Beyond What Hurts Us

Join Kristen and special guest Julaine as they dive into a wild mix of topics: astrology, OCD, ADHD, control, chaos, childhood trauma, abuse, body autonomy, religion, purity culture, and sex shaming. Buckle up for an unconventional exploration of how childhood abuse can sneak its way into unexpected corners of our lives. With each revelation, we peel back the layers of complexity, offering persona...

Very simply put, codependency is the unhealthy reliance on others - think, blurred boundaries and a weakened sense of self. A more healthy balance is interdependence - where the emphasis is on a healthy balance of independence and connection, clear boundaries and a strong sense of self within relationships. Join us as Kristen gets personal about her own struggles with codependency and how it has p...

In this week's episode, we're joined by Kristi Howard-Shultz, MSW, mom, wife, friend, entrepreneur, non-profit exeuctive, and life long learner.  Join Kristen and Kristi to discuss the sometimes messy and complicated world of family dynamics. We understand that it's not always easy to say "no" or draw the line with those we love the most. Together, Kristen & Kristi share personal experiences, prac...

Pecolia is back in the saddle! Buckle up and prepare to navigate the treacherous waters of toxic dynamics with us! In this week's episode, Kristen and Pecolia are diving deep into the murky depths of toxic relationships and uncovering their sneaky, damaging effects on our mental and emotional well-being. Get ready for some relatable anecdotes, witty banter, and a healthy dose of empowerment as we...

Join Kristen, and special guest, Blake as they explore the emotional landscape of moving on, providing practical strategies and insights to help you not just survive, but thrive in the aftermath of a relationship's end. Get ready to embark on an inspiring voyage of self-discovery and empowerment as we navigate the path toward healing and growth after a breakup.

To start off Season 2, Kristen and Pecolia delve into the crucial topic of setting boundaries when faced with red flags in our personal and professional relationships. Whether it's a toxic friend, an overbearing family member, or a manipulative coworker, recognizing and establishing boundaries is essential for maintaining our well-being and fostering healthy connections.

In this week's episode, Kristen and Pecolia embark on a fascinating journey to understand the primal survival responses that reside within us all: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn . Join us as we delve into the depths of these instinctive behaviors and explore their profound impact on our everyday lives. Discover how the fight response taps into your inner strength and courage, empowering you to fa...

Betrayal Trauma can leave deep, unseen wounds that can be difficult to identify and heal. In this episode, we explore the impact of betrayal trauma, how it can manifest in our lives, and the importance of recognizing it to reduce its power. We discuss the different forms of betrayal trauma and how we've seen it play out in our own lives. Through this conversation, we hope to shed light on the unse...

In this episode, we'll explore the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when we become parents and are confronted with our own parental trauma. Whether we experienced neglect, abuse, or other forms of trauma at the hands of our own caregivers, these experiences can profoundly impact our approach to parenting. Through personal stories, we'll delve into the ways that our past can shape our...

Join us this week for a special guest as we talk about navigating a co-parenting relationship with a difficult ex. We share strategies for protecting your peace and focusing on what's truly important. 

Divorce is a highly personal decision that rarely comes lightly. Join Kristen and Pecolia as they talk about how to navigate life before, during and after a divorce.

This week, Kristen and Pecolia explore the complex subject of cheating. Why do people do it? What are some signs your significant other is cheating? Join us as we discuss. 

Are they genuinely trying to get to know you? Or are they simply trying to be a better player at the game? Join Kristen and Pecolia this week as they discuss how increasing your Relationship Intelligence can help protect your heart and your brain against high conflict individuals. 

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that involves an abuser making the victim doubt their own perceptions and reality. This can be done by denying the victim's experiences, emotions, and memories, and instead imposing the abuser's own version of events as the "truth." The goal of gaslighting is often to make the victim feel confused, helpless, and dependent on the perpetrator. Let'...

Do you know the difference between red flags and green flags? Can you put a name to green flags? In this week's episode, Kristen and Pecolia talk about what they consider green flags in the people around them.

Have you ever met someone who is always the victim in their stories? Do they make it seem as though every past relationship that has ended... was the other person's fault? In this episode, Kristen and Pecolia explore what it could mean when all his exes are "crazy". 

Kristen and Pecolia are back this week to discuss the elusive topic of Love Bombing. While Love Bombing may feel good at the start of the relationship, we will dive into the motivators for a Love Bomber and why you should sniff out their intentions. 

During the very first episode of Beyond the Red Flags, hosts Kristen and Pecolia discuss the juicy topic of lying. Why do people lie and why aren't we very good at detecting lies? Let's discuss.