Beyond The Red House

What do sourdough bread and trauma healing have in common? More than you’d think. In this episode, Kayla shares the unexpected hobby that’s been quietly regulating her nervous system and what it taught her about a piece of healing she didn’t know she was still missing. If you’ve done the therapy, written the journal entries, set the boundaries, and still feel anxious, shaky, or unable to sleep, th...

The #1 thing I hear from trauma survivors is: "I want to write my story, but I'm scared." Scared of what the family will say. Scared of being judged. Scared of putting it out there. In this episode, I'm reassuring you that you don't have to publish your story for it to heal you. You can write it just for you. And that's enough. In this episode: Why the act of writing (not publishing) is what heals...

There's actual research that shows writing about trauma can make you physically healthier. Not just emotionally better physically healthier. Stronger immune system. Fewer doctor visits. More happiness. In this episode, I'm sharing the groundbreaking research from psychologist James Pennebaker that validates everything I've experienced and everything I teach. And then I'm telling you about my perso...

I just rebranded my entire program, and it scared me. For weeks, I called it "The Trauma-Informed Publishing Blueprint" because I thought I had to sound professional and clinical. But that name wasn't me. It was who I thought I had to be. In this episode, I'm sharing why I changed the name to "Finish My Memoir: 90-Day Program for Trauma Survivors" and what I learned about trying to be someone you'...

EPISODE DESCRIPTION: You've been writing about your trauma for months, maybe years. You have journals full of pages. You've done morning pages, free writing, and therapeutic writing exercises. And you're still stuck. In this episode, I break down why therapeutic writing and memoir writing are NOT the same thing and why understanding that difference is the key to finally finishing your book. If you...

For once, I want to be raw and honest. Not polished. Not trying to be someone I'm not. This episode is for anyone who's ever felt alone in their healing journey. For anyone who knows they have a story inside them but is too afraid to tell it. For anyone who's been told their trauma is "too much." If that's you, this one's for you. In This Episode, We Cover: Why "just getting over it" isn't healing...

Have you looked at your manuscript and felt a physical wave of defeat? It jumps all over the place. The timeline doesn’t flow. The themes are scattered. Even though you know there’s a powerful message inside you, what you’ve written so far isn’t capturing it. In this episode, I explain why this happens, what it costs you, and how to fix it. In this episode: ∙What the “Structural Collapse” is and w...

Have you deleted your manuscript five times? Started your memoir with so much hope, only to stop not because you ran out of things to say, but because you ran out of emotional capacity to keep going? In this episode, I share why this keeps happening and, more importantly, how to stop the cycle. In this episode: ∙Why I spent 10 years stuck in a delete-and-restart loop with my memoir ∙The real reaso...

In this episode, I talk to everyone who’s ever thought their story doesn’t matter whether you’re thinking about writing a book someday, journaling privately, or just trying to find the courage to tell your truth to one safe person. If you’ve ever thought “Who am I to tell this story?” or “My trauma wasn’t bad enough to write about,” this episode is for you. In this episode: ∙Why the fear that your...

Do you replay conversations for hours? Analyze every decision until you’re paralyzed? Feel exhausted by your own thoughts? In this episode of Beyond the Red House, we dive into the mental exhaustion of overthinking. Why trauma survivors do it, how it’s connected to survival mechanisms, and practical strategies for when your brain won’t give you a break. What You’ll Learn in This Episode - Why over...

Have you done so much healing work but still find yourself struggling? You’re not broken you’re in the messy middle. In this episode of Beyond the Red House, we explore the uncomfortable, often unspoken phase of healing that exists between rock bottom and transformation. In this episode: - What the messy middle of healing actually looks like - Why healing isn’t linear and what that means for your...

In this New Year's Day episode, Kayla reflects on the significance of new beginnings and the power of setting intentions for the year ahead. She shares personal stories and practical tips for creating meaningful resolutions that align with one's values and aspirations. Kayla emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and flexibility in goal-setting, encouraging listeners to embrace change and gr...

