BeThatHealingGirl Podcast

In this powerful episode, I sit down with my client Karuna - science writer, high achiever, and living proof that secure attachment is possible! We’re talking full transformation: from spiraling over missed texts to feeling calm, confident, and deeply self-trusting in relationships (and beyond). Karuna shares the real, raw moments (crying in the shower, questioning everything, and wondering if the...

Ever feel like you're just too much in your relationship? 😵‍💫 Like your emotions are too messy, too needy, or too intense so you try to keep them bottled up just to keep the peace? Yeah… been there. In this week’s episode we're getting into the real reason you feel like you're too much (and why it’s actually a sign you're ready to heal your anxious attachment for good!) This is for the high-achi...

You had an amazing weekend... the vibes were vibing, the cuddles were elite, and the connection felt so good. Then you got home, sat on the couch, and suddenly you’re spiraling. Sound familiar? This episode is all about why post-vacation (or post-holiday) anxiety hits so hard (especially if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone amazing). I’m breaking down the threebig reasons why you keep f...

If slow feels boring, if calm feels confusing, and if your nervous system is low-key addicted to chaos.... this one’s for you. This week, we’re diving into what a secure relationship actually looks and feels like (even if your anxious attachment says, “Wait, is this it?”). Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or healing from relationship patterns that feel more like rollercoasters th...

It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We’re answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our proposal story (yes, there was a backup plan involving a dog) ✨ How we almost didn’t make it—and what shifted ✨ Craig’s...

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance ✨ How t...

This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together (you’ve got degrees, deadlines, and the job)… but on the inside, you’re checking the relationship vibes like it’s your full-time job. We’re talking: ✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance and how to stop needing it ✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hyper-vigilance ✨ How to build real se...

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently. If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you. We’re talking: ✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck ✨ The myth of li...

Ever wonder what it actually looks like to go from anxious, overthinking, “I’m probably the problem” energy… to grounded, confident, and finally feeling secure in your relationship? In this raw and heart-hitting episode, I’m sitting down with one of my 1:1 coaching client, a high-achieving, military-working, nurse-extraordinaire, who decided to stop spiraling overseas (literally!) and finally heal...

Welcome back to the Be That Healing Girl podcast! If your mind is spiraling, your stomach’s in knots, and you’ve refreshed your texts 18 times in the last 3 minutes… this episode is your emergency toolkit! In this quick but powerful 5-minute pep talk, I’m giving you grounding reminders to come back home to yourself when your anxious attachment gets triggered. This is the episode to save, download,...

Ever find yourself refreshing your texts like your life depends on it? Or spending 10 hours doing two hours of work because your brain won’t stop obsessing over that thing you said? Yep. This one’s for you, bb! In this episode, I’m giving you powerful (and surprisingly calming) reminders for when your anxious attachment kicks in HARD. Whether you're deep in a spiral or just know one is brewing, th...

Ever held it in like a champ… until you exploded over something small (but actually not small at all)? 🙃 You didn’t want to ruin the vibe. It was the weekend. You were on vacation. You told yourself “It’s fine” five times in your head and then snapped over the way they chewed. Yup. This one’s for you, babe. In this weeks episode , we’re talking: How to stop self-silencing (aka white-knuckling you...

Why do we keep explaining... and explaining... and explaining — and still walk away feeling misunderstood (and kind of embarrassed)? 😵‍💫 In this week's episode we’re diving into why overexplaining is so common for high-achieving, anxious-attached girlies — and why it actually makes you feel less secure (not more). We’ll talk about: - How overexplaining is really a nervous system response (not ju...

You’re the go-to girl at work, the one who gets it DONE… but when it comes to your relationship? Cue the overthinking, second-guessing, and constant need for reassurance. 🫠 Sound familiar? This week we’re talking about one of the BIGGEST blocks I see with my high-achieving, high-performing girlies: how to actually build self-trust (especially after a lifetime of self-abandonment). If you’ve ever:...

