Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

When alienation entered my life, it seemed like I had one hard day after another. Days accrued, my mindset was that of having a hard life. The side effects of this were evident in the quality of the results I created for myself. In this episode, I offer you a more productive stance to take about your situation. I specialize in post traumatic growth; I believe that its entirely possible for you, as...

Do you find yourself saying things like:  "Why me?"  "I'll never find happiness again. It's just not in my cards" "I was just destined to have a shitty life.  Alienation proved this true." I GET IT.  I was there too.  It was a foundational belief that affected my results on every level or many years.  I felt like I had my own ecosystem of black clouds & buzzards f...

We all do it.  We've been conditioned to live much of our lives wishing our circumstances were different than they are.  As little kids we wish we had someone else's toys, their lunches... as teens, we wished we had different teachers, hair, and even different parents. And...on into adulthood, much of the same.    As a parent experiencing the effects of alienation, of COURSE yo...

We all know the feeling.  You know, the impending doom feeling you get when you hear your email ding..?  How you duck into the booth at the restaurant to avoid the confrontation? Dodging them at community or school events, for fear of being chastised?  Yep, the worst.  In this episode, I share with you a few ways to help you break from from the overwhelm, and begin to start seeing their efforts fo...

As an alienated parent, you will likely always hold on to grief; however, your feelings of anger, helplessness, regret, & shame, can and should be ones that you have authority over.  But.. its very possible that your lower brain is keeping you stuck, because it thinks you're safest in familiarity (even tho that familiar place happens to be smack dab in the middle of Suffering). In this episode, I...

If you're experiencing any degree of alienation, you know firsthand the effects it can have on your perceived role at home, the office, and in the community around you.  I share with you: my thoughts on worthiness the struggle that many of us go thru when it comes to finding our purpose  why we endlessly search, and  how to finally find satisfaction and peace, knowing we are doing exactly what we...

As an alienated parent, you’ve been thru HELL.  When we experience repeated & ongoing abuse, our lower brain adopts the message that the world is a scary & bad place. But, the lower brain doesn’t understand that, by doing this, it’s only perpetuating your suffering.   How to recognize when negativity is your unconscious undertone, and how to teach your mind to default to a m...

This is, by far, one of my favorite ways to feel empowered and in charge of my life. I think one of the most underrated little mind hacks is the power you will find in using "I CHOOSE to..." language rather than "I HAVE to" or "NEED to".  Today I share with you my thoughts on this, and challenge you to start noticing your "have to" language.  Because as parents experiencing alienation, we have eno...

Life is difficult enough when you’re experiencing alienation, but our minds often make it even harder by adding in the negative self-talk/criticism. In this episode: how to recognize the difference between the critic and inner wisdom the critic's intentions how to visualize the critic, lightening your mood how to respond to the critic so that you get things accomplished https://beyondthehighroad.c...

Also!  I forgot to mention the monthly drawing is still in effect.. Winner receives a free month of the new membership program that begins in Feb. Y'all.. so far, the odds are in your favor, bc I only have 3 names in the hat (but I can’t say the same for the Early Bird special on the grp coaching membership, so you may wanna catch it before it closes next week). 😉www.beyondthehighroad.com for mor...

This episode takes a look at: where (any) relationship exists how your thoughts always dictate how you feel and act how to think in a way that is in alignment with your ultimate desires and chosen purposes New program Feb 1st!  Check for the new website on (or after) Friday Jan 13... OHHH... I'm just now putting that together -- Freaky Friday!😆 Pls feel free to click voice message button wherever...

In this 3 part series, I help parents experiencing the effects of alienation to envision (any kind of) addiction in a rather non-traditional way.  The method I use to address indulgent habits like drinking, eating, and other unhelpful numbing agents, is hands down, the most effective set of tools I've learned throughout my years of research.   Don't forget to click "follow" wherever you are listen...

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Y'all have been on my heart and mind a LOT over the last 24, and I just wanted to let you know that you are LOVED.  You are your child's PERFECT parent.  Nothing - not NOTHING - can ever overpower that.  Merry MERRY Christmas and Happy New Year to all my parents who have been experiencing the effects of being alienated from their babes. PLEASE message me if you need to chat over the weekend.  If I...

This episode is filled with a handful of tips and tricks to help when inconvenient emotions arise. Also, I provide further explanation (an addendum, if you will) to my method and philosophy pertaining to processing feelings. Holiday support group will continue thru the end of December, and will revisit options in January. Follow me on instagram: @beyondthehighroadcoaching www.beyondthehighroad.com

(how's that for some alliteration?😉) Today's episode is the first of two, discussing the habits and addictions we find ourselves utilizing in order to cope with life.  As alienated parents, I think that the behaviors associated with addiction have their own unique set of motivating factors, as well as it's own set of potential consequences.  I also begin the conversation with you about my non-tra...

When you first had your child, your outlook on life probably changed drastically — your priorities shifted; your work schedule, social life, and habits likely did also. So, when a change suddenly occurs in your parenting time, it makes complete sense that it would affect how you view yourself in relation to the rest of the world. You might question your purpose in life now that you aren’t seeing y...

I’m assuming, that if the family court system was involved in any part of your custody situation, that you're familiar Children's Bill of Rights.   And, if you are anything like me , you also have mixed feelings about even hearing those words (“children's bill of rights”) because, it likely didn't prove to be measurable/enforceable. So The term itself can serve as a source of frustration. As an al...

Today we’re discussing the helpful (and not-so helpful) perspectives we, as alienated parents, can take when memories of our children come up. I’ll share with you the pitfalls of either letting them control you or fearing/avoiding them altogether. Then I’ll provide you with the method I use, which allows me to preserve the memories — honoring them. Follow me for more quick video tips at https://In...

As an alienated parent, the holidays can be ROUGH, y'all.  There was a 4 year period when I spent them all by myself.  SOLO (well, besides my animals).  I get it. Instead of living, I spent most of November - December under the covers of my bed.    During my 6 year "regroup", I developed programs for trying times like these.  The tips I share in this episode were pulled from my holiday survival gu...

If you're tired of feeling like being an alienated parent is what defines you... if you feel like you can't let go of the anger... If you're just frustrated because no matter how hard you try to change your situation, you keep ending up with the same results... then grab a cup of coffee and tune in.   This one is about how to allow your feelings, so that you don't find them coming out sideways lat...

Are you feeling stuck in the gummy muck of negativity?  If the world feels dark and toxic to you -- if you feel exhausted by your thoughts and like you've run out of hope and/or purpose, I've got a couple tricks up my sleeve for you.  In this episode we discuss:  why you haven't been able to get out of the "stuck" state  human suffering and how to view it  your unique toolkit  why healing is neces...

As an alienated parent, you're no stranger to the whispers, side eyes, and glaring judgements.  You might have shied away from doing social events, dating life, and even let go of some friendships, or even isolated yourself entirely.  In this episode, I share with you:  from a scientific standpoint, WHY the judgement can be so difficult  HOW the human brain is wired to desire acceptance,     and f...

Going into the holiday season, emotions have a tendency to run high. If you’re an alienated parent, tho.. well.. raw emotions might’ve become 2nd nature for you . In this episode, learn how to: - take your power back - manage your mind around your feelings, - intentionally think and feel so that you can create the results you want …so that you never feel like a victim to your emotions again!! www....

Ohhh, this one, y'all.... it's a roughy.  When your child refers to you by first name -- or worse yet -- they're calling someone else the term of endearment you thought was only reserved for you?  Absolutely maddening.  This strategy is yet another way that the alienating parent can send the message that you are not relevant anymore (this is what they want you to believe, anyway).  Don't take thei...