Betrayal Trauma Recovery

If you’re married, have you just discovered that your husband watches gay pornography or is hooks up with men? Have you wondered, “Is my husband gay?” This kind of betrayal cuts deep, and it makes sense that you feel angry, confused, and sad. Not because you’re mean or hateful, but because he lied to you and broke your trust. You’re not alone. Betrayal can hurt a lot, but t...

If you’re lying awake at night wondering, “What will this do to my kids?” —you’re not alone. But divorce co-parenting research tells a very different story than what most women have been told. Let’s walk through what the research actually shows—especially for mothers trying to create a calmer, safer home for their children. Divorce Co-Parenting Research You Need to Know 1. Divorce Is Not Universal...

Have clergy or therapists pushed you toward forgiving abuse? Here’s why that’s so damaging. Before you discover the truth about forgiving abuse, confirm it’s abuse by taking our free emotional abuse quiz to find out. Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation (They’re Not The Same Thing) Betrayal Trauma Recovery is inter-paradigm. Religious and non-religious victims can accept that rec...

If your husband filmed you with a hidden camera, you could be a victim of trafficking. Dani Pinter is Senior Legal Counsel for the National Center on Exploitation . The National Center on Exploitation was founded in 1962, and is the leading national nonpartisan organization. They expose the links between all forms of exploitation. Such as CSCAM, prostitution, trafficking, and the public harms of o...

The nature of psychological and emotional abuse leaves many victims unsure, asking how do I know if it’s abuse? To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz . Lorelai, a member of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community, joins Anne on the free BTR podcast to share her powerful story of escaping her husband’s sexual abuse, constant manipulation and gaslig...

It’s important for women to understand that under Federal Law, the distribution of intimate images without consent is illegal. If it’s happened to you, here’s what you need to know. When Laila Mickelwait, founder and CEO of the Justice Defense Fund , began questioning the legality of P____b’s content. She quickly learned that P____b is full of videos that document the abuse...

Here’s how to set boundaries with your emotionally abusive husband. One of the first steps is to discover which of the 19 different emotional abuse tactics he may be using. To do that, take our free emotional abuse quiz . https://youtu.be/9aa5bgEY3bY Becoming Free From Emotional Abuse Victims can use emotional safety strategies with their emotionally abusive husband. To learn these strategie...

If you’re wondering, “What does the bible say about narcissistic abuse?” Here’s a list of scriptures that will help you know what to do next. To know if you’re one of the 19 different types of narcissistic abuse, take our free emotional abuse test . Transcript: What Does The Bible Say About Narcissistic Abuse? Anne: I am honored to have Leslie Vernick on today’s...

Have you ever felt like, “my husband hates me” and you had no idea why? Maybe nothing obvious is happening that you can point to and say, “This proves it.” The truth is: emotionally abusive men don’t have to yell or call you names for you to feel unloved, emotionally unsafe, and completely confused about why your marriage feels so painful. Take this free emotional abuse test to f...

Are you considering divorcing an abusive husband? If you feel overwhelmed at the thought of hiring a lawyer or fighting for custody? To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse test . Wendy, an attorney, joins Anne Blythe, M.Ed. to talk about divorcing an abusive husband. To learn strategy for dealing with and abusive husband before and after divorce, enroll in The Bet...

Children of divorce often wonder, “Can you emancipate yourself from one parent?” Tiffany will share the story of how she emancipated from both parents. Hopefully, her story can help any minor hoping to emancipate themselves from an abusive parent. If you have children in danger from their father after a divorce, or you’re concerned about it, we’d love to support you. Attend...

If you’ve ever searched for a marriage bible reference because someone told you, “A good Christian wife shouldn’t say no,” you’re not alone. Many women, especially when we’re juggling children, church expectations, and a husband who says he has “needs”, go looking for scripture to settle the question: Does the Bible really require me to submit to intimacy that feels one-sided or emotionally...