Are you overthinking every convo, second-guessing yourself constantly, and wondering... “Am I triggered or am I actually right?” 😅 Welcome to the most validating episode you didn’t know you needed. In this week’s episode we’re diving deep into that hot mess moment we all know too well—when you can’t tell if your anxious attachment is flaring up or if your intuition is genuinely trying to protect...

This week, we're getting real about the messy middle — where you logically know you’re in a good relationship but emotionally still feel anxious AF. If you’re constantly asking: “Why isn’t this enough?” “Why do I still feel so unsure?” “Why can’t I just be chill for once?!” Then this episode is your exact starting point. 👏 Inside, we’re talking about: ✨ Why the key to feeling secure in your rela...

Welcome to the episode every anxious attachment girlie needs in her back pocket. If you spiral when they don’t text back, replay convos 14 times in your head, or wake up with an emotional hangover worse than a tequila bender… this one's for you. 💌 We’re talking about what actually works in the heat of the moment — when you’re triggered, panicked, and low-key ready to throw your phone out the wind...

Let’s be real: you’re the hyper-independent girlie who gets ish DONE. You’ve got the degree, the business, the receipts. But when it comes to relationships? Your anxious attachment is quietly (or not so quietly) throwing hands in the background. 😅 In this episode, I’m diving deep into what I call the "Don’t need anyone but kinda wish they’d text me first" energy — aka the sneaky link between anxi...

In this episode, I’m breaking down the biggest mistakes I see when people try to “fix” their anxious attachment triggers—and why those habits might actually be keeping you stuck in the same cycle. 🚨 We’re diving into: 🔥 Why being hard on yourself is making it worse (and what to do instead) 🔥 The sneaky ways perfectionism is showing up in your healing process 🔥 How to stop intellectualizing and...

Imagine going from spiraling over “Do they really like me?” to casually ring shopping like it’s no big deal. 🤯 That’s exactly what’s happening for my clients—and in this episode, I’m giving you the real tea on how they went from anxious to ENGAGED. 💍✨ If you’re a high-achieving, overthinking, lowkey-perfectionist queen who’s crushing it in your career but secretly struggling with relationship a...

Feel like you're the one keeping the relationship alive? 😩 You’re planning the dates, remembering the little things, prioritizing them… and they’re just kinda there. So what gives? Are you asking for too much? Are they low-effort or just wired differently? And most importantly—how do you actually get them to step up without nagging, over-functioning, or feeling like you have to prove your worth?...

STOP DOING ALL THE WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP 😤 (Why You’re Exhausted & How to Fix It) Ever feel like you’re carrying the whole damn relationship on your back? Planning the dates, making space in your schedule, keeping the energy going—while he just... coasts? Yeah, I see you, and this episode is for you. Today, we’re breaking down why high-achieving, type-A women (hi, that’s you👋) often fall...

This week I’m joined by Dr. Jeanine Staples-Dixon, a literal genius, tenured professor at Penn State, and someone who knows why you keep self-sabotaging in love. We’re breaking down: 🔥 Why your relationship anxiety isn’t just a “you” thing—it’s a SYSTEM thing 🔥 How patriarchy, white supremacy & capitalism keep you chasing love & approval 🔥 The sneaky ways you abandon yourself trying to...

🚨 Reality check for my high-achieving, anxious girlies in relationships with an avoidant partner… 🚨 Valentine’s Day can be a lot—especially if you’re anxiously attached and caught in the push-pull dynamic. The overthinking. The “are we okay?” spiral. The low-key panic when they don’t text back right away. Sound familiar? You’re not alone, and this episode is for YOU. 💌💡 In today’s episode we’r...

If you’re anxiously attached and dating an avoidant, you already know this relationship is basically an extreme sport. One minute, you’re feeling all the love; the next, you’re staring at your phone wondering why they haven’t texted back for seven hours (… or seven days 😅). If you’re deep in the “is this ever going to work, or am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?” spiral, this episode is f...