In this heartfelt Christmas episode, Kayla addresses the complex emotions that can arise during the holiday season, especially for those with challenging family dynamics or past traumas. She offers support and understanding, encouraging listeners to honor their feelings and prioritize their well-being. Kayla shares affirmations and practical advice for navigating the holidays with self-compassion...

In this episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla dives into the issue of imposter syndrome, particularly among trauma survivors. She shares her personal experiences of self-doubt, the impact of her upbringing, and the struggle to own her accomplishments. Kayla emphasizes the importance of recognizing and challenging the internalized voices of doubt and offers insights into managing imposter syndrome...

In this episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla opens up about experiencing a bad mental health day. She discusses the pressure to appear perfect and the importance of acknowledging and accepting bad days as part of the healing journey. Kayla emphasizes that having a bad day doesn't erase progress and shares personal insights on self-compassion and vulnerability. My book "I Was Once the Girl in the...

In this episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla discusses the challenges of asking for help and the importance of rest. She explores the roots of hyper-independence as a trauma response and emphasizes the need to reframe rest as a basic necessity rather than something to be earned. Kayla shares personal experiences and offers practical advice on how to embrace vulnerability and prioritize self-care...

In this heartfelt episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla offers support and affirmations for those who find Thanksgiving challenging. She acknowledges the complex emotions that the holiday can bring and emphasizes the importance of self-care and setting boundaries. Kayla provides affirmations to help listeners navigate difficult family dynamics and encourages them to find moments of gratitude amid...

In this episode, we explore the emotional challenges of experiencing the holidays while going no contact with family. Kayla shares insights on handling unexpected emotions, the nostalgia trap, and the pressure to reconcile during the festive season. The episode offers practical advice on maintaining boundaries and finding peace amidst holiday grief. My book "I Was Once the Girl in the Red House" i...

In this episode, we explore the profound impact of music on our emotions and well-being. We uncover how music can soothe the soul, heal emotional wounds, and bring people together. How music can help move your healing journey forward. My book "I Was Once the Girl in the Red House" is available now on Amazon. [Link here] . Instagram: @beyondtheredhouse If you would like to share your own story or c...

In this episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla delves into the psychology of people pleasing, exploring its roots, impacts, and ways to overcome it. She shares personal insights and practical tips for breaking free from the cycle of seeking approval and prioritizing others over oneself. The episode also references a  Psych Central article  that provides further understanding of the topic. My book...

Kayla discusses the concept of building emotional walls for self-protection and the journey of learning to let people in. She shares personal experiences of isolation, the struggle to trust, and the importance of setting boundaries instead of walls. Kayla emphasizes the value of connection and vulnerability in healing, encouraging listeners to open up to those who have earned their trust. My book...

In this deeply personal episode, Kayla shares her journey of healing and self-discovery after going no contact with her mother. She discusses the challenges of breaking generational cycles, the importance of self-love, and the power of storytelling in her healing process. Healing Through Storytelling My book "I Was Once the Girl in the Red House" is available now on Amazon. [Link here] . Instagram...

In this episode of Beyond the Red House, Kayla dives into the critical role of self-esteem in healing from family trauma. Discover how toxic family dynamics can damage self-worth and learn practical steps to rebuild your relationship with yourself. If you've ever felt unworthy or struggled with self-love, this episode offers insights and tools to help you embrace your inherent value and begin your...

In this insightful episode of "Beyond The Red House," Kayla shares her personal roadmap for navigating the challenging decision of going no contact with a toxic family member. Kayla offers practical advice and emotional support for those considering or adjusting to this life-altering choice. From creating an emergency support plan to understanding the psychological impacts, she provides a candid l...

What happens when words aren’t enough to express our deepest pain? In this episode, Kayla explores how creative expression, ranging from music and art to movement and cooking, can become powerful tools for trauma healing. You don’t need to be “artistic” to benefit from creative healing. This episode covers practical ways to use creativity for emotional processing, whether you’re drawn to dance, dr...