , a renowned relationship therapist. She is best  known for clarifying the basics of collaborative dialogue and provides wonderful techniques to use - not only with your adult children but for all of the relationships in your life you...

This is the episode we've gotten the most mail about!  Listeners loved it! Today Ellen and Denise  welcome Tess Brigham, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and former twenty-something.  In a recent article from CNBC Tess says: “Over a decade ago, when I first became a therapist, I never expected that five years later, my practice would consist of nearly 90% millennials, with the rest of m...

This is one funny episode.  That's why we are doing a special EPISODE REWIND.  Today we interview Susan Engel, a professor of psychology at Williams College and the author of the New York Times Article:  When They're Grown, The Real Pain Begins.    Joining Denise as co-host is a dear friend Val Haller.  Val is the mother of four boys, very similar to the ages of Susan's boys when sh...

The emerging adult - now recognized as “the third stage of life.”  Our guest today says that studying the emerging adult years (about age 19-29) is much like studying the preschool years — the preschool years set the stage for the teen years, and the emerging adult years set the stage for the future adulthood.   Today we talk with Dr. Larry Nelson, one of the world’s leading researchers on the eme...

Today we talk about the COVID-19 Outbreak and the rise of anxiety and depression in young adults.  We know we are all tired of hearing and reading about COVID-19. But this article in the New York Times caught our attention:   Young Adults Report Rising Levels  of Anxiety and Depression in Pandemic  We reached out to the lead author of the study, Mark Czeisler, to talk more about it. Mark is actual...

Today we speak with Kerrie Lee Brown, the author of the book My Heart, My Self: A Guide for Women Who Do Too Much .    Are you a people pleaser?   Do you do too much and neglect yourself?   This episode is for you.  Does it relate to building healthy relationships with your adult children?  You bet it does.  Taking care of yourself and your health and learning to say "no," are the exact...

Happy Father's Day.  We hope many father's (and even mother's) listen and take this episode to heart.  It's a good one! Today, we welcome Dr. Deryl Goldenberg. We learned about him when we saw an article he wrote called: “The Psychology Behind Strained Father and Son Relationships.” With many years of  working with men in therapy, the issues that come up with careers or relatio...

We sharing our LGBTQ+ episode that we dropped in Season I for Pride Month.  It remains one of our favorite episodes. We hope you will listen. Here are the episode notes from the earlier episode: Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode." For this episode - I pl...

Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of BITE YOUR TONGUE: The Podcast. You asked for it!  This is another episode that answers a listener question! But before we start - think about supporting the podcast and buy us a coffee.  That's all it takes.  CLICK HERE TO BUY US A COFFEE. This is a quick a very quick refresher course on understanding the LGBTQ+ pronouns and language About a ye...

We are on it!  Today we are talking about mothers and daughters! And it begins with the burnt hamburger.  But more about that in today’s episode.  You will have to listen. A listener wrote: Where have you been for the last 15 years? I have been searching for books, podcasts, and the internet for some real support on parenting adult children. Nothing.”  The listener proceeded to ask if we might exp...