Beyond the Bedroom

You can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel more like roommates than lovers. Plus, how straight couples can benefit from ditching heteronormative sc...

Now also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a listener question on mindset blocks in her first queer relationship. Want more? A bonus full-length conve...

I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed.  This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most people never get comprehensive sex ed, so I’ve also compiled my top tips for healthy, safer intimacy fo...

NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start?  In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to begin exploring and how to tell your partner(s) what you really, really want.    This episode will help y...

NEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST! Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus, domming from the bottom, why so many people insist they’re not REALLY into it (but they are). Plus, of course...

A Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games  Check out all show notes, discount codes, and transcripts at beyondthebedroom.org   Try Wisp for Birth Control, OMG Cream, Period Relief, and more

Some politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and anti-choice policies. I also unpack Trump’s 2025 executive orders targeting reproductive rights, gender-affirm...

To cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape.  For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org  Use code BBIRNA for a discount on all my favorite things at unboundbabes.com  

Birna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into.  Check out all affiliate links and show notes on beyondthebedroom.org

Birna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life.  Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes, and how to submit anonymous questions or voicemails for the podcast. To get a discount on my favorite se...

This special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year! Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question and your new year's resolution: https://link...

What should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message?  In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, &  helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her less-than-stimulating oral skills. Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org...

What counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real?? This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll answer your questions all about V2V, lesbian, sapphic sex.  Longer show notes and transcriptions can b...

Masks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my!  This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!)   To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements.    To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick or any other purchase! Check out other links and...

Challengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed.  Recorded at Studio Friends in Tribeca, NYC  To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at...

So, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure.  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand for bonus content  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite toys Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and gr...

I discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations.  Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks"  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favo...

Another cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout.  Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on some of the best sex toys on...

You asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week: What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just enjoy the thrill of cheating? Why does prostate pleasure still weird us out? & more on condoms, lesb...

What's it like running a sex shop? I sat down with my former boss, Saga Lluvia, owner of the sex toy store Losti in Iceland, to chat about peddling pleasure. We answered listener questions about the types of customers we encountered, the toys we recommend, and so much more.  Sub to my newsletter birna.substack.com for more sex ed content  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on sex t...

Love is Blind may be reality TV, but the conversations about birth control, sexual values, and red flags are sparking real-life debates. We recap the show up until the last two episodes and ask ourselves: Is love really blind, and is love always enough?  Saga Lluvia, the owner of sex shop Losti, joins in as an avid watcher and gives her perspective as someone in the sex ed space.  Use code BBIRNA...

This week is a mix of serious and fun topics (isn't it always?) as I work through how reproductive rights restrictions are limiting our desire. Plus, I swap stories with listeners while answering the question, "Have you ever had crazy sexual chemistry with someone, and it surprised you?"  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and support the podcast Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a...

The spiciest episode of the relaunch (so far)!! Enjoy this special edition of Beyond the Bedroom, answering all the spicy, steamy, fun questions I get from listeners. Bonus: lightning round of my favorite confessions of the week. Happy Valentine's Day!  Plus, how-to's on keeping sex tapes safe, buying a powerful toy, and initiating that threesome with an eager friend.  Use code BBIRNA at Unboundba...

This episode is all about ejaculation; I discuss both how it happens and how people feel about it. Does pineapple really improve the taste? Why do people shoot it at different speeds? Are breeding kinks real? What's the deal with blue balls? All of these listener questions are answered & more.  Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any ques...