Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Infidelity

Have you ever told someone something you knew they were not going to want to hear? Do you have something you need to tell someone and are terrified about how they will react? Are you afraid to say it because it could cause them significant pain and/or jeopardize your relationship with them? These are very natural emotions that come with telling difficult news. This was our predicament when we made...

Your marriage has suffered a massive blow of betrayal. Adultery through pornography and/or extra-marital relationships has been discovered. You both want to save the marriage, if possible, by working on reconciliation and recovery. But now you’re wondering if you need to tell anyone or if you should just keep it private and work on it together.     We went through this same scenario and today we a...

Triggers, what are they and how do they affect us? Triggers come without warning and without our permission. Today we’re going to dissect the ways we are triggered and how we should handle them, so they are not destructive, but rather an opportunity for healing, connection and growth. And good heavens, do they ever stop?   Grab your favorite beverage and buckle up as we talk about triggers.   We p...

What actually happens to a person who has experienced betrayal? What happens in the mind of one who has their reality shattered in an instant?   Today we’re going to be discussing the effects of this type of mental and emotional injury when someone is betrayed. We’ll be sharing with you how this affected us after Johnny’s confession of adultery through pornography use and extra-marital relationshi...

Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply?   On our show today, we’re going to unpack 4 keys to unlocking forgiveness. This method is simple, but it’s definitely not easy. So how do we get through this difficult process? We will share with you how this approach played out in our marriage after porn-fueled infidelity and where we turned for help.   Grab your favorite beverage a...

Do you appreciate getting an apology? Do you have a hard time extending one? Do you even know what a good apology looks like?   Join us today as we cover the 8 steps to a healing apology, which is so helpful in a marriage, especially when there has been some form of betrayal.   We have experienced the power of this healing apology in our own marriage after the discovery and disclosure of pornograp...

Do you get angry while driving in traffic? Have you ever had or seen road rage? Are you the person that yells at everyone making stupid and even dangerous driving mistakes from inside your car with the windows up?     I can’t say I’ve never had a burst of anger when driving, but in recent years I have made it a practice to try and give other drivers the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have an eme...

When you think of the word honesty, do you view it in black and white or on a sliding scale?   Those who see it in black and white might argue that a person either tells the truth or they don’t. Those who prefer a sliding scale approach may categorize white lies at a 1-2, lies of omission at a 4-5, but a deceptive or premeditated lie at 9-10. Honesty, in this person’s mind, is relative.     In our...

Did you know that there is more than one way to lie?       A lack of honesty can leave others in your life on uncertain ground. How do we overcome this deceptive practice and what is the key to complete honesty?     Spend the next half hour with us as we talk about 5 different ways we lie to each other, how lying affects our relationships and what we can do to change it forever.     We will also b...

Have you ever stopped to think about the significance of boundaries? What kind of feelings or emotions do you think of when you hear that term? Does it bring to mind negative connotations or a sense of being confined and restricted? Perhaps it even feels punitive or unfair. It's understandable to have these reactions, but let's take a moment to consider a different perspective. What if boundaries...

The decision to stay married after sexual betrayal is a very difficult one to navigate. We understand this because the effects of infidelity shook each of us to our core. If you've been listening to our show you know we are still married, but we didn’t go through this on our own. We had an incredible amount of support and guidance along the way.   In this episode we're going to open up about the p...

Hi Friend,    In today's episode we will be telling a quick version of our love story from how we met and got married up to the day of Johnny's confession of adultery that we call Discovery Day.   If you haven't heard our story as told by each of us from our own perspectives, you can listen to Emily's story in Episode 2 and Johnny's story in Episode 3.   We are telling our story together today to...

Hi Friend,   On today's episode, Johnny tells his story of how a young boy with hopes and dreams for a wonderful future ends up confessing to his wife of 31 years that he is a sex addict and an adulterer. His painful story is tragic, but also beautiful because he knows the One who makes a way when there is no way. Jesus can make something beautiful out of the ashes of our lives if we let him.    W...

Hi Friend,   Today Emily is baring her soul to tell the story of her husband's marital infidelity fueled by pornography use. And although it was Not Her Fault in any way, she is not perfect and you will hear some of the ways she fell short in her life too. But, God is bigger than any failure, heartbreak or trauma. He is the redeemer of the lost and the comforter of the broken-hearted.    We pray t...

Hello Friends!   This is our very first show on the Beyond Broken Vows podcast. Today we are telling you a little bit about us, what you will hear in this podcast, what you won't hear in this podcast, and our goal for sharing our personal story with you. Topics like betrayal, infidelity, and pornography addiction are difficult for many people to talk about, especially for those being affected in s...

Have you been devastated by marital infidelity fueled by pornography? We've been there too and have traveled a difficult yet victorious road to reconciliation and recovery. We believe that any couple who is willing to completely surrender to God can not only get through it but also experience a marriage made new and better than ever before!   Listen on YouTube https://youtu.be/qH9y_fIZ6zw