Between Me And The Ink

Have you ever felt gaslit because you feel like an orphan even though you have a family and you can't explain why? It presents as a very deep feeling of aloneness and a persisting lack of love. I found out there's a word for it, and you're not alone!

The loneliness pandemic? Okay, but does that apply to you? Me? I think not!

Routines might seem boring and predictable, but they are ideal for managing the parts of my life that are boring and need to be predictable. The benefits include building an astronomical level of self trust, and being able to get shit done with little to no friction!

Self sabotage can look like different things to different people. But at it's core, it's the same fear of failure driving us all.

Tough times really are upon us. And asking you to thrive would be unrealistic. This is just a call to survive.

Sadness is perhaps one of the most engulfing emotions, and yet one of the easiest to postpone, or completely ignore. In this episode, I remind you that you're valid in all of the things that may have made you sad, and that you should grieve whenever grief comes knocking.

Emotional activation is such a common occurrence that it makes no sense why we were never actively taught how to self regulate. But it's not too late to learn, is it? I certainly think not.

Setting goals is easy, but without a system, achieving them is near impossible.

When a Kenyan producer decides to feature queerness in their show or film, you can almost always bet on mediocrity, at best, in the representation. And to be fair, it's always better than the homophobic 'jokes' we've had to accept for so many years as a deluded form of acknowledgement for the existence of queerness. But, we do deserve better, yes?

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone was a very insightful read that continues to bless my life, years after I first read it. In this episode, I summarized 8 lessons I got from it that stay timeless.

So, I made it to episode 20 and in true me fashion, I had to give myself, and you, a little treat. Here's my top twenty things that just make my life easier. And it's perhaps the easiest episode I've ever recorded, and I love that for us :-D

Everyone experiences self doubt. Some just know how to deal with it better than others. The good thing is that we always have the capacity to learn new skills and acquire new tools that can make us just as good as our favorite people, if not better.

Game Theory is not just for math nerds. In its simplest form, it can be an incredible framework for how you navigate your relationships for optimal outcomes both for you and the other person.

Life as an adult seems complicated, but there are basic ways to make it easier for yourself, if you want.....In this episode I share the top 5 habits that make adulting bearable for me.

Financial literacy is in fact, complicated. But here's a few simple lessons to help you out. I hope you'll read the book though. It is very helpful in filling the gaps where our education system left you to figure things out the hard way.

Small talk doesn't have to be a painful experience, does it?

Buying a printed planner is often a sign that you won't be planning your days. Or maybe that's just me. Don't buy them, unless.......

Like most concepts, social media’s use of the word ego is non-committal at best. And I can say that about any concept, really so this is more about social media than it is about the ego, to be honest. So, let's talk about the ego....but briefly, coz I just had a really long day and you're busy!

Times are hard, but you don't have to be too hard on yourself in response. When optimized, a budget can actually allow you to continue living the soft life in hard times. I promise.

On building the relationships that work for you, we look at relationship dynamics, what they are, what fucks them up, when to change them, and how to change them.

Do you ever wish there was a cheat code for healthy, long lasting relationships? Well.....listen up.

Have you ever felt like the world is getting lonelier by the day? Well, we live in the age of loneliness, and you need to find yourself a third place.....

Do you ever feel like someone is being ridiculous when responding to something? Or have you ever felt like you could have reacted better, after the fact? Well, we all have cognitive distortions that make us less objective in our daily experiences. I try to go through all the ones I know in this episode, with possible ways to deal with them when they come up, for you.

Ghosting is ok if that's your thing, but you always have another option, should you want it. It's called negotiating. Let's talk about it, shall we? ❤️

Actionable takeaways from this very popular book.