Beyond Affairs

There is no set rule about whether you should tell your children or not. Each couple, each situation and each family is different. I recommend that as a mother and father, both parents get as much information as they can, then come together and discuss your unique situation and the best course of action for your family. Ideally,  you both should decide and agree together on whether or not to talk...

Sometimes you can find healing through betrayal when you listen to the perspective of the unfaithful.  As a betrayed spouse, when we ask our unfaithful husband questions, we can't HEAR the answer.  What I mean by HEAR the answer...is that we know what they are saying, but it doesn't reach our heart.  Listen to Brian share a piece of his journey, as he explains the mind of the unfaithful....

These are not necessarily "secrets"... Anne and Brian want to be open about what they feel having a healed marriage looks like.  Healing after betrayal is not linear...and it's intense; however, you need the effort from BOTH spouses.  If one spouse is not willing to change, then a healed marriage won't work.     Listen to Brian and Anne discuss 8 things they feel are important...

Anne discusses the depth of her personal experience...and what forgiveness meant to her.  She gets it.   She has the perspective as a betrayed spouse and currently is able to live life freely without a tinge of resentment or bitterness to Brian.  We can all learn from others who have been there.  We added an extra episode on forgiveness, as we feel that this topic comes with challenges. Yes, you c...

How do you find forgiveness?   This is a common question that seems to be the very thing every betrayed spouse wants to know.  We find that some professionals and even pastors or leaders can give advice around this topic that is NOT the most beneficial perspective.  Forgiveness might not be what you think it is; we find that forgiveness is a process...not necessarily step one.  Listen to part II w...

How do you find forgiveness?   This is a common question that seems to be the very thing every betrayed spouse wants to know.  We find that many professionals and even pastors or leaders can give advice around this topic that is NOT the most beneficial perspective.  Forgiveness might not be what you think it is; we find that forgiveness is a process...not necessarily step one.  Listen to Anne (and...

Knowing how to navigate conversations with your partner in a productive fashion can be really difficult, especially in the midst of betrayal recovery.  Listen to Anne as she points out some of the most important concepts to think about before you engage in that hard discussion.  Be in a mindset that has a clear goal in mind - and remember, anger is RARELY productive, so don't let this emotion...

The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions. Brian had an affair.  It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for. “How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?” Brian discusses his choices and the...

The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions. Brian had an affair.  It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for. “How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?” Brian discusses his choices and the...

We have boundaries around our property. If you have a fence between your yard and your neighbor’s yard, it is very clear, which part belongs to you, and which part belongs to him. We respect these boundaries. I can’t just suddenly decide I’d rather sit in my neighbor’s yard on a hot summer day, without getting his permission.  And if I do sit in his yard, without his consent, I have violated a bou...

We have boundaries around our property. If you have a fence between your yard and your neighbor’s yard, it is very clear, which part belongs to you, and which part belongs to him. We respect these boundaries. I can’t just suddenly decide I’d rather sit in my neighbor’s yard on a hot summer day, without getting his permission.  And if I do sit in his yard, without his consent, I have violated a bou...

Listen to episode two of Anne and Brian's story of their affair journey.  Anne shares the brutal details via healing from betrayal; and provides the honest truth to what it took for her to realize her own strength.  Affair recovery is unique to every story and the steps an individual takes depends on numerous factors.  Anne shares her perspective and provides you with many resources that can...

I had been married for eighteen years when my unwanted infidelity experience began.  I was shocked. There had been no warning signs.  Words cannot begin to describe the intense pain I felt when I heard my husband say the words, “Anne, I've been seeing someone else.” There was physical pain, not just emotional pain.   Chaos ensued.  Wrong reactions made a bad situation worse...and from that br...