Melea Stevens, from the National Center of Exploitation, and Anne Blythe, M.Ed. talk about how we can protect children online. With kids spending increasing amounts of time on smartphones, tablets, and computers, ensuring their safety requires tools, education, and awareness. Because the foundation of all abuse is emotional manipulation, teach children the 19 different types of emotional abuse. Ta...

The long term effects of emotional abuse in marriage are different for every woman. Here are 6 long term effects and 3 way to overcome them. 6 Long Term Effects of Emotional Abuse In Marriage Low self-esteem and self-worth due to constant manipulation or criticism. Anxiety and depression caused by prolonged emotional distress. Confusion of not being able to make progress with your goals because yo...

Liz just wanted to keep herself and her family safe. She didn’t know these 3 signs of spiritual abuse that every woman needs to know. To discover if you’re emotionally abused, take this free emotional abuse quiz . Liz sought support from trusted church leaders after she experienced abuse. But rather than receiving the help she deserved, Liz experienced severe spiritual abuse from clergy and...

If you’re looking for the best books about emotional abuse in marriage. It’s important to understand all the ways a husband can be emotionally abusive. Before covering the best books about emotional abuse, if you’re wondering if your husband is emotionally abusive, take this free emotional abuse quiz . Trauma Mama Husband Drama is a picture book for adults, written by Anne Blythe...

Tragically, the sex addiction therapy community is focused on the causes of addiction, without focusing on how it affects an addict’s loved ones. Here’s the truth about the causes of sexual addiction. Betrayal Trauma: The Result of Abuse, Not Addiction A man’s “addiction” can’t and doesn’t cause betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma is the result of emotional,...

If you’re wondering, “What does the bible say about boundaries in marriage?” You’re not alone. What Does The Bible Say About Boundaries In Marriage? Do the words boundaries in marriage even show up in the Bible? No. But the principle is everywhere. Scripture repeatedly warns us to be watchful, wise, discerning, and separate from people who choose deceit, harm, and destructi...

It’s hard to know what to do when your child watches inappropriate things. One dad shares his thoughts about protecting children from pornography. Discovering that your child has been exposed to inappropriate content, such as pornography, can be deeply upsetting. Many parents feel unsure of how to handle the situation—should you confront them? Punish them? Ignore it altogether? At Betrayal T...

If you’re searching for self care books for women after discovering your husband’s betrayal, you’re likely not looking for a cute morning routine. You’re looking for something to hold onto because your whole life feels different. Even basic things—like getting out of bed, making food, or answering texts—can feel hard. That’s why ordinary self-care advice can feel almost ins...

Your husband’s infidelity is heartbreaking. As a Christian, this truth remains constant—you’re called to protect yourself from evil and pursue spiritual safety. If you’re looking for Christian help for infidelity, here’s what you need to know. If you’ve just discovered your husband’s infidelity, start with this free emotional abuse quiz to see if what else might...

If you’ve found yourself typing “Is My Husband a Sex Addict?”, you’re not alone. For nearly two decades, I have helped women navigate betrayal. Through over 200 long-form interviews and more than 8,000 clients served, clear patterns emerge in the marriages of women asking this question. Most women don’t ask it casually. They ask it after discovering: Secretive online behavior Repeated lies E...

What is exploitative? A global industry that uses coercion and abuse to make money. Understanding how exploitative media harms women’s rights will help you understand what exploitative really means. Did you know that wives of men who exploit women are likely to be emotionally abused? To discover if you’re experiencing emotional abuse, take this free emotional abuse test . What is Exploitativ...

Are you hoping to help your daughter avoid teen dating violence, even if it’s “just” emotional and psychological abuse? Anne Blythe, M.Ed. interviews Sid, a teenager, who shares her heart wrenching story with empowering tips for mothers of teens. Teen dating violence never happens without emotional abuse. The best way to avoid teen dating violence is to determine if there’s...

If you grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home, you may be all too familiar with how fundamentalism and patriarchy fuel abuse. To know if you’re experiencing this type of abuse in your church or home, take our free emotional abuse test . Emily is on the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast, sharing her experiences with a fundamentalist cult. Recognizing and then escaping the abusiveness of he...