Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

If you’ve ever described yourself as an empath, this is for you. I’m diving into a conversation I’ve wanted to have for a long time. One that’s honest, direct, and grounded in love. Because what if the thing we often call empathy… isn’t actually empathy at all? In this episode, we talk about: Why what you’re feeling might actually be a trauma response, not true empathy How growing up as the peacek...

What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself? In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility. Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone naviga...

If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle where the same frustrating patterns keep repeating, whether in relationships, finances, or how you talk to yourself, there's one place we need to look - inwards. We explore the difference between being a victim and living in victimhood and how shifting out of the latter changes everything. Inside this episode: The honest truth about why recurring prob...

This episode goes far beyond surface-level talk about masculine and feminine energy. It’s a deep, practical, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to embody both energies without losing your edge, your drive, or your softness. Whether you're constantly in go-mode, navigating emotional blocks in your relationship, or trying to understand your partner more deeply… this...

We’ve all tried to punish ourselves into better behavior. Telling ourselves, "You only get to have or enjoy this thing if you DON'T do that ." But does it ever actually work? In this episode, we explore the deeper cost of self-punishment and how it silently erodes our confidence, worsens chronic skin picking, and holds us back from true growth. If you've struggled with perfecti...

Ever find yourself pushing through exhaustion just to earn a moment of peace, only to crash and repeat the cycle? In this episode, I share a raw, real-life moment where everything went wrong, and exactly how I turned it into a reset instead of a breakdown. If you’re craving a life that feels calmer but still purposeful, this one’s for you. Here's what you'll gain:  • A simple nervous sys...

If you're always on the go, chasing the next achievement, and only letting yourself relax once everything is done, this episode is for you. In this heart-to-heart, I share what slowing down really means (and what it doesn't), why high-achievers resist it, and how you can begin doing it without guilt, shame, or losing your edge. Because slowing down isn’t about doing less, it’s about doin...

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept of relationship blueprints, the subconscious patterns that shape how we connect, love, argue, and attach. Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap, what drives hyper-independence, how to identify your own blueprint, and the exact tools you need to rewire old emotional habits. Whether you're anxiously attached...

In this episode, Rafaela dives deep into why chronic skin picking often flares up when we’re struggling to focus — and what you can do about it. She shares science-backed, practical tools to help you ground yourself, improve concentration, and break free from the shame spiral that comes with distraction and avoidance. Whether you live with ADHD, get stuck in overwhelm, or just feel scattered durin...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or struggling to speak up, Angela’s story will deeply resonate and remind you of what’s possible when you choose to show up with self-love. In this powerful session, I’m joined by Angela, a courageous client who opens up about her year-long journey of transformation. What began as a desire to stop skin picking turned into something much deep...

Welcome to Untapped Confidence, formerly the Untapped Potential Podcast . In this episode, I share why the podcast has a new name and how it reflects the deeper purpose of this space. We also explore an important question from my free support group - "Why does eating sugar increase the urge to pick your skin?+ Here’s what you’ll learn:  • How sugar impacts dopamine, stress, and emotional regu...

If you've ever felt stuck, misaligned, or quietly overwhelmed by a life that looks good on paper but feels off inside, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we explore what it really takes to come home to yourself. Through the lens of Adam Hudson’s raw, personal story, we unpack the deeper patterns behind burnout, disconnection, and fear of being seen so you can start rewriting your...

What if your intrusive thoughts weren’t something wrong with you—but actually a protective mechanism rooted in past experiences? In this heartfelt episode, Raffaela Marie dives deep into the nature of intrusive thoughts , exploring how they connect to chronic skin picking and other Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs) . Drawing from her personal healing journey and research, Raffaela sheds li...

Do you feel like chronic skin picking is more of a compulsion or like OCD rather than a behavioural addiction? In this episode, Raffaela Marie dives into the nuanced relationship between chronic skin picking and compulsive behaviours , and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) . Drawing from personal experiences and psychological insights, she explores how skin picking can function as a compulsive b...

What if your heightened skin picking urges early in the year aren’t just random but rooted in deeper emotional patterns and unrealistic expectations? In this episode, we explore why skin picking often intensifies during the first few months of the year. Through heartfelt personal reflections and powerful listener stories, we unpack the pressure of New Year’s resolutions, post-holiday fatigue, and...

NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine) is often recommended to people struggling with dermatillomania, but does it actually work? In this episode, we break down what NAC really is, how it functions in the body, and why it might help reduce chronic skin picking. We’ll explore: What NAC is and how it’s connected to antioxidants and glutathione How oxidative stress affects your body (and mind) The possible link bet...

Ever feel like freedom from skin picking just isn’t possible? You’re not alone - and you're not stuck. In this episode, host Raffaela Marie opens up about the emotional highs and lows of healing from chronic skin picking. With honesty and empathy, she explores what it means to face rough patches, manage expectations, and find moments of comfort even in the hardest times. You'll walk away...

What if the biggest thing getting in the way of healing from chronic skin picking… is your thinking style ? In this episode, we dive into the four thinking archetypes from the Meta Dynamics® profiling tool: Visionary, Architect, Dynamo, and Collaborator - and explore how each one influences your healing journey. You’ll learn: How to figure out your dominant archetype so you can understand your uni...

Is depression really just a chemical imbalance? And what about chronic skin picking? In this episode, Rafaela Marie shares her personal journey of overcoming 15 years of chronic skin picking and 10 years of depression —and why the common narrative around chemical imbalance doesn’t tell the full story. You’ll learn about the connection between chronic stress, emotional regulation, and compulsive be...

What if healing wasn’t about fighting against yourself - but working with yourself instead? In this episode, we explore the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in the cycle of skin picking and how to finally break free. You’ll discover the 3 foundational skills we need to heal , skills that shift the way you approach setbacks, self-trust, and long-term change. Most people focus on stopping the beh...

Could a daily habit be quietly rewiring your brain and making it harder to stop picking? In this episode, we uncover a sneaky, often-overlooked trigger that disrupts focus, impulse control, and emotional regulation—without you even realizing it. Here’s what you’ll take away: The hidden trigger behind this cycle The two key factors that make it so harmful Three powerful tools to counter its effects...

This episode marks the first time this unique, transformative practice is being shared publicly - previously reserved for Raffaela’s private 1:1 sessions. If you’re seeking a challenging, innovative approach to chronic skin picking that builds emotional resilience and keeps you in control when the urge strikes, this episode is for you! What you'll discover: Foundations and Logic Behind the Pr...

Have you ever wondered why you feel stuck in the cycle of skin picking, despite your best efforts to stop? In this episode, we break down the six levels of healing and help you identify where you are on your journey so you can finally understand what’s keeping you stuck and the next step you need to take to move forward! By understanding each level, you’ll gain clarity, practical tools, and a deep...

What if speaking up isn’t as daunting as it seems? In this episode we explore why expressing yourself can feel so difficult and how to gently build the courage to speak your truth. You’ll uncover the roots of these fears, learn simple practices to boost your confidence and discover actionable steps to become more assertive. You'll be guided through navigating intimidating authority figures, h...

✨Learn more and sign up for the FREE Healing Loop Mastermind here ! ✨If you need help with setting boundaries, send in an explanation of your situation and Raffaela will help you out in an upcoming episode! Send your email here . In this episode, host Raffaela Marie explores the deep connection between dysfunctional family dynamics and chronic skin picking, uncovering how the roles we adopt in e...